I have always seen myself as the mentor, the sage, the friend to run to at three in the morning and beg for help, and I have recently begun to openly embrace this role. You may say, "You don't know me! Why would you care about my problems?", and to that I say, "Because I would like to know you, and I want to help anyone and everyone feel better about themselves and their lives."
So send me your problems.
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Location: Marietta, Georgia
AIM: harlequininkd
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how should i dumb my bf? i still really care about him and love him but hes not maing me a priority and cant handle having a serious relationship with me. i suggested a more casual relationship but he refused. i made it very clear i was unhappy and told him why on Sunday. he PROMISED he would fix it and asked me to give him this week to prove it and he has made no progress he actually made things worse! he has barely contacted me in the last couple days and tom we see each other and today he didnt even call! and i didnt do anything wrong! he hurt me deeply and it would take forever to explain it all so i will save you the sob story but what should i say?
i want to tell him [firmly] that it is over and because he didnt make me a priority and completely blew me off this week and didnt keep his promise and about how much he hurt me. and say i still care about him but he CANNOT do this to me. i deserve better {if he had truly loved me and cared like he said he would have been doing everything he could to talk to me and make things better}should i say what is in the {} marks? please just give me some pointers and what to make sure i do and what to make sure i DONT do. i know i need to NOT apologive because i always say sorry for things that arent my fault but what else?? thank you SO MUCH!! i really need some help because this is SO hard because i still love him and kept giving him more chances but i cant keep hurting myself. he already broke my heart. thanks again. i will rate :) (btw answer asap because i am doing this early tomorrow[Sunday]) (link)
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I believe that you already know what you need to do. You realize that you deserve better and that he is making you unhappy. You need to tell him exactly what you have told us here, especially what is between the {}. Just tell him that you gave him the chance to fix everything, and that he didn't take that chance. As hard as it is, you need to move on and find someone who is willing to work harder to keep you and make you happy. I'm sorry that you had to put up with such a jerk.
I hope that my advice helps.
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on bullitens on myspace.
is it double spacing for anyone else?
because everything freaking double spaces.
and i dont know why.
help me out? (link)
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On my bulletins it doesn't double space anything, but if you mean it double spaces when you hit enter to go to the next line, then you should try hitting shift+enter to see if that will decrease the linebreak. If it double spaces during continuous typing, then I really don't know what to tell you, although that does sound pretty irritating.
I hope that my advice helps.
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So me and this guy have been really good friends for two years now but I don't know whether he likes me or not. He talks to me constantly online and sometimes waits for me to go online all day too but whenever we plan to hang out he ends up canceling. He compliments me a lot like saying how any guy would be lucky to have me but then he doesn't answer my phone calls most of the time and avoids seeing me in person. He use to go to my school for a year and everyone thought we were dating. He also looks at me a lot when I'm not looking and we hug too. I told him I liked him once but he said he didn't want to ruin our friendship. I'm really confused! I don't know if he likes me just as a friend or if he likes me more. I know he doesn't like dating his friends because he tried it once and she ended up hating him after hey broke up. I just really need to know what you guys think. Girl are welcome to answer to if they've ever been in this situation. Thanks! (link)
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I hate to give advice that might hurt you, but either this guy does like you and is just confused, or by saying that he doesn't want to ruin your friendship, he doesn't like you enough for a relationship, or have enough faith in the two of you to think that a relationship would last. He is kind of expecting a relationship to fail, and therefore ruin your friendship. I am a girl, but I asked my boyfriend about this one, and he agrees that this boy is just either not into you enough for a relationship, or is just as confused as you are. He shouldn't base your possible relationship on his past relationships, because every relationship is different. You need to ask this boy straight up what the problem is, and either he'll realize that he has issues and want to work it out, or you should just move on and find someone who deserves to be in a relationship with you.
I hope that my advice helps.
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okay so i jus recently met this boy brad. so brad and i started talking. fliring non-stop. and hes taking me on a date real soon. he says he likes me already. hes a major babe. he says im the prettiest girl hes ever seen. always talks good things about me to my friends. but here comes the problem. rachel, his ex. shes a friggin bitch to be honest. they went out for 3 years. they broke up and got back together in feb. its anoyying how hes so stupid and goes back to her. i remember him telling me that i was changing is mind fast about him forgetting her. i honestly do not know why he likes her. she recently cheated on him. they broke up. then she does something to make him forgive her. and honestly it pisses me off. hes all i think about. i know me and him would be a good couple. okay hes even told my SISTER and BEST friend he likes me. YOU DONT TELL A GIRLS SISTER & BEST FRIEND YOU LIKE HER THEN GO BACK OUT WITH YOUR EX. im so confused. i really dont know if this is guna be another break up soon. but its like if me and him get serious i dont want her coming back in the picture then him leaving me for her. i really want her to just move on and get a boy. BUT he says the only reason he is with her is so she doesnt go with another guy. WOW RIGHT!? he said that to my best friend amanda. amanda and him are good friends, he tells her everything. so im realy confused. what should i do? please dont say MOVE ON. becuase i honestly have tried, its too hard. i need him in my life, more then a friend. it kills me to say this ... i think i love him. i think about him 24.7 .. talk about him all the time .. when i talk to him i smile all the time. i dont know what to do .. does he like me more then her? is he jus playing me? .. p.s this story will change daily & id realy appreciate if i could get someones screenname so you could tlel me wat to do wen he changes things up? THANKS SO MUCH!! (link)
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I hate to give out advice that I know might hurt people, but it seems that this boy is hurting you a lot more than any advice I have could. I know that I don't know the whole story, but based on what I'm seeing now and past experiences, he really is just sort of playing you. If he was really into you, why would he still be messing with this other girl? He obviously still has feelings for her, and he can't really like you or be ready for a relationship with you when he is still chasing his ex. I know that it's hard to forget someone that you really like, and it seems impossible to move on once you've found a certain someone, but you need to realize that you deserve better than this. You deserve to have a relationship without turmoil, and that doesn't change everyday, and that is with a guy who is completely devoted to you and only you. If you ever want my help, you can contact me through aim: harlenquininkd, or through my email: xela13428@yahoo.com.
I hope that my advice helps, and that either this boy ditches his ex, or that you find someone who deserves you.
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ohkay well i have this boyfriend and i have been with him for a year and i really do love and care for him but i ran into my middle school crush the other day and it turns out he is a major hottie. and i was up talking to him almost all night. i think i kinda like him.
i love my boyfriend now, but how do i know if i wouldnt love the other guy just as much?
what should i do? jeeez....
17-f (link)
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I think that you should stay with your boyfriend. Maybe this other guy seems great now, and you might be able to love him as much or more than your boyfriend, but would it really be worth losing the guy that you love and have been with for a year to try something with a guy who you would barely be able to see, and who might not even be into you?
I hope that my advice helps.
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me and my boyfriend have been pretty serious for about a year. but at the same time tryign to keep it calm.. we dont talk every day.. or see eachother EVERYDAY.. we dont go to school together or anything.. im SOOO inlove with him.. for about 6 or more months i have been waking up in the middle of the night.. like i dont want to sleep because hes not with me, or i jsut cant stop thinking about it. thinking about things wev gone out and did.. or what were goign to do.. or jsut thinking about him. it seems to wake me up and sometimes i cant even get back to sleep... does this seem like im obessed??? is this unhealthy?? by the way im 18/f.. thanks for any opinions and advice. (link)
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Unless you have started going to his house and standing outside his window watching him sleep when you wake up in the middle of the night, I wouldn't call this obsession. The lack of sleep may eventually become unhealthy, but being so into this guy certainly isn't. You're young and in love- it's expected that you would be extremely excited about finally finding someone that you truly care about.
I hope that my advice helps.
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Hi, i haven't started my period yet, and i am really worried it's going to start in the middle of a school day, or even worse PE!!! I know to carry a pad with me, and i do, and i were thin panti-liners just incase, but i was wondering if there is any signs i may be starting soon? I have a feeling i might be starting soon, but i dont know whether it is just me being silly! Also i get a monthly discharge, just like a period, but it's not blood. I'm 13 (link)
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I actually started mine right before I had to stand up and give a presentation when I was eleven, and even though I was so sure that I was going to die of embarrassment, obviously I'm still here to tell the tale. All women have their random quirks and discharges. Your period is probably right around the corner, and as soon as it comes, it will settle into a normal monthly pattern, and you'll be able to know when to be prepared.
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There's this one guy I know and I have had, like, the MAJOR hots for him...I know that he knows that I like him...But there's a problem. I get super nervous around guys that I like. Most of the time, I'm outgoing and bubbly, as my friends say, but like I said...It only happens when I'm around guys that I like.
I can't seem to get enough courage to talk to him or even stand by him! I need help, fast!
Does anyone have some tips that I can use to get around this obstacle and make my move?!?
*Abra Apocalypse*
F/15 (link)
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I know exactly how you feel- you really like this guy, but everytime he looks at you or you're around him, you completely freeze up and forget everything you'd like to say to him.
You need to start by accepting that you're a fun, bubbly girl who deserves to be herself around guys. Just get out there and show him who you really are. If he already knows that you like him and he doesn't run screaming from you everytime you're around, then you're already halfway towards being with him. It's very possible that he likes you back and is too shy to go talk to you. You need to just suck it up and go over and start talking to him, because someone has to make the first move, right? Just start by talking and finding out more about him, and if you end up asking him out and he declines, then he wasn't worth your time anyway, and you can move on and find someone who deserves you.
I hope that my advice helps.
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13/f
ok i have a few questions on the same topic. may be kinda long but please help.
okayy:
this summer i wanna go to a camp and i live in south texas.
so question #1
•where are some camps in south texas? [try not past austin][but whatever you can find i'll consider]
•should it be all girls or coed?
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•im not very experienced with boys and i dont really talk to them so would a coed camp be actually good for me?
thankies
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I don't know much about Texas, but I did some suprisingly easy research through google, and one of the first results was about a Camp Olympia on Lake Livingston in Trinity. You get to choose from thirty-five or so activities, and basically do whatever you're interested in. It looks like a pretty chill place to spend a week or two. Check it out.
As to all girls or co-ed, I believe that you could have fun either way, but if you aren't very experienced with boys, co-ed might be the better way to go so that you can begin to gain experience with them. I know that when I went to my first residential co-ed camp, I learned a lot about working with guys, and realizing that they aren't all nose-picking aliens helped me once I went back to school.
I hope that my advice helps.
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