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Is it too much ?
For the last few months, I have been reading various articles on etiquettes. Obviously, I have tried to employ them in my life. I have tried to make my family adopt them too. I would like to ask, are those etiquettes to be followed in my own house too. For example, it is mannerless to sit in an awkward position with one leg on the sofa and other one on the floor. But, should I overlook the etiquette at home because I would like to relax. Will I be cheating myself ?
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Here's what I know etiquette to be: a code of behavior that delineates expectations for the societal norms, ethnic background norms or group norms. Societal norms affect a larger group in which there will be 'sub groups. '
We can only really change ourselves or choose to adopt a new belief or lifestyle ourselves. You can not force family or friends to see things your way, not in etiquette, beliefs, lifestyle choices.
The ways people were raised and societal or ethnic norms will likely stick with them for life. Younger generations don't always see things the same way and their way isn't necessarily bad, just different.
When you invite people into your home, you are allowed to have some reasonable house rules.
But Learn to not make an issue of things that don't really matter. If you have a house rule that people must remove their outdoor shoes, that is reasonable. Make sure there is a place where they can sit to remove their shoes. You might also offer a container of clean bootie-socks for people to wear so their feet don't become too cold. If you have wood furniture with a nice finish, you can expect visiting family and guests to use coasters. Whatever you feel is okay for yourself should be for anyone else in your home such as your example of how one is seated. The "Do as I say, not as I Do," attitude will ensure that you don't have many friends or family who want to associate with you because you expect something from them that you make yourself exempt from.
This does not apply to something like its okay for you to open your fridge to get something but if a house guest were to go help themselves to something in your fridge without asking, that is rude and bad manners. Societal etiquette has trained people that one does not do things like that when at someone elses home. That is a given and should not have to be a rule that you state, for it is a societal etiquette. If after reminders someone continues to disregard your house rules, then you can tell them they will not be welcome at your home again until they can change their behavior.
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I don't think you'd be cheating yourself as long as you're still following them outside of your house.
I'd still say manners at the dinner table still applied, things like that but I wouldn't say relaxing on the sofa.
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I would say the exact opposite. You are at home, its time to relax and not worry about whether or not you are acting in a way that conforms to obscure social rules that have no real practical purpose.
I have no idea why you would be cheating yourself. I think you would be cheating yourself of a decent life if you spend it worrying so much about appearance rather than substance.
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i would say etiquette is not just in public but in doors too.
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