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Hi well here goes ive been going out with my girfreind or should i say ex for about 2 years i love her to death and she the same but her parents didnt know and she didnt want to do anythink behind there backs so she wanted to break up till we told her parents ( btw she lives in egypt im in england...long distance relationship) so after my summer in egypt i got to know her mum we got on quite well i talked to her alot she seemed to like me, she came to my gf and said i dnt want u fallin in love with him blablablabla all thes stupid reasons. my gf respects her mum and loves her very much (like we all do or most of us do)so we thought we would wait till we are old enuf for marriage (21) then start a serious argument for our rite to be together, well again her mum sees the telephone bill comes up and says its either your mum and dad or him well she chose her parents ovibously shes not allowed to contact me but we found ways and we are still like madly madly in love in seperable so we still just feel we are stuck and well we wont ever fall in love wid someone else.... so are we stuck in a dead end relationship?(what do i do?)
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An age would have helped me, but I'll try my best.
First off, you guys should have got some phone cards in order to call each other, so that her parents wouldn't be able to complain about the bill.
Her mother seems to be a lot like mine, and many other girls mother's. No one is going to be good enough for her daughter. She doesn't want her to fall in love and get hurt.
She's seems to be quite protective, a bit over protective maybe. I don't think you should think of it as being stuck in a dead end relationship. As much as she loves her parents, they will have to let go of her eventually. You two just need to make them realize that your not rushing into love. As you get older it's going to be easier to keep in contact, but you shouldn't hide it from her parents forever.
I think it's wrong that they made her choose. Maybe there's an underlying reason that they did that, but from what you've told me you two seem more mature about the situation than most people, regardless of age.
Maybe this is mostly in your girlfriend's hands. She needs to get to her mother and maker her realize that she really does love you and vice versa. I can't really say how she would do that, she would be able to find out easier since she knows her mother and how she thinks. Find out what exactly is bothering her mom about you two being together and find out ways to make her realize that she doesn't have to be scared about the situation. Maybe bring up something about how her daughter (your girlfriend) learned how to be strong and take care of herself from her mom, so she has nothing to worry about.
As time goes by, you two will be able to assess the situation differently. In two more years, do you think you will be just as madly in love? Is it worth this time of hiding from her parents to possibly spend the rest of your life with someone that your madly in love with? I don't think your stuck in a dead end relationship. A relationship that can make it through everything that you two have been through deserves to make it.
You should talk to your girlfriend about this. Talk about the good things, and see if she wants to go on with the relationship. You two seem like you've already thought about the future, now you have to think about it more.
Just take the relationship as far as it can go with you both still happy in it.
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