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Im 13 and female ...One of my best friends, Haley has pretty much ditched me and the other people that she and I hung out with all 6th grade and the beggining to middle of 7th for the so called "popular" group. All of her true friends (not them) realize how much she doesn't fit in with them. You see she is a crazy outgoing girl especially in a crowd and is always really funny and its natural she really doesn't have to try. But the girls she's trying really hard to fit in with aren't crazy at all or at least in public. I've heard from a few people that when she's not around they talk behind her back and say she's annoying and always follows them around. She stopped sitting with us at lunch and her boyfriend who's one of the sweetest guys you'd ever meet. Then she had promised our friend Alyssa that she'd get ready for every school dance with her that year but the last dance of the year the semi-formal she was invited to one of the "popular" people's houses and then that night she dumped her boyfriend in the middle of the dance and had told all them before telling us. The "popular" girls aren't even that popular anymore I moved here in 6th grade and wass told they were the ones all the guys liked but this past year only a few guys liked them and mostly everyone hated them and thought they were rich snobs. Like one of them will only talk to u in a high pitched sweet sounding voice and u have to talk her the same way or she wont respond. I got in a fight with them cause they said one of my best friends Tori, who was having an asthma attack at a party, made herself pass out cause the 8th graders at our scchool had started doing that. So Haley took their side when they started talking behind mine and tori's backs after i yelled at them for making up rumors about how much we hate them. What should i do about Haley?
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wow sweetheart, sounds like things have been crazy! anyways..Haley is just going through changes thats all..she feels the need to hang out with the populars because she wants to be popular herself..let he do what she wants. I know this is hurting you and your group and even her ex-bf..but you just need to let her make her own mistakes and choices for now. 6th-7th and even 8th grade is a learning experience and growing one that really turns people into strangers! Believe me, in 7th grade I thought I would be cool if I hung out with this certain group of girls..I ditched all my friends and hung out with them..turns out we're not even friends anymore and I made alot of bad choices when I hung out with them because of the influences they had upon me. Anyways, right now just let Haley be where she is. When the time is right (and you'll know it) ask her if you two can talk. And when you two talk tell her how you really feel, and the changes you have seen since she has started hanging out with this new group of girls. More than likely she isnt going to take it very well, (I know I didnt) but its something she needs to hear. If all of her old best friends come to her and tell her exactly how they feel adn how much you miss her being with you guys then it will really make her think about her situation and such. (I know I did!) How your putting things, it seams like there is a whole lot of crap going on..keep your head up and think positive. Really, things do get ALOT better in High School..everyone grows up and realizes their mistakes. Until then, stay positive and keep on trying and be the good friend you are. (You reallie sound like an awesome friend, she reallie is lucky to have someone that cares that much about her)
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