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advice about break ups
Hey.. I need some advice about break ups. I had been dating this guy for a while until he decided to break up with me for the summer. That caused a lot of drama and bruised the relationship. We've been acting like we are going out all summer but things have just gotten worse. I finally called him last night and I told him he had to decide either he wanted me or he didn't want me. I told him I was tired of how he calls me and such when it's convienant for him. And how he expects me to just act like we are going out. And he decided and siad let's just be friends. I told him it just doesn't work that way. It hurts way too much to be friends maybe later down the road... I didn't think it'd hurt but it does. I know I am going to be okay and I will move on and stuff but I don't know how to cope with it. I don't know what to do to keep my mind at ease and help me get over it besides time.. Do you know of anything that could help me cope with this and take my mind off of it? I am known to take months to over guys cause I don't know quite what to do. Thanks bunches :)
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I say hangout with friends, friends always make everything better and they're always there =)
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Damn you really do need to forget about this guy. You should hang out with your girls and just talk about how you feel. Write about your feelings too. It sounds gay but it reallly helps! You could also try and look for other guys and I'm sure when you find another one and see how much better he treats you you'll tottaly forget about him. But i woudl wait awhile to get another one. Dont worry, It mite b hard, but you'll get over him. Good luck!! xox Jenny
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Start doing things you didnt do while you were in the relationhip. EX. Hang out a lot with friends and enjoy you freedom. Believe me soon you'll forget about him.
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Aww, honey...that guy sounds kind of assholeish. It is hard to get over a guy, in general. Don't expect to be over him fast.
I had my heart stomped on - let myself like the guy too much, got flat dumped - and it took me...three or four months to get over him, but I was totally over him then. Here's what I did:
I wrote hate letters to him, telling him what an ass he was, but never sent them. I also wrote bad poetry about how much he'd hurt me. I did a lot of stream-of-consciousness writing (where you put your pen to the paper and write whatever comes to your mind - don't stop writing for ten minutes or however long you wanna write for). I printed out all our AIM conversations and shredded them into confetti.
I also spent a lot of time with my friends, who helped me rant about how stupid he was for dumping me, and things like that.
If you need someone to talk to about this, my s/n is SirenCytherea.
Hope this helped!
-Siren =)
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Hey babe.. sorry about the situation. But theres not much you really can do. "Do not cry because it is over, smile because it happened." I know that you've probably seen that quote, but now I want you to actually think about it. You guys probably had totally awesome times together! Its alright to remember those, but dont get totally caught in the past. You need to move on.. things WILL get better I swear! Hey- sooner or later you're gonna meet an amazing guy! But for now to keep your mind off the pain, try taking up a new hobby or playing a new sport. Whenever I am down and I need to get my mind off things, I go for a run or work-out. I hope things get better for you real soon.. but remember that everything happens for a reason- and even if something bad happens, something good will come out of it. Good luck hun! ;-)
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Do somethin that takes ur mind TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY off of guyz ... even if its just for a day cuz chances r if u can not think bout him for just one day ... u can do it for 2 or 3 or 4 or 5 and so on till u could care less if ur friends or not!! do something out of the ordinary...go bungee jumpin or sumthin...concqure a fear of urs...or do sumthin totally xtreem that u would normally not do cuz that will definately get ur mind off of him...n if ya don't think about him thats a pretty good way of gettin over a break up...and coping w/ it...hope i helped!!
<3xxx Karen xxx<3
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