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LGBT (Q) How can i find myself??
I'm a 16 y/o born female..
I did have a self label of bisexual, and gender fluid. Now, I'm just... Q. (Questioning)
I am more attracted to girls than guys. If I see an attractive guy walking down the street, of course I'll think, "Wow, he's pretty cute!" Same thing with a girl.
However, I am NOT sexually attracted to men. I cannot imagine myself having any sort of sexual relations with a man.. but with a girl, I can.
For the future... well even now.
I can see myself as more of a man. My height is kind of holding me back. I'm 5' 7" ish, and I see guys who are 6' and taller.
I prefer dressing as a guy, and it kind of upsets me when I'm out with my mom wherever, and a person says, "Can I help you two ladies with anything?"
I try making my voice deeper, and I wear a binder from GC2B. I've been thinking about having top surgery.. and maybe even taking Testosterone.
I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin.
What does this make me??
Does this make me transgender?
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It is possible however it seems like it's going to take some more time for you to figure things out.
Try to find some support groups online. Facebook may have some you could always crest an anonymous profile and join so you can hear about the journey of a Transgender person to see if you can relate.
Good luck to you!
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my advice to you would be to research where your nearest trans forum is and sit in a group discussion. Chat with like minded people and I'm not saying things may become easier/clearer for you.
Sometimes too I don't think you can put people in boxes because every one is different.
But if you're gender curious contact a local support group who can provide unique and often free help as you chose what your next options are. Take care.
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From what I can tell of all the transgender stories and interviews I've watched on youtube, a transgender already knows as a little child because its not a sexuality issue at that age. As a kindergartner and younger, you would have naturally gravitated towards boy clothes, boy toys, boys for play buddies, etc and hate being anything girl related. This is something also that becomes evident to parents early on. Some have no idea what it is, and try to hide it while others understand it and want a happy child, no matter the gender so they support their childs gender identification from early on. You said nothing of your childhood, so My guess is that its not a matter of being transgender. If this didnt become an issue until you started puberty, then with the hormones that make your body grow sexually, I would be more inclined to believe what you wonder about is related to what your sexuality is. You may be lesbian and the male half of a pair rather than the female half. Its possible to see men and feel they are handsome but not want sex with them. That is a non issue as far as determining where you are at. I am female and see females I find are exceptionally captivating in looks but have zero desire to ever have sex with a female.It may help you to find an online support group for LGBT teens. Or even one for any age so that you can talk to those who've gone this road already before you. Heres a link to get you started and you can do your own online search for 'LGBT support grous' or add the word teen or youth in there.
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I know of plenty females who are dykes, and I work with one. She didn't do any drastic changes to her body, just wears her hair cut like a man and wears mens clothes. I wouldn't worry about your height either. There are men of all sizes, my husband is your height, you just looks for partners your height or short if you like. It doesnt really matter. Good luck.
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For the moment I would put you under the heading of GENDER CONFUSED. For we really do not know enough about transgender from a medical or scientific standpoint as to why some people feel they are transgender.
As some people seem to start to feel this way when puberty begins. There is some talk that it might be a hormonal mix up. How this could happen I'm not sure I think that would have to go back to the Chromosomal level. Then again I'm not a doctor or a scientist.
If you are transgender then this is the time you can start to find out about yourself and what you may want to do . Right now the surgeries you are thinking of cannot be done electively as you are too young.
What you can do is start the psychological process that will allow you to have the elective surgeries you may want when you are old enough to have them. This process requires 2 year psychiatric help from a psychiatrist and a psychologist who after a 2 year minimum of working with you will affirm you are transgender and this is a needed surgery. During this period you will be required to live as a man. Meaning you dress as a man, use the men's restroom and locker rooms; so on and so forth.
The best thing I can recommend right now is you go on the LGBT National WEB site and find a Chapter in your area and contact them to find out the location of their support group meetings. These meetings will help you with all your questions.
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