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well i need major help
-i don't know what to do because my parents dont except me and i dont kn ow how to make them
-i have been grounded for 3 weeks because i didnt go to tutoring and they did it purposely to ruin my social life
-they even told me that they were taking my social life away.
-my friends are starting to know
-i feel like someone could shoot me and no one would care
-i used to hate school and love to come home, but now i would rather be anywhere than at home
-my mom makes me tell her about my feelings and then she goes and tells all of her friends
-i cant trust anyone now, not even my parents
-how can i make my life just a little better?
i will rate high and i need answers soon!
xXxheartbrokenxXx
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Sounds like you should have gone to tutoring. Then they wouldn't have had to punish you. Make your life better by not doing things to get yourself grounded.
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It sounds like you are going through a really tough time with your family which is perfectly normal.
If your parents and you always got along, something just wouldn't be right. Your parents love you a lot, and I know you are thinking, 'oh no, it's the stupid your parents love you crap' but it's not. I know what you are feeling, and it makes you angry enough to bash a wall in or just cry a lot.
But the thing is that they wouldn't intentionally take away your friends just to make you feel the way you are feeling right now. When you disobey a rule they have, they have to punish you for that to let you know that it isn't acceptable and yes I know, it absolutely sucks. They probably grounded you from your friends because that is what you enjoy doing the most-hanging out with your friends and having that social life. This is so you know the next time you think about doing something wrong, you'll know that you won't be seeing your friends for a while if you do go through with it and it will make you think twice.
I know you probably already knew this, but I'm trying to tell you that you are very loved and accepted by your parents. They don't wake up one day and think how they can take away everything you like. They have reasons for it. Sometimes being with your family and getting in fights is truly unbearable. But trust me, everyone gets through it in different ways:
-Start a journal if you already havn't and write down the thoughts in your head or some poetry if you need to.
-Keep talking to your parents and try helping around the house a little. Being a parent is one tough and stressing job. So don't think that they have it easy.
-Go somewhere to stay over on weekends to get out of the house a little when you are ungrounded.
-The next time your mom asks for you to tell her your feelings, tell her that you'd feel more comfortable if it were kept between just the two of you because it really hurts you when she's spreading it around like gossip. And don't make your feelings extreme like, "I hate you, you are unfair and you are ruining my life" start out like this: "I felt really sad when you______" Or "Lately school has been stressing me out because_______". If you just yell and tell her how unfair she is, she will treat you like a child and completely shut you out.
-Let your friends know that things are a little on the stressful side for you and that you'll get back to your old self as soon as everything settles down, don't shut them out of your life, let them cheer you up.
-Talk to your school counselor after or during school if you need to. You don't have to see them everyday, but it could be nice to talk to someone outside of your family and friends and get some advice, or consider an after-school special to keep away from going home for a while if you need to.
Whatever you end up doing to cope with this, don't let yourself continue thinking that if you died nobody would care. If you feel that these feelings are serious, then please let someone know you are feeling seriously depressed. Turn to a friend or counselor, but don't turn to anything extreme like cutting, or drugs or alcohol.
-TheTeenGirl
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I am sure that your parents love you very much, and that is why they "grounded" you. The parents that don't care, let their children go anywhere and do anything without any consequences at all. They wouldn't ground their kids because then they would have to be with them at home all the time.
They want you do good in school so you can be successful and happy later on, that is why tutoring is so important to them. So that's another thing that tells me that they care.
Even if your Mom tells her friends, continue to talk to her. Tell her how you feel about this and that you will do better next time. It's normal for Mom's to talk to their friends, it just shows that she is worried about you.
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Well.. honestly, what you're going through, at least about 90% of teenagers go through. I say you should try and talk to your parents, especially if you even used to like coming home to your family. but don't get too discouraged if you still don't get anywhere.
Just remember that while your problems aren't unimportant, because to you i know they are, they're things that most everybody goes through. You're not alone, or nearly alone in feeling this way, really. About your mom making you tell her things.. telling her things will help open things up between you. but tell her that it bothers you when she tells other people about it. your problems are yours, and you can share them with who you want, not for her to share as she wants.
If you want to make your life better.. just do things that make you feel good. remember to still do your schoolwork and that, but either have fun with friends, or, when you're grounded, do some hobbies.. draw, write, listen/sing to music, make music, make models.. just find something to keep you entertained and occupied. at the least it takes your mind off of the bad things.
~Andrew
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hhey, have a tlak with your parents and family. let them know how you feel and explain to them just exactly what your point of view is. get some help by going to concelling or thrapy. also you need self confidence. get a manicure and pedicure and facial. make you feel good about your self. cait♥
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Parents can sometimes suck. Talk to your mom about how she tells all of her friends. Tell her that if she wants to trust you then you need to be able to trust her. Maybe you could try to get into an after school activity so you won't have to be home as much. Make a deal with your mom. Tell her that you will try to talk to her sometimes about your life, but only what you want to tell her. I had the exact same prblem with my parents I told them that there's a reason I don't tell them everything and I promised them that I wouldn't completely shut them out of my life, but I would only let them in on MY terms. I think a lot of people would care if you got shot. Life probably sucks now, but it'll get better. Hope I helped.
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