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So I'm 21 and recently graduated and got myself a good job.
I'm living at home with my parents paying cheap rent each week.
However my mum is insisting that I save up to buy myself a house. I want to buy myself a car!
She won't hear of me actually spending my money any other way. She's very controlling. Since I lived away at uni I gained confidence etc.
Now living at home I've lost it and don't socialise because I don't drive and I'm not allowed to get the bus ... basically if I go anywhere my mum has to take me...
So yeh I'm thinking of moving out . but don't know how to say this to her?
Whenever I go against her she shouts at me and says I should be greatful . But living at home means living under her rules and living a life she wants me to live. She even gets tetchy if I plan nights out... moaning it's inconvenient to pick me up yet refusing me to travel in a taxi or with a friend. (I did this all the time at uni)
She has no friends and I'm basically her life. What do I do I feel like at 21 I'm not ready to buy a property and I just want to have fun (link)
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well hello
i guess because she don t have any friends except you she s a bit afraid to lose you and worry about you
try to understand her more be the mature like
what about you invite her for a dinner just the two of you
and in the dinner be close to her
like listen to her
try to ask her kindly why she s treating you like this
start with mom i know you are worried about me a lot
but can you just for once listen to me like a big sister or a good friend ?
just tell her what you want to do what you are planning to do
show her you are a big girl know with a respectable way don t fight with her
and you want her to be a good adviser not someone to make rules
ask her for an advice about the car
about how to save money
be her friend
try to understand that she s worried to lose you
don t tell her now that you want to move out
don t break her heart
tell her you use to do all what you want in uni
why now she won t let you do it
try to understand
and if you need any help i m here for you
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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I NEED HELP ASAP! I went to my best friend's/crush's hOuse to hang out with him, his name was Shawn,We were playing with our phone he let me borrow his I broke it but i didnt mean it accidentally done it!!And he is ignoring me at classes, he doesn't talk to me at lunch!What do I do to let him talk to me?
Pleas Help me! (link)
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just go and ask him why he is acting like this lately
ask him if the reason because you have broke he s phone and tell him it was accidentally
tell him you don t want to lose him your friendship or what you have because of this
and you are so sad that he is ignoring you and you miss what you have before
talk to him the truth be brave
and if you want any help i m here for you
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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I don't know if this is the right category, but I am in university. I go to a small private university and a bunch of my classes have about 10 or so people in them.
Because of the small class size, there is a lot of professor-student interaction and questions and things.
I usually know the answer when the professor asks a question, or at least have a reasonable guess, but I never put my hand up. I hate speaking in a group of people.
Almost every time the prof calls on me, I start talking but the first few syllables are completely inaudible. I hate it, and I wish it wouldn't happen because I would like to be able to answer questions. I just end up looking stupid, especially in my French course when it is a pronunciation excercise....
It's not just in class though like any time in life when I need to talk in a situation I am not 100% comfortable in I can't get the first bit out in an audible manner.
Why? What can I do to fix it?
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hello this is Pamela Kaspar ,
i would like to help you
well as i understand you have a self confidence issues as i can see
have you ever try before you speak or answer a quest to be more relaxed i ll give you a small example to do :
just try to take a deep breath , while you are saying in your heart of course for not looking weird try to say nice stuff to you like (while you taking a deep breath ):
you know the answer , you can do it , you want look stupid this time, you are brave smart strong try it and do it in your house in front of a mirror
look into the the mirror right into your eyes and say :
i won t look stupid every time
i can do it
why should everyone be better than me
i ll better and stronger this time
and don t be afraid just raise your hand in the class and answer what could possible be bad in it
think about it why is so bad ?you may answer wrong ? it s okay you are there to learn . you may answer right you are not the teacher , the class may make fun off you ? who is better than you ? think about it and remember you are strong you can do it if you ever need help i ll be there text me
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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I met a guy on deviant art who was 20 (I'm 13 but I turn 14 on January 7th) and we started talking. I never had my age or name up on my profile. Or how I looked like. So he didn't know how old I was or any of that. He saw my art, though and thought I was so great. He had a fan fiction series he was writing and I suggested he made a Wattpad account for it. So he did. And we chatted on there more. One day I suggested he added a cover to his fan fiction and he said he wasn't too good at making covers so I offered to draw one for him. I finished it within a week (I think). He loved it and even told me I did so well, he kinda wanted to give me virtual kisses because of it. I was kinda shocked and didn't know how to respond at first. Then I replied- "That's cute. *virtual kisses* 😘" He did the same. Ever since, we'd been giving each other virtual kisses and I was had been so into him while we were talking as friends so I went along with it. Later on, we got pretty close and I lived it. However, one day I was just looking around at his profile and I saw it. He was 20 effing years old. I didn't know what to do because I was already so into him and thought my age could scare him off. But I ignored it for a while. Months later (and quite recently) he asked me how old I was and my hear freaking SINKED. I freaked out big time and didn't know what to say. I was thinking "Should I tell him my real age?" "What if he never talks to me again?" "What's gonna happen?" Eventually, I freaked out and told him I was 15, thinking it would freak him out a little less (again, I'm 13). His reaction wasn't really good at first but he said he'd wait for me and he thinks I'm turning 18 in 2019 but I'm really turning 18 in 2020. So instead of 3 years, he'd have to wait 5 years for me to turn 18. It's almost been a month since then and I'm in love with this guy. I know how he looks, how he sounds, and everything. He has a YouTube channel as well but anyways yeah. We've been texting on Kik for awhile now. But idk what to do, PLEASE HELP. WE'VE BEEN FLIRTING A LOT AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET EACH OTHER ONE DAY. IM SCARED HOW HE'LL REACT AND THAT HE'LL STOP TALKING TO ME!!! HELP!!!!!
I don't even CARE if he doesn't want a relationship. Just having him still talk to me will be enough. (link)
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hello this is Pamela Kaspar i would really like to help you , okay lying to someone you want to be close with is bad , but you did the right thing because you were scared to lose him after all i suggest don t tell him now the truth just try to forget about it and no matter if he will meet you someday it s only 1 year you have change it , he won t know that just because he met you and for sure he won t ask for your Id right now , so don t be afraid now about that just wait to see if he would really wait for you and if he did from years to now he will be fall in love with you for real than after a couple of years tell him and explain that you were scared to lose him that s all , let time takes time and wait , don t panic don t be afraid . that s all if you need any more help i would like to help you text me and i ll be there ..
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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hello my names madison my ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago we have been dating for 1 year and 1 month he said he needed space and now he's with some other girl he claims they're "just friends" but i could see there is more i never did anything to hurt him if anything he hurt me and i just want to move on but i keep crying at nights knowing he docent even care and that he is holding someone else hurts so bad! someone please help Thank you! (link)
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well hello young lady i am pamela kaspar well i know it won t help you but he is such of jerk what you should do is to tell me what you ve been up lately so i can understand a little why he did that ? did he changed lately ? anyway what you should do first is to make him regret and second to try to have another man not to be in a relation with you need him as a friend more trust me my ex did that but he regret it and come back to me ... but i was totally forget about him
so what you should do is do anything he likes before with someone else take a pic like you are happy like you moved on and share it so he can see it take some pic at a party or with some guy that he hated really bad mean while try to be close as a friend with a boy who you are sure he likes you we should talk more so try to text me so i can see what he s reaction when he saw your pictures he will pick like talk to you ? block you ? just talk to me i?could help you and by the way how old is he
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Hello, I am a 13 year old girl. My parents are Catholics and so is most my family (and it's not like the non Catholic ones are outside of Christianity-they are methodists, protestants, etc) but I'm Wiccan, and have been for 4 years. Well, actually, ever since I was really little I never fit in with the church and thought other things, I just didn't find a name for it until later. I do as much as I can to practice my faith. But my parents (particularly my mom) want to force me into it! My mother keeps saying "blah blah blah take the good with the bad!" But if I can find a religion (*cough* Wicca *cough*) that (in my opinion) has no bad why should I settle for something else?! And she keeps talking about keeping an "open mind" but I have and that's why I'm Wiccan! My plan is as soon as I'm off on my own I leave the church (I've done research and found out how), join a coven and say bye bye to Catholicism but I just feel so sick thinking about having to be catholic until I'm an adult. I study very hard in school so I can get my own place and support myself as quickly as I can, and leave quicker. What I want to know is, is this legal (I live in New York) and if it is, how else can I get out of this? Absolutely no part of me wants this. (link)
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well hello i should of course advice to be that perfect child but no as my opinion i think you need some time to realize what you really want to do so just take a deep breath try at once to enter that church and see what s wrong with it go make some research about all religion that you want to know about take some time to make a good decision then i ll tell you what you should do and how to deal with this situation with your parents ... believe me i can help you about it ... i ve been trough this once with my family they are orthodox but i chose to be another thing ...
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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So, I'm in seventh grade and I have had this crush on a boy ever since sixth grade started. He used to be one of my close friend's friend in fifth grade before my friend moved away, so I know a bit about him. It gets really hard for me to focus in any classes I have with him, I'm not overly obsessed or anything but I just really like him but as I'm pretty shy I don't know how to tell him because we've maintained a friendly-acquaintance relationship over a year now, and I haven't even had the nerve to open up to a friend as him, let alone tell him I like him... I'm just way too shy and afraid he just won't look at who I am as just a friend again, or that word will get around the school and people will bug me about it. Can anyone help me to let him know I like him, and what to do if things go wrong? Or, at the very least, how we can be good friends? (link)
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well you shouldn't act so fast about it in case you lost him as my experiences ... cause i already pass it you should wait a little so i can understand in what situation you are ... and i don t know anything about him what if he told everyone at school you should help me to know him better so i can help you trust me i can do it i can help you i ve been through the worth if you want my help my username is pamelakaspar96 text me more .... and thank you
best regards
Pamela Kaspar
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