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Crazy boyfriend or crazy girlfriend?
Before I write this, I just want everybody to know how insane and/or stupid this is about to sound. I am a very intelligent 21-year-old senior pre-law student. My stupid boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic. Two weeks ago, he slipped up and drank...a lot. Prepare for the madness: That night, he drove his truck into a HOUSE, and is now in prison for his THIRD DUI. Yikes...it really sucks that the first time he slips up, he gets caught. (And, I am not naive, I know for a fact he has been sober for at least year.) The unfortunate incarceration occured when I was out of town. Now, he's still in prison, and I really am having some issues. I love him dearly, and I firmly believe in second chances. However, the mental and emotional stress that this is causing me is way more than I bargained for. Am I being retarded by sticking with him and supporting him emotionally through this while I am suffering all at his hand? Or am I being stupid by asking this question in the first place? I DESPERATELY need an objective opinion. Thanks for your time!
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I personally would feel very uncomfortable with someone who may very well kill somebody someday. That said, I know that alcoholism is a disease, and it can be treated even if it can't be cured. If you really feel like you love him, don't stay with him unless you do some digging to find out why he slipped up like that. It's obvious that something in his treatment wasn't working. If he can admit that he definately has a problem and wants to try something new to fix it, I don't think he's such a bad person to stay with. You're going to have to confront him on it though.
Also, never forget that needing to save your own sanity is always a perfectly good reason to leave someone. Unless you're married, you have an obligation to take care of yourself first. We're always made to feel like we're "giving up" when we leave relationships like this but we're not... we're getting real. There's a difference. If you're not comfortable, take care of yourself and don't feel so bad about needing to turn away or at least take some time.
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