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should i leave him?
okay..well me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 9 months now..and hes had a lot happen in his life lately (parents divorce and stuff)..but hes been takin' it out on me..and he'll promise me something and then break it saying he cant bc hes too upset..but he only says it when he doesnt feel like hanging out..and it really upsets me bc he lies a lot..should i break up with him or what?? i need HELP!
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No you are doing nothing wrong, these kind of things take time. When he is good and ready he will talk, but until then hang in there. And right now he needs a gf, so whatever you do, DO NOT BRAKE UP! maybe say ________ (his name) can we talk and if he says nothing, say i am here to help, still nothing, I love you and i want to be there for you. You know you can tell me anything, asnd i can help, and if nothing, tell him maybe about this website and say talktotay. and masybe he will talk.
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Yes you should break up with him. You aren't doing anything wrong, in fact you've done everything you should by being there for him and trying to help him figuring things out. But in the words of my father, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink." You don't deserve to be lied to or made to feel like you're doing something wrong. Really, what this sounds like is him trying to hold control over something in his life and it happens to be you. My advice to you is to break it off with him, because he's in no emotional state to be dating someone and you shouldn't have to put up with someone who can't tell you the truth.
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i think you should tell him to try to work out hes problems maybe he should see a counsler
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It depends what you are looking for in this relationship. If it was never too serious and you don't know where the relationship is headed, maybe it would be a good time to take a break so he can figure out some things in his life. Becuase currently it doesn't look like he has the ability to be a partner in a relationship.
If it is serious, and you see a future with this guy, then stick out this rough patch with him and be supportive. But for now don't expect too much in return.
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honey you are doing nothing wrong! and it is soooo hard to put soo much effort into something and have it not work out. i understand that.
really you have to make a list of pros and cons of staying with him.. be totally honest down the the last detail.. add em up and see if somehow for some reason on list is longer and more detailed then another.. go with that!
~*~Cassie~*~
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Sounds like he is somewhat abusing and using you. He's being selfish, and it seems like it is only bringing you down. As harsh as it may seem, the best lesson he might be able to learn is you dropping him. You can perhaps still be his friend, but don't let him think of himself as your boyfriend anymore. You are better off right now without a burden like that. He needs to sort out his life on his own - he has no time for a relationship, since he is only abusing it.
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Did you ever talk to him about how you feel? No one is allowed to do that to you, no matter how "upset" they get. let him know that you don't like the way he treats you, even though you understand that he's going through some stuff. if he can't simply understand that [by saying "If you loved me you'd understand, blah blah blah, etc."] then I think it's time to find a better boyfriend.
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