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Parentzz worrie!
Well let me start from the very begining. I have a sister who is older then me and she was very shy and didnt have alot of friends growing up especialy no guy friends! Well I am different and I have more guy friends then I do girls! My parents are really picky though and they dont want me to like hang out with guys especialy if its one on one. They say they cant trust me and that I wear to much make up. Well I dont wear to much and If I didnt wear makeup I wouldnt go out! because I am very self concious. Also I like guys and how the heck and I suposed to have a relationship if my parents wont let me! I mean im 14 Im going into highschool and obviously I want to date! I feel like sense my sister wasnt like me they are being way to hard on me! I mean all my friends get to hang out with guys even if parents arent home! I mean I know thats not acceptable and I wouldnt do that I always make sure parents will be there! but it seems like thats not good enough for my parents! PLEASE HELP ME! I DONT LIKE MY PARENTS THIS WAY!
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okay all parents are like that they want you to be protected and not get hurt maby if you let the guy come over and meet your parents your parents might trust you more with a relation ship and wont think you are going for the wrong guys tell your mom that i am 14 years old and every teenage girl wears make up that way she might get a little more un protective about this it also depends on if you know the guy real good and YOU can trust him maby if you show your mom that you are good enough she will start trusting you more in a relation ship but you do have to be care ful if you just met the guy if you did I would get to know him more if you are not aloud to go on a date talk on the phone or instant messanger but you do have to be care ful because some guys may seem nice but end up raping you or killing you not trying to scare you but your parents want to protect you and not get hurt hopr my advcie helps and if you have any questions you can email me at brittany_angel12345@yahoo.com or write me in my inbox
Luv brittany
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Alright, first off, your parents probably think you are growing up way too fast. I have to admit, I dont see tons of fourteen year old girls running around with make-up on, much less many fourteen year olds in high school. Second-just because you are in high school does not give you carte blaunch to start dating. Any parent who leaves their fourteen year old daughter at home or anywhere with a guy, regardless if the parent knows them or not, is asking for so much trouble. From my experience, younger girls like to date older guys. Ive met plenty of high school girls who will only date college guys. Now that I am a college guy, I am still not going to take advantage of that playing field. Anyway, your parents probably have a good point in not allowing you to date. You are still young, and may not realize all the potentially BAD situations you could get in to. Many girls your age are still going through that phase of "oh, we talk on line all the time, so, like, yeah, he's my boyfriend." Truth be told, not many teenagers under the age of eighteen or nineteen really knows what a TRUE relationship is. I started learning at fifteen, but I was a super mature fifteen year old, and so was my girlfriend. We lasted over a year, and almost got back together last summer. You need to take your time with the whole "dating" thing, it's not something that should happen overnight. You have to get to know the guy first, really communicate, and by that I mean VERBALLY. Online conversations give you no verbal clues, like tone, pronunciation, etc. Sixty percent of all communication is non-verbal. Thirty percent is in our vocal tone, what emotions show through and what unspoken hints come throught. Online communication is the last ten percent, the spoken words. What people say is NOT always what they mean. It takes time, talent, and skill to be able to read all the subtle messages that people give off by how they say something or the way their bodies move or react. Ok, enough rambling-I will cut to the chase for you. You need to stop worrying about dating and worry more about school. The grades you make now WILL affect what colleges will accept you. I made good grades, so I am now a proud Oklahoma State University Cowboy (Go Pokes!). Any relationships you start at this early an age can end up severly in the longer run. You may not like your parents this way, but I guarantee you, if not now, it will happen later. More than ninety percent of U.S. teenagers find some beef they have with their parents between the ages of 13 and 16. I had mine around your age too. I didn't accept my adopted parents as my real parents. Looking back, I realize it was just a phase, which is what YOU are going through. Your parents will, nine times out of ten, have your best interests in mind. They know much more about relationships than you do, and they will find out if you are sneaking around with guys behind their backs. That said, focus on school and friends. Guys are more complicated than you realize. Good luck.
Best Wishes, Jordan
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Your parents are probably just going through a faze. Every parent tried to hold on to their child as long as they can. To them, youre growing up too quickly, and to them, its scary because youre not their little girl anymore. I would suggest showing them that wearing makeup wont change your behavior or attitude. If you show them that youre responsible and that youre old enough to take care of yourself around guys, then I think they will eventually loosen up to the idea. They know deep down that they cant protect you forever, but of course theyre going to try. Just show them how grown up you are, and they may get used to the idea of letting you be around guys. They know that one day youre gonna have a steady boyfriend and eventually get married. They just dont want it to happen to quickly. Since youre 14, you have nothing to worry about in that area. Just show them you can take care of yourself and can handle being around guys. Theyll come to their senses. Hope I helped.
xo_xo Kerri x3
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Stop trying to rush yourself or your parents into dating. Relax, and tell them you are hanging out with a friend, cause really, thats how the best relationships start.
Let it go about your sister. Your parents know each of thier kids are different but both you and your parents have to learn how to deal with the dating thing, so relax and take it slow, that will help them relax too.
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i hear you completely. what you need to do is slowly earn your parents trust..i guess im pretty lucky because my parents seem to reeally trust me..and although i abuse it sometimes, im usually pretty good i guess.
well you need to take things slow.talk to your parents about how your your own person and your different from yuor sister...talk to them about how important trust is, especially within a family. talk to them and maybe they will see your side and let you go somewhere.
tell them:
WHO you will be with
WHAT you will be doing
WHEN your going/coming back
WHERE your going
WHY your going (optional i guess)
those questions make parents feel better because they know the plan..whats going on. do NOTHING to mess up your parents trust..like if your parents are supposed to pick you up at the movies and you didnt ask if you could walk to dunkin donuts for example...dont walk to dunkin donuts! that would suck if your parents caught you walking there in the dark...they would flip out especially since your just starting to earn their trust
eventually after going out for awhile with no incidents...you will (should) begin to see they arr becoming more relaxed and trusting with you.
if things dont improve go to dr phils website and try to find an article about paranoid parents and show it to them maybe...
try those thingds out..inbox me if they dont improve
-melissa-
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