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I'm worried about what my friends will say if my boyfriend and I have sex.
So... I've been dating my boyfriend for a very long time (going on six years now), and our six year anniversary is coming up. I would like us to have sex for our anniversary. I have all the proper protection and am of proper age (late teens). I'm on the pill and have a secret stash of different kinds of condoms in my bedroom. I'm a virgin, but he's not, so he has been tested. He is clean (meaning no STD's). All good and well, yes?
No. I'm worried about what my friends will say if my boyfriend and I have sex. Should I be? I mean, of course I'm going to tell them. No way around that, because I just can't keep that kind of secret. They are the ONLY people I would ever tell, though, and I trust my boyfriend completely. But I'm just worried about what my friends will think of me. Again, should I be?
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go ahead!!!!!!!!!!! man 6 years and he has been tested!! go for it !! you both deserve it!!!
and have it safe!!! and have fun!
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I don't think that you need to worry what they think because they are ur friends they will understand. You are obviously ready, trust me its fun.
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Since you aren't doing it because of everbody else, don 't be worried about what your friends would think. Friends don't always agree on stuff, but if they are your real friends, they should respectc your decision. So don't be worried.
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LATE TEENS is not necessarily mean you are mature enough to have sex. You need to make plans in case something goes wrong. Make a list of all of the things you would need to have a baby. Then go to the store and price it. If you cannot afford it, don't have sex.
I would really beg you not to have sex until you are married. Just because he isn't a virgin doesn't mean you can't wait. I know. My boyfriend is a virgin, and he's wonderful.
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You should do what feels right for you, never mind what your friends think. You can't stay a virgin forever. It sounds like you're plenty old enough and mature enough to go through with this.
Have you spoken to him about it? Or to any of your friends?
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Honestly, in your late teens, I don't think there is anything unflattering that anyone could think. Granted, there will be those that think you should wait until marriage, but hell, we're in the real world. I for one, commend you on waiting as long as you have. And let me also commend your boyfriend for his patience. Six years is quite an amount of time to wait, especially with his not being a virgin.
I think the decision to have sex should be about what YOU think. Obviously, you've given it some thought and for whatever reason, you feel now is the time for the two of you. There may be some of your friends that may not agree, but then again, I find it hard to believe that they will actually care that much at all. You say that you'll have to tell them. I understand that because it's your first time. But trust me, afterwards, the more you have it, the less you'll feel the need to discuss it. I'm GUESSING that they, too, are virgins, or else you wouldn't care so much about their thoughts on the issue. It's either that or, for some reason, they have some other hangup about your choice of male. At any rate, it's your decision and you have to be ok with it. I think you are. Take some time to really think about it and see what it is you're REALLY afraid of. MAybe you'll find that you AREN'T ready and that using their feelings is an acceptable reason to put it off. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.
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No you shouldn't be worried about what they are going to think, if their your friends they will leave it alone, and if they have had sex before they have no place to criticize you.
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Well... if you're worried of their reactions, why do they need to know? Sex is private, they can infer as they please. But really, it should be about whether it's right for you. If PR is important to you, then consider PR in your decisions. I think PR shouldn't play too much of a role in your personal life, but that's debatable and is something you'll need to decide for yourself.
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I am not sure what your motive for having sex is. Do you feel you need to have sex because it is expected of you and you are letting all your friends know that you finally did it? The fact that you are this concerned about what they think, and you plan to advertise this intimate act to them, makes me think having sex may not be a good idea. It makes it seem more trivial than it should be.
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i think that if you and your boyfriend have been dating for 6 years, thats a long time. it wouldnt be like youre on some fling that your friends would look down upon you for.
but then again, think about WHY youre afraid of what your friends would think. sometimes your friends see more than you do. do they think your boyfriend is a jerk? do they think you're doing it for the wrong reasons? did you all make some kind of pact to wait until youre married to have sex? you just have to think about it.
i will tell you this. i think the stat is that 65% of people who had sex before they were 17 ended up wishing they had waited. and i will tell you this - if your friends think your boyfriend is a jerk... he probably is. your friends only want to look out for you. talk to them about it beforehand, and see what they say. when they say it, you'll figure out how important they are to you. just keep an open mind.
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