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Okay i have my bf of 4 years you all know this if you answerd one of my questions before and all but anyway...
I love him to death but there are times where he really frustrates me like today he wanted to see me and i had things to do and same with yesterday hes like you made plans with me and i never did hes really bad at forgetting things too...but he gets really selfish on things all the time like wanting too see me..well me i have dance and soccer practice and house stuff that i do all the time and i still try and make time for him but when i have littel things that come up he gets pissed when i think that he should really just understand that these things can come up...What advice would you give me to give him beside the things i already say to him like love goes fonder when not together i mean yeah you miss the person but for me i love him more nd more every second and everything and there are times when i like to just be by myself in my room and not have him here...what do you think i should tell him besides the things that i already tell him?
-Cassi-
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Four years is a long time to be in a relationship, and all relationships are going to take work. Because you have demanding hobbies such as dance and soccer, he might just be immature enough to get jealous of those activities, because you aren't spending time with <i> him</i>. Let him know you care about him, but these activities are things you will not give up. Tell him you'll set aside a certain time each day, maybe - to talk to him on the phone or hang out. Let him know you care, but that you want to do <i> all </i> the things that make you happy, including seeing him. You're still two separate people, and you both should be able to spend time apart without it being an issue.
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uve ben togethr for fourr years..thats crazii lol well it sounds lik ur realli in luv .. and hes lik obsessed with you..which can get annoyen and lik selfish on his part..but lik you shud b happi that u hav someone that luvs you and not always wna spend time apart..xplain to him that shit happens and things cum up but ur gna do ur best to see him and to try n spend time wit him..but him getten mad wont solve ne thing..and realli try to make time for him so u can b wit him more..bcuz just for u bein away frum him that makes u luv him more or w/e that duznt meen it wrks for him mayb he needs to b around u to luv u more..ya nvr knoe..hope i helped . . KaT *
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Sounds like he is really selfish. Tell him that you do need sometime for everything in your life.. sports, chores etc. If he really loves you, he should respect that and hopefully he will understand. Everyone needs alone time every once in a while. Maybe some of the time between those things, take a breather. After that you will feel better and stress will be somewhat releived. If he gets angry with you more and more, or if things get worst, tell him how you feel! Dont be afraid to say exactly whats going on your mind. 4 years is a long time, I am sure both of you are willing to do anything to work it out.
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4 years! Tell the control freak goodbye or you will be miserable forever. If he won't respect your time or "forgets," then he should be a little less selfish, and let you have the time you need. I would consider a "break" with him at the least. You are in danger of being horded to himself so that you don't even have room to breathe.
******Whatever. I wasted 5 years of my life on a guy, and I didn't want you to do the same.
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