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Me and my bf have been together since april but were close friends since june'03. My mum met him Sept'03. Everything was good. She liked him a lot. They would get on really well. Then in April I told her me and him were going out. Her attitude turned completely. She wont talk to him when he comes round. She says hes wrong for me and she says she can see straight thru him and tell that he has a bad character. They have argued. He wont come round anymore so Im usually not at home coz Im with him. She keeps saying 'I bet you're having sex.' Just like that, really spitefully. She keeps making comments. She says if I dont break it up she will. She says stuff about the country he is from even tho my dad is from that country. My dad gets on with him even tho my mum says it hurts him to see me with 'that boy'. My little brother doesnt like him coz my mum says that he makes me cry.
Anyway both my boyfriend and my mum say bad stuff about eachother. My boyfriend says he hates her and makes fun of her. All the stuff they are saying to me is hurting me inside because they are both ppl I care deeply for and are important to me. Its making me really unhappy. I havent really showed it to them. I have only metioned it to them once each. They both said stop feeling sorry for yourself. My mum says if youre so unhappy with him then break up with him. When I told my bf he said sort it out with her. I dont know what to do. Im really unhappy.
18/f/UK
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Your mom sounds really....just....augh. So she liked him before you started going out? Peh. She's probably just afraid to lose you. And what's this about making fun of his country? That's just wrong, and so is her little breaking up of your relationship.
I don't think it's your boyfriend you should be unhappy with. If it were me, I'd be disappointed in my mom, and I'd tell her.
Listen. She's had her life, now you have to have yours. She's cheating because she's trying to get up in your business and actually have two.
She seems really paranoid. Talk it out with her. If she won't listen, I say run away and leave her to her own life. She'll realize without you it's very small.
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I suggest that you get together with your dad and have a chat with him about how you feel uncomfortable with the way that your mother & him don't get on. Then, maybe ask him to help you get your boyfriend & your mum in the same room, so you can talk things out; clear the air, and the like.
With some luck, they will sort out their differences; or agree to disagree.
I hope this helps!
- Amizzle
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I think you need to have a family meeting with your mother, father, and your brother . Get all the issue's out about your boyfriend and everything . Maybe you should take this boyfriend of yours to this meeting because, I understand that he has some dirty laundry that he airs about your mother . At this meeting , facts will probably set straight, and there's always a possibility of things not working out as well planned as it may be. Go one at a time . Start with one problem that the person may have with the other, and make ways to solve the problem . Communication is the only way I can see this problem getting solved and their maybe some compromises . You'll feel better about it though. I don't know how or why I know this but I think you will . I hope I was some help, and have a nice day . Good luck .
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well get them together one day and tell them that you are sick and tired of hearing them talk about each other to you. tell them to stop. let them know how it makes you feel. That is hurts inside because you care about the both of them alot. It sounds like both your mother and your boyfriend are being inscure and really disrespectful to you. And if the both of them care about you they should take what you tell them to heart. Tell them to atleast try and make an effort to get along. I hope this helps and Good Luck!
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It sounds like both your mom and your BF are being very disrespectful towards you!! You should tell each of them that it makes you feel bad and that you do not appreciate it at all. And maybe sit them all down and have a nice little chit chat! You are 18 you are an adult and you can do w/e you want!
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What you need to do, is sit them down together, and have a talk. Ask you mother, to tell your boyfriend, what she thinks about him. And ask your boyfriend to say the same about your mother.
Then, when they're talking bad, say, "Okay, mom, why do you think my boyfriend is so bad? What has he done to be so bad" And then to your Boyfriend say "Okay, why do you think my mom is this" ect, ect.
Then, when you've gotten some answers out of them, tell them calmly that you're not going to let them screw up your judgement about the other person. Tell your mom, that if your boyfriend is so bad, you'll figure out yourself, and that she should respect your judgement.
Good luck, dear.
AskMegan
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Oh yeah, UK..reminds me I gotta do my homework haha
Anyway, I think you should talk to your boyfriend. Be like things you say about my mom really hurts me, so could you keep those comments to yourself. Maybe your dad can convince your mom? Whatever you do, dont break up with him. Your 18, do what you want. Or maybe you guys can have dinner together and talk about it like adults. I hope I helped..ohhh and do you have a english accent? I have a fake one cuz i used to love spice girls and I wanted to talk just like them...haha anyway..good luck!
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