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Ok, over the past few weeks a lot has been going on. I'm fixing to make some big transactions and I'm going to have to leave a lot of my close friends behined to move to a different location. Something that's always been very hard for me, is dealing with CHANGE. I know it's like that for a lot of people, nobody really likes change yeah yeah. But I always get extremely depressed when I have to change things in big ways, especially if I love the way my life is going. I just feel like everything is going to fall apart. So, I guess what my question is, is has anyone ever had a hard time with change, and overcame it.. if yes, then how so.. I mean if there even is an awnser.
Thanks.
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There have been PLENTY of changes in my life, and I just tried to embrace them. See them as an adventure.
I moved in the second grade, and even though that was a long time ago, I remember very clearly being so nervous about not making any friends because I'm really shy. But a girl named Sarah came right up to me and asked if I wanted to play with her and her friend. I have been best friends ever since with Sarah, almost 8 years, and we haven't even had any classes together since then. So in your move to a new school, you're just going to have to be yourself. I'm sure there will be plenty of people willing to hang out with "the new kid."
But back to change. Change can be really hard...and what I do nowadays if I'm feeling overwhelmed or scared or stressed, and like I don't think I can get through it alone, I ask God for help. I ask him to help me pull through this, because later in life you will be able to look back on this big change and say, yeah, I was really strong then.
So my advice is to just embrace the change. You can make even more friends, get a new room that you can redecorate (fun!). And don't forget you have family to lean on during this time, too. They're going to be affected by the change as well, so they will know exactly how you feel. You're never alone in situations like this. So just remember: change can be good. In fact, it can be great. I got a best friend out of it!
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I think you've answered your own question - look closely at what you've written. You say you 'always' get upset when your life is going well and it has to change.
This suggests that even though changes have come your way, you've managed to survive them and rebuild your life. You've created good things again and again, and there's no reason you'll stop this time.
Change might always be scary, but only you can decide how you want to handle it.
Good luck.
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It is always hard dealing with change. I'm sure you will call your friends from your old home like every second at 1st. But eventually you get used to things and enjoy them. Change isn't always bad. You never know what could happen to you in your new way of life. Good Luck! :)
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I do it every year. I vacation for a month in my favorite spot, all of my best friends, the coolest girls, everything is better there. It's almost like moving away when I come home every year. I just talk to them online and promise to come up as soon as I possibly can. I also dish out about $150 a month in long distance telephone calls, lol. If things get too bad, ask your friends to come visit you when they can, or start saving up money to go back for a holiday.
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i recently had a small case of depression. I just felt liek nobody cared. one of my best friends was leaving my school and going away. I would no long see and talk talk with her everyday. I also was missing all my friends. I had a long period of time when i just sat there and thought of all thegreat things i have to give up. the fact that im going to high school after this year and never seeign any of my best friends there definatly brought tears. when i thought about it i remebred how scared i was when i had to leave my home and start school and make friends, which was now one of the best things of my life. so what im trying to say is you liek what you have now but when you change eventually your gonna reajust and be happy wit hthe change.
hope it helps
~TiNa~
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Yes, Ive delt with change.Last summer I found out that my parents...who i thought were a couple with no problems..were having problems and considering divorce..this shoicked me..i tried to be positive and in the end, things looked up. My parents are good now.
I know your probblem is more complex..i hope i hlped...
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I think the bigest chages in my life recently have been the death of my two remaining grandparents. To be honest I don't quite know how I delt with it, maybe I'm still dealing with it, but I know that after a while the upset that was caused becomes slightly more bearable. You never really forget what it was like, but things get easier.
I think the best things you can do are to try and keep in contact with your old mates, by phone e-mail, snail mail ect, as well as joining some local clubs [in the new location] and maybe inviting your new neighbours round for a housewarming or somthing.
I wish you the best of luck :)
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