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hey .. ok .. here is the thing ..i have 2 best friends.. lets call them elle and iris.. we're really close..we're in 9th grade.. in school, we usually like guys our age or 1 or 2 years older.. there's an important guy at our school and he needs a bodyguard to stay with him. my friend, elle, likes this bodyguard. not offending anyone..but, we're upper class girls and as you may imagine, not only
this guy isn't from the same socially "priviledged" class as us, but he's also around 30 years of age. this is hardly the problem, the guy stares not only at my friend, but at iris and me. iris and i have become very fearful of what this may end in. some dude used to call elle to her cel phone (without telling her who he was
and he asked her sexual things and implying stuff he shouldn't imply. she answered and took things very lightly. anyways, i asked her if she would date him if a relationship would occur (cuz she HAS NEVER had a conv. with him..!!)
she told me she would, and not only date him but have sexual intercourse with him. as you can imagine, i'm very worried because i have no idea what this pedophile freak is capable of. he looks at her with these provocating eyes and she looks back at him, responding.
i dunno what he could do to, not only her, but us. i have this feeling. i dunno if he's capable of doing something to her against her will- as in raping her. i talked to my mom and what she told me was that iris and i needed to talk to elle urgently to tell her what she could get herself into before this goes too far.
SHE TOLD ME SHE LOVED HIM. iris is talking to her mother right now to ask for advice. this is a great deal to both of us so i would REALLY appreciate your advice. thank you so much for reading this long .. thank you ..
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That's kind of...illegal. Ever hear the term "statuitory rape?" Any man at the age of 30 willing to date or have any form of sexual relations with a 13-14 year old has both mental and legal issues. The fact that she is willing to consent to this is also disturbing. Maybe she has some deep rooted family issues, what's her relationship like with her father. I'm taking a stab in the air here, but I'm willing to predict that her father either doesn't live with her or is frequently absent for work or another issue. But one thing to note is, guys do look. We're pretty much always willing to let the thought of something sexual in, even if we don't intend to do it, we're always willing to entertain a brief thought about it, however, if it was really the bodyguard that made the phone call, it would be good to stay clear of him.
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Tell her that she needs to be super carefull! She cant be totally open like that, as you mentioned. She also has to realize that she cant reallyt date a 30 year old and have sx with him b/c she would send him to jail. If it is needed, slap her. I'm serious!! **nods** you cant just let her go unchecked like that. She has to be more carefull of the freaks that live in this world!!
**_Nicole_**
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wow, that guy is way to old for your friend.. i mean you only in 9th grade..so what your 14 or 15 and he is 30..that is just way to big of an age difference..if i was in the same situation as you i would sit down and talk to my friend about what she might be getting herself into i mean he could be some kind of rapeist, you just dont know what people is capable of these days.. and he must be a pretty weird guy anyways because most 30 your old men dont look at 14 or 15 year old girls that way..thats a red light saying something must be messed up in his brain! but if i was you i would sit down and talk to your friend about what could happen!! hope that helped good luck. (let me know what happens)
xoxo Kayla
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ahh that is kinda freaky... and it's really scary when this happens.. (anything involving with stalking/raping etc) but it was a good idea to talk to your mom about this and really be able to open up to them about this
first things first --> talk to Elle and realyl try to convince her and motivate her to see the really big picture here! Rape, molesting and harrassment are NOT things to be taken lightly at all! Even one sexual unwanted encounter can destroy or change someone's life.
Also.. If Elle doesn't get the picture... inform an adult of this. IT's better to have more adults on your side incase anything does happen. Inform teachers you trust, or counselors or even church related people. Don't be embarassed about this. Your health should never ever be something to be embarassed about
And finally, what you are doing and putting up with takes a great deal of courage. No one should have the right to make you and your friend Iris feel as uncomfortable as you do. I hope that other girls that are in somewhat a similar situation as yours take takes this to mind and does something. Much luck to you three!
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