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this is jazi14 and i am on smilihunz sn and my cuzin has a ?. she wants to know what 2 do about this prob she is having. see here is the thing.....she likes guys and she thinks she likes gurls..what should she do? she is worried that if she says somthin to her friend that they will not like her and she is only in the 7th grade. she said that she has had lots of boyfriends but yet she finds gurls attractive. what should she do? she does not have one of this things so she asked me to do it for her.... so can u give me some advise to give ti her @ jazi14 thanxs my cux really would like yo help.
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I don't think she should say anything to her friends until she's completely ready. High school is really hard, and it will be even harder if some immature teenagers decide that they want to make fun of her because of her sexual orientation.
That said, if her friends are good friends then it shouldn't matter whether she's gay, bi, or straight. It's good that she has you to talk to about this, since she doesn't think anyone else would accept her. Just let her know that it's no big deal and you'll love her no matter what. To bad her friends couldn't be more accepting.
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well being that she is soo young i dont know if she completely knows what she is thinking so many things run through your mind when your young and so dont really think to much of it and as for telling the friends... i dont think she should tell them because this could just be a trick her mind is playing with her but maybe if she keeps getting these thoughts for like... a few yrs from now then maybe she is... but are you sure she doesnt find girls just pretty? check that-trix
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There's are a lot of lines you have to draw when it comes to sexuality. First of all, you should let your cousin know that not everyone is 100% straight. It is possible to be turned on by the opposite sex without necessary having any feelings towards them. If your cousin DOES have feelings towards these girls, then she may be bisexual or a lesbian (I just assumed bisexual because you mentioned her liking guys). If your cousin thinks that she is bisexual/a lesbian, she doesn't have to tell anyone if she doesn't want to. For most people, it's liberating to get the truth about their sexual preferences out there, but let's not fool ourselves into thinking that some aren't prejudice against people that prefer the same sex. Being 12-13 years old, it's easy to understand that no-one is sure of what they really want. Most are experimental for this very reason in hopes that the answer will make itself clear through such practices. Your cousin is very young and she shouldn't have to feel that she needs to be straight to keep the respect of her pal. If this friend of hers is a good person, then she will look past her feelings regarding the same sex (assuming she does have them) and be supportive of your cousin's decision. Hopefully this helped you out a bit =)
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Ok well shes in the 7th grade and a lot of girls in the 5th-around like end of 6th start of 7th dont know what they want or what their sexuality is and what not. And I know that if you here someones like bisexual or lesbian or gay or something at that age everyone puts up a wall and are totally rude about it. This is really shitty advice but maybe she should hold off telling her little girly friends from school her feelings if shes unsure if shes bisexual or not. Wish you cousin luck for me!
-Holly-
Hope I helped somewhat
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If your cousin is only looking at these girls as attractive and nothing more,she's not bisexual. But if she is looking at these girls in a sexual way,then it's possible. Tell her you can talk to your friends about it,if they're your friends,they won't bash you. Don't view bisexuality as being shameful,even if you were raised as a devout Christian and all that. If that's how you are,that's how you are. Hope I helped,Kevin.
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hey i think ur cuz is a lesbian and theres nothing wrong with that she should try to stay foscuted on guys and when she's out of school go for the girls cuz she will get made fun of and she won't that at all and if she's really into girls then she might want to go to a lesbo bar. and maybe she can get a lesbo dog and that might cheer her up
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jazi i know how hard it may be for ur cuz but if she likes gurls then thats her choce. to hell about what other ppl think.
love andrew
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