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i hate her b/f
ok me and my best friend have been best friends for about 2 years now. During the first year of our friendship she had a crush on this guy and ugly guy who she thinks is hot. On the last day of school that same year he asked her out and they have been going out for over a year. The next year it got worse. her boyfriend was nice to me at first but then he started to kick me and say mean things to me.Later on in the year i could start telling that my so called best friend was getting jealous of me because i had nicer clothes, more friends and had been asked out 6 times and had alot of people thinking i was hot while she was asked out once and only her boyfriend thought she was hot. She startes takeing his side over mine and would never stand up to me. When i started to hang out more and more with my neighbors she got even more jealous i started hanging out more with another friend and we are now best friends. she doesn't rly know about it yet. she keeps sending me letters and asking me over but she never calls me. i want to let her go and not be best friends w. her anymore b/c i can't be friends w. someone whos b/f hates me!!!
help!!!
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* MaCky*
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I know just the thing to say!! First off, people are gonna be jealous of you, no matter what, but some of the things she is doing is not "best friend" like. She has a reason to be jealous, obviously, but choosing her boyfriend over you because of it is just wrong! If she was your best friend, she'd get over her jealousy and still keep in touch with you. Second off, if she was ever your best friend in the first place, she wouldn't be putting her boyfriend ahead of you. If he disrespected you .. she would leave him in a heart beat!! I say you break it to her that she hasn't been a real best friend to you, and you've moved on, just like you should have!! =]
P.S. - You did nothing wrong hun, don't blame it on yourself, I totally believe where you're coming from!!
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Okay, the boyfriend thing might be an issue, but if it is have her spend time with him when your not with her so you and him dont have to be around each other. If she is jealous then maybe it would help to include her, or do something that wouldn't make her jealous. Spend tme with her, call her, etc. so she doesn't feel left out and maybe her jealousy will go away.You shouldnt throw away a friendship just because you and her boyfriend don't get along, especially if she was a good friend!
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Just because you and her boyfriend don't get along, doesn't mean you can't be friends with her. Try just hanging out with her, and only her, not with her boyfriend. Also her boyfriend could just be jealous that she hangs out with you sometimes too and not just him all the time. But don't lose your best friend over a guy.. cuz if hes a jerk to you then hes not worth it!! If your friend is jealous about you having other friends, she probably feels like shes being replaced, And trust me, thats not a nice feeling. Talk to her about it! Hope I helped!!
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woa that sounds really bad im sorry her bfs a jerk. the only thing u can really do about this is talk to her about it. make her sit down and listen to what u have to say just the two of you and tell her everything thats on ur mind. maybe u guys can work something out, but if not and u just want to drop the friendship..tell her that. tell her that her bf is a jerk to you and she makes u feel bad and u found another friend who u have a lot of fun with and that u just dont want to hang out with her anymore. i think it sounds easy but its probly gonna be a little difficult, so i hope it works out for you, good luck.
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