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Thanks for your advice
Didn't know how to E-mail you so This will work.
I worry about my problem only when something bad happens Because I can tell I search myself looking for pain or sadness but I come up empty I think maybe that this was the way I was built so I could be my familys "emotinal Rock"
again thank you for your advice and if you every need any feel free to ask me
Respectfully
Jimi. A.K.A Dimitris.
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Hello Jimi, I am happy to have the chance to follow-up with you on this issue. Keep in mind, that you might have been "built this way" (as you put it) or you may have recognized a need in your family for an emotional rock and internally that is what you have become, a void you have filled, so to speak.
Being an emotional rock for you family is a huge undertaking. It's commendable and no doubt, has been appreciated by your loved ones, however, please be sure that you find outlets for yourself. Your stoicism has created a safe place for everyone else to release their grief, but you must take care of yourself as well.
Perhaps you would feel better about things if you focused on honoring your lost loved ones in your memory. I know this might sound crazy, but before you go to bed each night, you could have a conversation with your Dad and/or Brother about how things are going for you. Allow them to be there for you (in your mind) even if they can't be here for you in body. It's just a suggestion and if it seems to whacky to you then feel free to disregard it, but I feel strongly that you should find a private way to address these losses.
Being an emotional rock is a noble effort, but if it becomes a sacrifice for you and a detriment to your own emotional health then there is no shame in hanging up your superhero cape. Simply recognizing and being aware of this role you have taken on in your family is a good start in being able to watch out for indicators that it's gotten out of hand for you.
No matter what, your desire to understand yourself and your willingness to look inside are both great indicators of your emotional depth. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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