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Compatibility
Hello, I am a female who has a very international background. I having been living abroad for half of my life though I still go back home once a year.
This February I made my annual trip back home and I met a guy who I instantly found attractive and we connected. But he has no experience of living abroad and his life could not be far more different from mine. He pretty much grew up in one place and is just used to one culture, so not internationally minded. We have so much chemistry and I still do like him a lot. But am I right in thinking that in a long run we would drift apart because we're just too different? I know I can only try and find out by developing a relationship with him, but I do not want to invest my time in something which will not go anywhere.
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First, being alone isn't the worst thing in the world.
Second, if what you really want is a serious long-term relationship (as opposed to a friendship or a fling), then you need to select guys who have the potential of getting into one. Chemistry is a good start but it's not everything.
Third, opposites can and do attract, but there has to be mutual respect for the other person's perspective and an honest effort to share it. Inviting the man for a short visit to your new hometown (not entirely at your expense, of course) should help you find out whether he's interested at all in other cultures. If he's got the curiosity, great. If all he does is find fault and complain about how much better it would be at home, you don't have a future travel partner. In fact, if you pursue a relationship with him anyway, he will eventually put pressure on you to drop everything that's important to you and move back home. At that point, his parochial attitude will annoy you almost as much as your international (i.e. anti-<insert nationality here>) attitude will annoy him.
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Well yes the time u spent together was better than spent alone. But i am going through kind of the same thing and now we might be drifting apart im not too sure. But i know how u feel me and this guy are totaly different people but there is just something there. If u would like a pehaps we could chat i need some insight on my situation maybe we could help eachother feel free to email me this site tattooednikki
u could go for a relation ship thats what i did but u will always have to know that, that might happen no matter how much u dont want it to but truly i say enjoy it and see what happens if it does not work out now u know more of what u like in a man
hope this long advice helps sorry to make u read so much
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Your time spent together would be better than spent alone. In my experience, people are generally happier when in a relationship. I wouldn't worry about drifting apart right now, because you never know. A couple of my friends were very in love and had a lot in common, but they drifted apart. I would invest my time. Or course from my view, I would have nothing better to do. Crap I rhymed
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