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Falling Apart
My good friend of about 3 years and I have totally been falling apart this year. We went to school together for 2 years, and then went to different schools for high school. She and her old best friend had a fight, and now I'm her best friend, but sadly, I consider her to only be one of my good friends. I've never told her where she stands with me, but she seems to know that she's not my very best friend. This year's been the worst, she thinks I've totally changed, and gotten to be this dark, depressed person, and as far as I know, I'm not. I'm different than the girl she went to school with, but can she expect me to not change in 3 years? Everyone changes. I'm afraid of losing her as a friend, but...I'm feeling like that's what will happen. She's always saying how it feels like I've "almost gone goth" on her (which I haven't) and junk, and it kind of hurts? What's wrong with accepting who I am now? It's like she can't let go of who I was, and I'm sick of it. I don't want to hurt her, but she criticizes me for little things, and follows me around, has accounts on sites after I do and stuff like that. Her writing is even starting to sound like my style. I'm sick of that, but I'm worried about her too, she's had a rough year of high school, and doesn't have many friends there. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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Okay! Woah..well 3 years isn't that much, but it's okay you guys must be pretty tight..but if she is all like 'You've gone goth' then she shouldn't be your friend if she cant accept the fact that you changed then she can't accept having you as a friend..If you wanna try to make it though with her then try to hang out more and show her your not goth..By the time you graduate high school you will go to seperate collages and you wont remeber each other, your already going to seperate high schools.. I know it's hard. Just talk to her ask her whats up and if anything has happened in her new school, if she is upset about anything, does she miss her old school? Hope everything goes well sweetie..post me back!! Rate if you'd like, I am just here to give advice - xOo Jenny
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Just keep on being her friend. If she morphs completely into you tell her to stop. No biggie. And if she can't accept change, then she won't accept anything. Change happens over 3 years! She just needs to accept who you are. And if she can't, she's not a good friend. Everyone changes. She will too.
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