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husband is emotionally abusive
I recently got married and ny husband has been emotionally and financially abusive. For example...I was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome and he has not been helping me out. He says he doesn't care how I feel and to suck it up. He does not pay the bills and we have shut off notices for the electric, phone, and cable. Yet he won't allow me to take over the finances. He goes out and spend the money on himself and playing poker. He took a trip ti Atlantic City without me and spent all of our money. We aren't able to buy groceries even. He yells at me to get a job. But with my medical conditions I am not able to work plus with having three kids under 5 years old...I wouldn't even make enough to cover daycare. He constantly calls me names and criticizes me, underminds my parenting in front of the kids, gets in my face and acts like he is going to hit me just to make me flinch. He calls me fat and ugly and worthless and thats just the nicer words he uses. Why did he marry me if he thought those things about me? I can't live like this any more! I am severly depressed and I am gonna end up in the hospital soon if he doesn't start to help out more with the kids. Just recently he took my wedding ring and engagment ring and throw them out the car window and told me he wants a divorce. We've only been married for a month and a half! What do I do!?
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Leave.
You don't deserve that abuse. Due to the fact that you're in a serious health condition, take a break from dating, etc. and make your whole life your children and getting well again.
Good luck to you, and pray for your ex so that he get some help...he seems pretty much like he's not worth much at all.
xoxo,
Marisa. (xxgorgeouslyjealous)
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you dont need that abuse, there is too many places you can go to for help. you dont let a man treat you that way, u take your kids and dont look back, walk away with your dignity, b/c ur kids are going to see how he acts and end up just like him and you dont want them to be like that when they get older. do you have any family members you can go to for help. you can b on welfare for a while if that is what it takes just to help you get on your feet. just divorce him and get out..of that relationship
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Leave him and go on wellfare. Scince you have more kids they will give you more money. Take him to court and tell the judge that he is abusive. And want custody over your children with visitation. Most likely though they will give him custody because he has the job and give you visitation. But what ever you do i wish you big luck. I hope iv helped you a little if you have any more questions on what i wrote or need any more advice write back.
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Short N Punky
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You definitely should divorce him, he is abusive. Find an agency for abused women and ask for advice. There are numbers in the front of the phone book. He doesn't have to hit you to be abusive. I know having health problems makes living difficult, but living in this situation is for worse for you and your children.
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Your children should be your first priortiy, NO MATTER WHAT!! If you can get your husband into family counseling, do it. If he's not willing to hear your plea for help and support then you need to get out. Your daughters will end up marrying men like this and your sons will end up being men like this. You want neither of those prophecies to be realized. Get your barings under you and try to be strong, find a support system away from your house, whether it be family, friends, a support group, whatever it takes to maintain your strength long enough to help ensure your and your children's emotional securtiy and well-being.
No one deserves to be abused, your rights and desires are just as important as his. You have to believe that. But first and foremost, your children do not have the ability to take care of themselves, you have to do it. You are their mommy, the number one person in the world to them. Let them know, through your actions, that no matter what you have to go through, they will always be protected.
If he ever hits you or your children, you run, fast and hard. Have him arrested, press charges. You are NOT worthless, you have all of the power in the world, you just have to use it. Please, save yourself and your children. You all deserve a chance. Good Luck.
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Well first of all, no one should be treated the way you are being treated. It's abuse! You have probably heard this many many times, but you need to get out of the relationship asap or someone could get seriously hurt. And with your medical condition, that makes it more serious. You need to seek some sort of help becuase there are people out there who have been through these types of relationships and they know how it is and I know someone will be willing to help you out! Good luck and remember, you are beautiful inside and out!
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