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I'm VERY indecisive.
This probably sound very common to you but I have to accentuate the VERY in this situation because it's true; I can't even choose which colour to paint my fingernails. Currently I'm in a sticky situation in which my music teacher has ordered a viola for me because I wanted to try it out but now I'm having some doubts. Here's the whole story:
1. My friend decided to play the viola and I found it might be fun to try out a new instrument along with a friend. I asked my parents and they were a little hesitant but said yes.
2. We told our music teacher we wanted to play viola and he ordered two since we don't have any violas at our school.
3. My friend decided she had two much on her plate already and decided not to play viola.
4. I started thinking about it and noticed quite a few flaws in my plan: I didn't have a friend to play with which was one of the reasons I had wanted to do this in the first place, I had a very tight schedule as well and had to focus way more on my academics, I did some research onlin and found out that viola wasn't the most agreeable instrument.
5. Now, I am very confused and this is where my indecisive nature comes in and messes everything up even more.
I don't know if I should play viola or not. I know you will tell me to follow what my heart tells me or something along those lines but the thing is, I am completely in the middle right now. I'm not even SLIGHTLY leaning towards one side. Help is greatly appreciated, thanks!
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Our own mind is sometimes our worst enemy when we overthink things or under think things.
To help yourself, if you haven't already tried this, Make two lists, one is all the reasons why taking viola now is a good thing and the other list, reasons why it isn't or may not be a good decision. It may take a while to come up with reasons but carry it around with you so as you aren't focusing on it and answers come to you, you can jot them down. It can even be silly or frivilous reasons too, even the fact your friend dropped out as a reason on the negative side. You might want to ask parents or teachers or friends for reasons why to continue or to stop that they can think of. Add those only if you feel they apply to how you feel. In the end, the column with the most reasons written, wins. It will be easier to make a decision then once your mind has had a chance to read over again the reasons why to make your choice.
I will add one more thing... a thought of my own based on how my daughters H.S. was set up. They basically had 3 or 4 schools within the school where the classes available where all within the type of 'schooling' you felt you leaned towards. There was the 'technology' school, 'scientific' school, another I dont remember and creative/ arts. Music: playing an instrumental fell under this heading as well as singing. Also included was drama, and any art classes like drawing, pottery, writing etc. All my daughters went thru the creative arts studies. So think about what other things may fall into creative or art catagory which You do have an interest in currently. Or are you more into computer and technology type of things interest wise, or maybe experiments, problem solving, inventing and science are where most your interest lies. Your interest may be split too in 2 catagories. If you are middle school or 1st yr high school try classes with both to see if you really have a great interest in something. If you are not passionate enough after checking something out, its okay to drop it and switch your focus. For a while, most of us, even through our college years are still trying to figure out what to focus studies on, or what type of vocation/job we'd love the most and excell at. So its okay to try things cus thats the only way to find out if we really like something. Thats why moms always tell their kids to at least try a bite of a new food before saying you don't like it.
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Decisions are to be made, whether right or wrong is another story. Initially, u might end up taking wrong decisions but eventually u LL learn the art of taking the right decisions spontaneously.
As far as playing viola is concerned do not rely too much on others yes if you think it will hamper your academics inform your teacher right away that you will not be able to do it giving him the same reason.
If the only reason for not doing it is because you don't have a friend to play along, honey go solo and you will rock.
Finally, stop thinking too much about your decisions just act. Start by taking small decisions on spot without thinking much and then analyze your decisions later. Draw out positive lessons and as far as your action and decisions are not there to harm humanbeings or any other creation, God will help you. Best wish to you dear.
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If you only joined to hang out with your friend, then she ended up not being in that class with you. And you're not interested in really playing the instrument, then quit. Find something else. There's really no point in trying to learn an instrument unless you want to learn it. Otherwise its just another tedious chore. So if you're gonna join music or other creative practices, Focus on one that you LIKE doing.
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