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'evil' step mom
okay last year my dad got married to this girl and was all totally stressing. Today their still married and hes still totally stressing all the time. She freaks out at him over nothing and thats wierd cause' she only talks when shes mad at people. One time my dad paid for one semester of my brothers college and she flipped and carved a.s.s. into the side of his car. She has 3 kids ages 2,4,and 6 and my dad is always watching them while she does 'other things' which none of us know what they are... On the way to my dads wedding my brother and I had to seperate them bcuz they were in a huge fight and the day after their wedding she got mad at me for forgetting to tell her there was a message on the anwsering machine and she called my own mom a really bad word that i wont put on here.. Anyone know why my dad isnt like trying to fix this or something? Im sure my dad knows how much this sucks.. What can I do??
15 female
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It sounds like your dad is afraid of your step mom. She can't come into your family and take over your dad. he needs to stand up for himself. And if anyone ever called my mom a bad name they wouldn't ever be talking again. You don't want your dad to be divorced again but sometimes thats the thing to do if he is suffering.
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The point of a marriage is to create a loving union where all people involved can communicate freely and enjoy each other. Just from what you have said, your father's marriage is not healthy. It seems to me that maybe your stepmother put some pressure on your dad to get married in the first place. Now she appears to be trying to control everything that he does, which won't work because he obviously had a life before she came into the picture. Maybe now he feels like he is stuck. You are now in a very uncomfortable situation because you can see what is going on, but because you are young, your input may not be accepted graciously. Have you tried to sit down with your dad and talk to him about this? He may be willing to hear what you have to say. Tell him you are concerned by your stepmother's behavior and you can see that he is not happy. Tell him that something has to change because the situation is involving a lot of people, not just him and her. He needs to step up here and confront her instead of just letting it happen. It takes two people to make a marriage work and a marriage is not going to work if both people cannot communicate effectively. The problem is between your father and stepmother, but unfortunately, you and your siblings are stuck in the middle. Your stepmother has a lot of issues that she needs to deal with and she is not handling herself in an adult way. I think that it is up to your dad to draw the line and say that this has gone far enough. If you are strong and can talk to your dad openly, then that may be the push he needs to start the healing process. Good luck.
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If you aren't too scared by your step mother, you should sit her down and tell her to cool it because shes making your family very unhappy, if she doesn't loosen up talk to your dad and tell him he shouldn't take it and that there should be decision of divorce very soon because he doesn't need that stress at all.
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