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Hello,
Usually when sleeping with someone I am always on the bottom. Recently, this guy flipped me over on top and I realized i'm so bad at riding on top of him.
Advice??
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i have been in your position before (literally and figuratively). On top, don't be afraid of going slow. Just move your body forward and backwards. If he wants to add to the momentum, he will. Don't worry!
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Well, in my opinion you can't be "good" or "bad" at sex. It isn't a job! Either it feels good or it doesn't. If it doesn't then you are kind of defeating the whole purpose of sex, wouldn't you agree! You shouldn't just decide you're not good at it and maybe miss out on something great. New things always take a little getting used to. If you have a willing and understanding partner he will be patient and help you experiment with this position and see if you can make it feel good for you as well. One suggestion would be to try this first while you are both in a sitting position(you straddled on his lap)that way you don't have to support your weight. When lying on top you need to support your weight with your hands and knees the way the guys do it and you both need to get a rhythm going, then you can slowly lower your weight and kind of rock . If you can get comfortable with it, it can be a great position for the woman because you actually have more clitoral stimulation. I hope this helps, Whatever you do make sure you BOTH enjoy it!
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Yeah i have to agree with the previous posters here. everyone is different. Most women i know like to be on top because they can control everything, and usually the guy has his hands on your waist or hips and can assist you in moving up and down so that you dont accidentally injure him (ive done that before and it wasnt good) but thats why there two people. usually the guy will WANT to help in this manner, not just lay there. lol.
good luck ; )
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Latina is right, a person can be different with different people when having sex. One position works better with one guy than another. Also I found I made different sounds with different partners in the past.
I just want you to realize its nothing to worry about if you didn't like it or he didn't. If you're open and willing, try it a few more times, practice. Don't automatically block this off as something you won't do. Why I say this is that not only myself but other women I've read statistics about have better control being on top, able to control the movements, how fast, etc... and are able to enjoy themselves more if not have orgasms easier this way. Other than clitoral stimulation, when connected, this is the way many women have the g spot or a spot orgasms or enjoy thems selves over all greater this way.
You will find ways to position your feet that are most comfortable, there is no one right or wrong way, I like resistance with leverage so my concern is with being able to find some way to resistance, like balling up the bedsheet we're on in each hand which helps me to pound my honey same as he does me. If you are not afraid to explore, you'll figure out little by little what works for you. If you still discover you don't like it with this guy, if you ever move on to someone else in the future, just be willing to try it again with the next guy cus it can be totally different experience.
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Has he told you that your not good or do you feel that way? it's normal.. i was the same when i first began to have sex but its true with practice you do get better and also you would be different with different people when having sex.. sometimes you would be amazing in certain positions with certain people.
If your not comfortable you don't have to go on top you can do the same, however without practice you would never feel better about your self .. it would boost your confidence up!
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Practice.
Everyone's body is different. What feels good will be different for different people, with different people. Practice and build up your confidence. That'll make you better at it.
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