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I see a few guys in my school who look at me like theyre checking me out. We're good friends and everything, but how do i go about choosing one? I already know they like me, its blaintly obvious and ive learned to figure that out by now. But how do i know which one i should flirt with a little more, and get to know them so that we can be together?

Here's a tip: pick one that will treat you well and be there for you. All to often do girls fall for the guy who treats them poorly and will eventually have the girl questioning themselves, what they did wrong, etc. They think that they can make him change his ways: they can't. Girls often ask, "Why can't I find the right guy?" The answer is simple: that guy is always right infront of you, but is rejected because he is actually genuine, sincere, and kind. You view him as a friend and let go of the fact that he can be more and will still be kind of you. It seems that girls would rather pick the guy who can "spit game" instead of picking the one who is his himself and won't have you guessing at what kind of person he is, as it's right on the table from the beginning.

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hey is the thing i have really pretty face but i am kinda chunky. and when i am drivin around in my truck all these guys look at me and wave etc. and then at school i don't get many looks. like 2day there was this one guy that goes 2 my school that i don't think ever really notices me ( and i kinda like him now) but when i was goin 2 my friends house he saw me and wave and smiled and stared as i went by. the thing is since i kinda like him so i talk 2 him in school cuz idk if he relises i am the same person or not, or just wait for him 2 talk 2 me and how can i get more guys 2 like me for who i am and not my body? thanks alot for any help

Pics? Gym/diet: since you already have a pretty face, you already have a headstart.

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hey .. ok .. here is the thing ..i have 2 best friends.. lets call them elle and iris.. we're really close..we're in 9th grade.. in school, we usually like guys our age or 1 or 2 years older.. there's an important guy at our school and he needs a bodyguard to stay with him. my friend, elle, likes this bodyguard. not offending anyone..but, we're upper class girls and as you may imagine, not only
this guy isn't from the same socially "priviledged" class as us, but he's also around 30 years of age. this is hardly the problem, the guy stares not only at my friend, but at iris and me. iris and i have become very fearful of what this may end in. some dude used to call elle to her cel phone (without telling her who he was
and he asked her sexual things and implying stuff he shouldn't imply. she answered and took things very lightly. anyways, i asked her if she would date him if a relationship would occur (cuz she HAS NEVER had a conv. with him..!!)
she told me she would, and not only date him but have sexual intercourse with him. as you can imagine, i'm very worried because i have no idea what this pedophile freak is capable of. he looks at her with these provocating eyes and she looks back at him, responding.
i dunno what he could do to, not only her, but us. i have this feeling. i dunno if he's capable of doing something to her against her will- as in raping her. i talked to my mom and what she told me was that iris and i needed to talk to elle urgently to tell her what she could get herself into before this goes too far.
SHE TOLD ME SHE LOVED HIM. iris is talking to her mother right now to ask for advice. this is a great deal to both of us so i would REALLY appreciate your advice. thank you so much for reading this long .. thank you ..

That's kind of...illegal. Ever hear the term "statuitory rape?" Any man at the age of 30 willing to date or have any form of sexual relations with a 13-14 year old has both mental and legal issues. The fact that she is willing to consent to this is also disturbing. Maybe she has some deep rooted family issues, what's her relationship like with her father. I'm taking a stab in the air here, but I'm willing to predict that her father either doesn't live with her or is frequently absent for work or another issue. But one thing to note is, guys do look. We're pretty much always willing to let the thought of something sexual in, even if we don't intend to do it, we're always willing to entertain a brief thought about it, however, if it was really the bodyguard that made the phone call, it would be good to stay clear of him.

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Okay...I feel really stupid for asking but most of my friends have kissed someone before. I havent. I havent even held hands with a boy. Im really really shy tho. I could hold hands and kiss boys because lots of boys like me...but Im waaay too shy and i dont know how to kiss!! and most of the guys i like kno i havent kissed no 1 before. ive had offers lol and i can anytime..but im too shy and i think i will do something wrong. i mean how do u know if they just want 2 kiss for like a sec or make out for like 15 secs? help me plz..

Have sex, that's what all the cool kids do. You want to be cool don't you? Succombing to your peers is always the easy thing to do, being yourself, however, is the thing which would seperate you from the flock. Why would you want to be part of the dozen that only costs a dime? It is being true to yourself which is truly respectable.

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My boyfriend told me he didn't love me but he likes me alot. He doesn't know that I love him and he keeps trying to get me to tell him but I wont, I think he's guessed. I just want to cry, I knew he didn't love me but when he told me it just made everything 10 times worse. I really love him, what shall I do?

Take it to the mattresses. What's this mean, you may ask. Well, take revenge upon him. How may this be accomplished? Make him jealous; once he becomes jealous, he will seriously reconsider the relationship and think about what you truly mean to him. As the saying goes, "He'll only miss you once you're gone." What's a better way to accomplish this then pretending to be with someone else? I'm available for all banging out services which you may require. I may not be that hot, but hey...it will only make him further infuriated and make him contemplate it even more ;).

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