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I am new to this whole sex thing.. And I am noty really sure what I am supposed to do. I kno they say girls sceam and moan, but yeah. I am shy and I don't wanna mess anything up... But I don't wanna just lay there. What should I do??
- Confused Loser-
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If you're unsure about what you're supposed to be doing, don't even have sex. You should wait until you're older. You sound young.
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definitely wait until you're ready, then join the club of awkward "what the hell should I do" moments.
first time is like a trainwreck, so bad, but you can't look away... its just one of those do whatever you feel like doing moments. one chick I was with just laid there, and I was kinda put off, until she came all of a sudden and covered me in chick spooge(she was a squirter). don't worry, you'll get the hang of it after a while, its just going to be a fun ride until then.
-gunner
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If you're feeling shy and confused and scared, you might want to wait to have sex. The best time to have it is with someone who makes you feel very comfortable and loved, who you trust and who arouses you.
When you're aroused, you don't worry at all about what you're doing. You just go with the flow and enjoy yourself.
If you're worried about what kind of performance the guy will expect, you're not having sex for the right reasons. It's supposed to be not just an act of love between two people, it's supposed to be for you to totally enjoy yourself.
Maybe other girls are having sex at your age, 14, but I know I wasn't. I waited till I was 18. And you know what? I am SO happy I did. No one ever looks back and wishes they'd started having sex sooner. The older you are when you start, the better it feels, the more confident you are about it, the more exiting it is, the happier you are...
Use this time to get comfortable with your body. Masturbate, get a vibrator or something and learn your body's sexual responses, teach yourself to orgasm. THEN, believe you me, sex will be happy time and "what am I supposed to do?" won't even cross your mind. I promise.
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