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i hate everyone
12 year old female.
I can think of people I like, but it seems the more i get to know people, the more i can't stand them. There are 4 of my friends where i can stand them. The boys at my school are all annoying fucks who think I'm a lesbian (and won't FUCKING let it go) except a few guys i can stand. Last year i got stuck with the most annoying bitchy girls. In a group project, two of them fucked around the whole time, the boy who started the lesbian crap was acting more on task then them (he has ADHD btw), the only thing the kids i get in a group project with seem to do is fuck around. The popular girls are ego-maniacs, the nerds are self-righteous assholes, two girls i thought were my friends are bipolar narcassistic cunts, a girl i thought was my friend is a dumb slut and got mad at me over nothing (I canceled my birthday party WHOOPDIEFUCKINGDOO) and through a shit fit WEEKS after it happened. Everyone i meet seems to want to fuck me over somehow. And no one can mind their own buissness. I don't want to go to school and hang out with all these dumbasses
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You sound like you're wound well tight right now mate! Need a solution. Sorry, murdering them all and hiding the bodies is not an option. So they wind you up, you take the bait every time, and get even more wound up and stressed. And afterwards, they're all still just the same? All still annoying and out to screw you over? Let's think about this concept. "Nobody can drive you mad unless YOU give them the keys." So (to take a group at random) some of your friends act like self-obsessed prima donnas? You can't do much about that. We are what we are. But you can control how much their actions and behaviour wind you up. That's in your hands. Always will be. Now regarding school group work, well schools use these to build teamwork and co-operation. You're not meant to be good at this at the start, or you wouldn't have to do it. The dynamics of the group (some fool around, one might be a good originator of ideas, some might be the 'completers' who develop the idea, a leader will emerge etc etc) are what it's all about. That's how you learn about the importance of group dynamics (which will figure in your careers later). Be quite sure, final exams and grades from now until final year at universities are not group projects, they are yours alone. This group project stuff is in all fairness a way to point out that there will always be the 'fuck around-ers'!! So how much are you going to let the actions of other people control YOUR destiny? Your moods? Your feelings? How willing are you to let someone else make YOU upset, or angry? Answer should be that you aren't going to let them. You're not going to take the bait, you're not going to give-up your own control of your own emotions and hand it over to others. I hope this is making some sense, it's not an easy concept to grasp. Oddly, once you deny other people the right to wind you up it becomes such a habit that you find that they haven't got any power to wind you up at all anyway. Plus, if you find raving and swearing and posting it here helps, that's not a bad 'safety-valve'. Gets it off your chest, as it were. We all get angry and frustrated, all our lives. You can't always avoid it. It's how we deal with (or 'manage') the anger that counts. ps. If you take out the swear-words, the rest of your letter shows an amazing vocabulary/terminolgy and understanding for young lady of 12. I'm dead impressed. I think you'll either end up a psychologist....or else a mass murderer if you don't get that anger under control. See ya!!
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You are upset and going through a rough time and have every right in the world to express yourself the way you want to. If that means cursing and getting it all out on here, by all means do it! You are at the toughest age of your life right now and the worst thing you can do is suppress your feelings because other people think they're inappropriate. You are not "unintelligent" for cursing either. All I have to say is keep being you, be true to yourself, and express yourself when you need to. You are very confident about how you feel and that is a GOOD thing. By the way, the next couple years may feel like hell in certain ways, but just know that there comes a point when you get older, things become clearer and you are free to decide what kinds of people to be around, even in school. 12 is a VERY rough age, I remember going through it myself, but eventually there's a light at the end
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Adviceman has good points. Sounds like the bad language is your way of showing how severe you feel the problems are and how upset it makes you and I see it as a cry for help. Here's the one thing I can think of as to why its happening that you feel as you do and the girls especially act as they do:
Since you are 12, and female, my guess is you are going thru puberty. That in itself is not an excuse for getting away with anything BUT, there is such a thing as girls your age with the beginning of hormones of puberty having a devastating effect on not just their feelings and emotions but theres been cases of personalities totally changing the young lady into someone they weren't before, a turn for the worse. If I were you, I'd ask Mom to get me in to see the Dr to get your hormone levels checked. If too high, it can make you very miserable. ALL females going thru puberty will feel their emotions like sadness and anger are more touchy. They either cry too easily or get irritated easily and its usually irritation and anger focused at other females like Mom , sisters and friends or peers. All of us eventually get through it. Keep in mind that all these gals who irritate and make you feel angry are likely acting as they do because they are going thru the same hormonal issues. What I try to warn about is that if a female has a hormone imbalance such as an overload, she can become suicidal, or depressed and start cutting herself, on the anger side, she may break things, damage property or hit and hurt other people. Every one has their own limits of what they can take. If you feel yourself losing control, count to 20, take deep breaths and find some time alone if at all possible. But I would also have a doctor check you out if you began to feel any worse with your emotions as there is something they can give you temporarily until you reach your late teens when this all levels out on its own. Good luck.
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Just what is your question? Are you asking us if you are the only sane person in a sea of insanity? If that's your question the usual answer is the problem is probably you.
Let’s start with the letter you wrote to us. Really intelligent people do not need to insert four letter words in each sentence to make or get their point across. Being able to spout curse words does not make you an adult. Being able to say what you mean, especially to strangers many of whom are adults as are us, does make you an adult. Cursing is a childish and gutter form of talking and does not look good when written in formal or informal communication.
You are I believe highly intelligent capable of better writing. Use your intellect and not your anger when dealing with others. You should be in middle school now. This is a time of transition not only in schooling but in interpersonal skills. This is the first step into the adult world you enter as a teenager.
I understand between friends there are times to curse but not every sentence. Before I retired when I was working I was at a National Meeting of the company I worked for. I was talking with my manager and another guy from my region when the other guy said to my manger, "Doesn't he ever curse." My manager said, "I've never heard him curse." "I replied, we work in two different environments, one where cursing is acceptable and one where it is not." "I know all the words but chose not to use them so as not to curse when in the environment where it is not acceptable." "When as a volunteer firefighter down the fire station to get the knuckle heads on the truck and out the door; yea I curse like a sailor."
What I'm saying is that people judge you in many different ways. You are being very judgmental maybe rightfully so, that I can't say. Everyone is different; no one is going to work as you do and you cannot expect them to. You need to learn to accept people for their faults as well as for their attributes.
You would not talk to your parents the way you wrote to us. If you’re talking to your friends and others like this it is possible that your language needs to be cleaned up to be acceptable to them.
When the whole world is wrong and you are the only one right; the problem generally is with you.
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