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How do you babysit a 1 year old?
How do you babysit a 1 year old girl? She is my sister, and she loves me ( :) ) but I have a problem with making her listen to me. How can I make her listen to 'no'?
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I have a baby sister too. if you think that she can't understand "NO' your wrong. at one she does understand. I don't agree with distraction. Why? When she get's older this might not work and some times she will want what she wants so bad whatever you come up to distract her with won't work.
Here's what I think you should try(even it might seem mean)
1. Ask your Parent's what they do when she does not listen to NO
2. Say no in a firm, loud(but not yelling) voice.
let your voice say "I'm in charge here and no mean's NO"!
3. Let her cry till she figures out she not going to get what she wants( I would try 2 first before doing this. It can lead to hurt feelings. You don't want her to think your mean)
4.Don't take something from her without saying May I please have this?(she might still cry when you take it)
5. if it near her own bed time tell her everything she want has gone "night night".
P.S.
Number 2 will only work for some time till she start thinking: what will she do if...and humm let me try it any way.
Ask your parent's if (example) she does something REALLY dangers like try and turn on the stove when her hand it near were the flame would come out if you could pop her hand(NOT HARD.)that way the next time you tun your back on her she will think No, I want to turn on the stove my self but it is not worth a pop on my hand.
Note,
If they say yes never pop her any were but her hand. NEVER EVER. that's mean. and try popping youself self first so you know how NOT to do it. We hit harder then we think. I have learned that in the past.
Hope I helped
(and yes I have done all of this before and my little sister still loves me very much. I'm one of the first things she thinks about when she wakes up in the morning.)
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Her mind isn't developed at the point to use reasoning and rules by just talking to and having her listen to you.
What works best is distraction. If she is opening cupboards and pulling things out that she shouldn't. Grab a cooking pot and turn it over, get a wooden stirring spoon to beat on it with. Start by doing it yourself, she take notice and want to do the same. They learn by copying at this stage. She likely grab the spoon out of your hand and bang away. and now you can put the cupboard back to order. Thats one example of distraction. You'll be busy doing a lot of distracting.
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Should you find the answer to this question write a book on it. You will not only be rich but have the undying gratitude of every parent of toddlers. There is no answer to your question other than persistence and total attention to the toddler to make sure she does not get into anything that can hurt her.
It is not that she does not understand NO, it is the fact that everything is new and wonderful to her. All toddlers need to explore and learn about their world. In doing so they will push the boundaries to see just how far they can go. They will continue to do so until you reel them in and give them a time out and then they will most like have a crying and screaming fit because you have punished them and stopped them from exploring.
Once the time out is over most toddlers will go right back to what they were doing before the time out to see if they can go further then the last time. Do not underestimate them, they not only understand but they are sponges soaking up information and learning new things every waking moment of the day.
Your job as a baby sitter is to set the boundaries you want for when you are responsible for them and then enforce those boundaries through repetitive enforcement if need be. It will take time but eventually the toddler will get the message.
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