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i FEEL HOT...THEN NOT
Okay so i always like to look good. When i walk out the door i have to make sure that i'm dressed nice, my hair looks good, my make-up's alright...i want people to think i'm hot. So i always make sure i do and when i walk out of the house i feel confident. But then if i meet up w/ some girlfriends i'm constantly comparing myself to them. At the end of the day i'm convinced that i look horrible next to them and that makes me feel insecure. Does this happen to anyone else and how can i fix it?
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yes it does happen to other ppl. it happens to me a lot. but u should have confidenc in yourself and remeber that no one is better than u and u are not better than any one eles. everyone is equal. so be proud of who u r and dont care what ppl think of u its whats inside that counts.
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Well I can easily relate to this kind of issue. But I never took it to this extreme. I think you are being a bit foolish in how your taking all of this. I must agree with GhostWorld because I think he actually said it best and pretty much said all I was planning on saying. You need to realize that make up, clothes, hair do's, make up nothing of who you really are. You can plaster yourself in make up, wear the best brand of clothes out there, look absolutly gorgeous and I bet you have no personality. And it would be even worse if you acted like this but you had a wonderful personality. You need to stop being so vain. And I agree with GW when he said that your obviously just as good looking as your friends or else you wouldnt be in thier gathering. You dont need to make yourself look better than your friends bc sweetie I hate to tell you, you are not the hottest girl out in the world and I doubt you ever will be or be able to convince people of that. Clothes, make up and everything are just a mask of who you relly could be... It's all about personality and looks are just an added bonus. You need to start attracting people by your personality and actions because Im sorry... REAL guys are not gonna go for that fake britney spears look with the air headed personality next to a girl that may not be as atreactive but has the best thing going for her and thats her personality and how she is as a person because thats what makes you beautiful and what makes that make up n clothing pretty. Thats the key. thats what makes you beautiful. Not how you dress or do your make up.. but any real person would be looking more at your actions and looks and if you want people to be atracted to your looks, then your going to be very sad and end up with some superficial loser that cares nothing about you. Im sorry if I was a bit harsh but it needs to be told to you before you let it go too far. I hope it helps and I hope you can realize your a beautiful person not only on the outside... but on the inside too.
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This have never really been an issue with me because i'm not that kind of person. I'm sure you look just as good as they do.. dont worry about what other people think its not a big deal. But if you still think looking "hot" is a priority maybe try finding other friends and see if when you compaire yourself to them whos hotter... that might help... hmmm i'm just throwing answers out... sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear or i didnt help.
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Insecurity happens to the best of us. There are two ways to look it:
1) Say you're in a room with 6 of your girlfriends, and they all look amazingly beautiful (or hot), you obviously aren't the odd one out or else you wouldn't be a part of their group, so undoubtedly you are also hot/beautiful.
OR you could think of it this way: (my personal belief)
What you look like on the outside isn't nearly as important as your personality. Believe it or not, guys notice personality much more than looks. As many of my guy friends have said "Its whats inside that matters, if they look nice thats just a little lucky extra" If you ever want a relationsip that MEANS something, its much more important to be confident in your self and your personality than it is to always look hot. You can't possibly look amazing EVERYDAY but if you do your best, be confident and become comfortable with your body, I am sure it will all be better. Someday you will realize you just might be more beautiful than any of your girlfriends.
Success isn't measured in cat calls and whistles, it's measured in Confidence.
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Stop worrying about superficial nonsense and worry more about how people act and what they do. Appearance is NOT everything. By comparing yourself, you're making it into some sort of competition. What does that accomplish for you? If all this is doing is creating negative feelings inside you, then it needs to stop. Worry less about appearance and more about attitudes and actions.
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