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Would my best friend make an ideal girlfriend?
Hi, I've been best friends with a girl since I was 3 years old and I moved away awile later but we stayed in touch pretty good. Now I am in college and we are talking every day on Messenger. I am 18 and she is 2 months younger than me. This is the first time that I have had extra feelings for her and I think I am falling in love. I'm not sure if she is feeling the same way as I am but she is sending out signals that I can't tell if she's talking to me as a friend or as a potential boyfriend. I would really like something to happen and she is coming down to the same college as I am going to next year. I'm confused on whether I should tell her now how I feel or wait. I also dont know if she would freak out or tell me she only sees me as a friend. I sort of dont want to tell her now because I dont want her to have to worry about a long term relationship or have a crappy senior year because of me. What do you think I would do? Would you freak out if you put yourself in her shoes and I told you? Sorry its so long but thank you.
Confused
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Hey Confused.
I think that you're in a tough situation, but not altogether impossible to solve. You say you have been friends for a very long time, so maybe she is feelings something for you also. Time can only tell. I think that you should wait a bit to tell her how you feel. You can lay subtle hints to her, however, don't come right out and tell her yet. She may be falling for you, but at the moment she could be confused about things - in the same way that you are. It may scare her to know that you feel strongly for her, because you have been friends for so long. Turning friendship into a relationship is hard because (as I know personally) at times you start to fear that you won't have that friendship if things don't work out. With all the stressed of senior year also, she may need a friend by her side for it. Let time run its course and watch for more signals of how she feels. Once you are almost positive that she feels for you what you do for her, then tell her.
I hope somehow I helped you. Keep in touch and let me know how things go, ok? Feel free to drop me a message if you have any more questions. <3 Samantha
ps. I hope everything works out for you two. =) Good luck!!
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