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Boyfriend and Friend Conflicts.... help!!!
alright so i've been dating this guy for a little under 2 mos, but i can already tell that he's more special than anyone else i've ever dated before... but theres a problem. let me tell you a story first:
i got a job closer in town (i live in the suburbs) and i moved in w/ my grandma for june because i wouldn't have been able to commute to work in june. i happened to move in 5 minutes away from my boyfriend, but i lived 20 minutes away from all my other friends from school, and i couldn't spend time w/ them as often as i did with him because 1. i live closer to him and dont have time to commute after work and 2. they never too the initiative to ask me to do something... they just assumed i would if i wanted to. and i did want to do stuff w/ them really badly on the weekends (cz i moved back to the burbs on the weekends). Towards the end of June a few of them started getting mad at me because i was supposedly spending all my free time w/ my boyfriend, when i only saw him at church on sunday and maybe twice during the week.
well, i got the argument with my friends settled, but the way they settled it was that i had to do stuff with them w/o my boyfriend, and that really hurts him. it's basically like they're saying to him "we're more important to her than you are" or "we want to split yall up" when i know they dont mean either, but he's still really mad and upset about it. is there any advice you can give me on this subject??? i just wish that my boyfriend and my friends could get along.
btw: i dont go by the motto "Chicks before d!cks" because my boyfriend is also one of my best friends and it'd still be like ditching a friend if i went off to do alot of stuff w/o him.
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to me it seems that your friends are a little jealous of your relationship.. their jealousy is based on their own insecurities so you can't get mad at them, but you need to explain to them that you need to spend time with your boyfriend just as much as you need to spend time with them.. also explain that the only reason why you spend more time with him is because he's convenient and tell them that if they want to hang out with you that bad, they can make the effort to come + see you.. explain that although you value their friendship, you value your relationship, too and if they were good friends at all they wouldn't make you choose.. good luck, i hope i helped <3 christina
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hi, well tell ur friends how u feel bout him...n how special he is to u...n how much u care...n how much u cant stand being away from him...n how u wish that them n him got along n everything...i bet they'll understand if they're tru friends...i mean my gurls always understand me...y wouldnt urs?!?!/ n yes i dont go wit that motto either cuz mah baby its one of the best friends ever...i could talk to him bout anything...so i totally understand u:) just try wut i told u...if it dont work i'm sorry but ur friends aint tru ones :)) or they need to grow up n understand things better...tell them to put them selves in ur shoes ;) xoxo effy
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Make them hang out together.. I dunno there really isnt much you can do, just try to explain to your friends that reason or something...
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