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I am at a point in my relationship at which I am either out of options, or not emotionally intelligent enough to know how to handle it. Maybe someone here is....
My boyfriend has anger issues. Not violent or anything, but he definitely has issues. He's told me they stemmed from his childhood and he's always gotten mad or annoyed over small things and I am noticing it now. I, on the other hand, am the complete opposite. I never get angry, and I don't know how to handle it when people do. I try to "fix" the situation and end up emotional because I'm in love with this guy and I hate seeing him upset. Sometimes, he gets mad over things that I do, sometimes, its got nothing to do with me. Still, he becomes silent, acts cold, and stays that way for a long time. I think the fact that I get emotional about it also bothers him a lot, but the thing is I truly cannot help it because I care about him so much. I've looked up ways to deal with people that have anger issues and the typical advice is keep cool, don't give in to it, don't try to fix it etc. But I cannot seem to do that no matter how hard I try. Does anyone have some tips for me that may help me deal with him, or things that I can say to make him realize he's putting a huge strain on our relationship by being the way he is. He's told me before he cant help it but I'm getting to a point where I don't know if I can take it anymore but at the same time do not want to lose him because he is one of the most genuine, sweet, good person I know. I don't know what to do?? (link)
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i dont mean to put this in a bad way, but you are supposed to love your "love" for who they are... people may change, but you just have to exept him for who he is. most importantally, one of the biggest lesson you will ever realise and have to in life is: nobodys perfect. and if ou dont follow that, YOU might be the real loser... im not saing this in a bad way at all but what i am tring to say is, he might have anger problems, as you said. but no matter whitch way you put it, love is love. and we all love eachother for the inside. not on thier "looks" like for example: you see a really 'nice' boy in the mall, and you start flirting with someone you dont even know, and you end up scoring the date, possibly, but that just tells me, and anyone else who sees what i see, you would only be loving him for his looks, say youve been getting pretty serious with him, and he ends up spending a couple nights (not meaning any sexual activity, just a regaulr 'spending the night over' type thing)
your house for a buissness trip because it was right across the street from your house say. and you realize how stuck up and snotty and obnoxious he was, that just tells us all, that you shouldnt jugde 'love' on thier looks. and so as i was saying, but just give him a chance, maybe its just a 'temporalily' thing, bc you dont wanna end a relationship of2years in love bc of the way he acts... its ok, that you might not have quite understood that, but just give him a chance to see if he goes back to being himself at least 1 week to a mounth.ud be surprised
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Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up, reasons dont matter but i have a question
i blocked him off my sisters facebooks, and i deactivated mine because i didnt want to look childish and delete him or block him, im moving on with my life and im feeling happier, i still love him but im trying to get over that because i dont think its ever gonna workout, my question is.. now hes adding all these girls on facebook and slightly flirting, and i feel like the only way i will ever get over him if it hurts to see stuff on facebook, what do you guys think? maybe im wrong because im curious to wanna go on his stuff.. will it just hurt me more? the curiousty is killing me.. so what should i do? thanks. (link)
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my personal opion was that you might have went allittle "overboard" as blocking his fb from ur sisters. it wouldnt be right or fair to them, and even if you broke up, there is no reason you cant be freinds still.
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What happens when you miss your period (link)
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its OKAY to miss your period ONCE IN A WHILE. it depens on how old you are as well, if you are usally VERY ACTIVE and doing ALOT of sports, that happens alot. and sometimes, they come a week late or so,
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So I stressed myself to the point the guy didnt want to wear a condom right? and so ... I bought and swallowed 20 morning after pills in half of a year... how bad is that? will I not be able to have kids? (link)
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im not all that SURE about birth control, but you should ask an doctor or someone who may know more about that, and there are theese thingys where you keep them very far in your private and switch them every year or so, so you do not have children, and if you change your mind about children, you can get it removed early
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i recently developed an over-eating disorder.
im not over weight or anything like that but i hav been crash dieting ALL year and doing starvation diets so now i over-eat like crazy.
I NEED TO STOP.
its not healthy and im gaining weight.
how do i stop and start a normal, healhty diet?
i want to start a good diet tomorrow.
i want to loose 10-15 pounds.
HELP (link)
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1st of all, CALM DOWN. theres ALOT of fruits and veggies that taste vry well. such as strawberries. i usally put them in the freezer for the night and eat them for breakfast. and its harder to eat thigs if they are frozen. and you have to eat them SLOWLY. witch is the best way to eat the food. and just beacuse you eat fruit dsoent exacttaly mean its a good thing. just like any other food, you cant eat that MUCH. its not good for you, either. but if you do what i did, you might start to SAVE some pounds. NOT lose weight. but it WILL help IF, IF ou usally do something active. and its ALSO not a good thing to not have sugar. beacause if you work out with out having sugar, that where all your energy comes from. and if you dont have any energy from all the hard work that you are doing, you could pass out. but stawberries DO have sugar in it, NATURALLY. so, thats a GOOD thing to eat BEFORE you work out. just work at it, and every week, get alittle moore strickt about it.
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The other night, I had a dream that the world ended. Is this a sign of something? It was pretty random for me to dream this.... (link)
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when you drem about something, it just simply means that its what you mostly think about. so, its normal. but you may not be relijous, but its said in the bible of jesus christ that not even the angels of heaven know when the world will end. so dont worry
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k so i like these two guys and last night i had a dream that they were both trying to take me away from the other and then they started fighting and i think it was over me. what does this mean? (link)
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i think u cannot decide between the two of them. ots normal 2 like mre han 1 person at a time
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There's a guy in some of my classes that (since yesterday) wants to show me his penis to prove to me that it is longer than 3 inches.
LOL
You're probably thinking, wtf?, but there's a story behind this (it deserves a good explanation)
My school is an environmentally friendly school and we have a class that part of our grade is doing outside work, so i was working with him and two of my other friends and they were having a very sexual conversation (it was all guys that i was with, so you can see why. They're horny 13 year olds!) and he randomly asks me if i want to see his penis. And i laughed and said no. Then he said yes you do. and i said no i don't, and it kept going like that back and forth for a while. Then he starts to call my name and everytime i look but not down there just at his face, but one time he actually pulled his pants down! (only in the front, like as if he was about to pee, and i only knew that from the corner of my eye) Of course i didn't see it, but i knew that it was out.
And today he did it again in the same class and everything except this time he wanted to prove it to me that his "thing" was longer than 3 inches. (did i mention that on both days he had a boner? Yesterday it looked really short, like through the pants) so that's why he did it today, but what does this mean, does he like me, is he sexually attracted to me, or what because i asked my friends and they have no clue, just like me.
Please, feel free to anser my totally random question, please! I would be so... greatful for any answer/opinion/comment you have. I'll take anything.
Thank you for any answers in advance. (link)
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i think hes just messin with you
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I need some tips on how to quit smoking? (link)
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if you have anyone who looks up to you, think of thoose people and if you saw them do the same thing. it would be heartbreaking
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Well there's this guy, and he likes another guy. I've always had feelings for this guy since kindergarten. On and off, but i really like him. He's perfect. So how do you think i could TRY to get him to like me. I know it might not happen, but i wanna try. And I cant just "move on" cause im in middle school, in the middle of no where. So i cant just move somewhere where there's guys, and long distance relationships suck. and yea, i think he flirts with me sometimes. He used to look at me 24/7 but not so much now..so he's not flirting as much. Soo, what should i do? (link)
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it all depends on the type of guy it is. how much older you are then him. and from the point of veiw im getting from you, it sounds like you were explaining that he was gay. you just got to be yourself.
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