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I'm 16f I lost myself over the past couple year actually when I started to really like boys. Like 6th grade that when I lost myself because over the years I've changed so guys could like me I change for every guy I like as in I turn to there interweave that I don't even know what I truly like. I feel lost and alone. Never had a boyfriend or kiss. I remember when I was all into sports and I allways wore shorts but since I lost myself Im not really good in anything. I'm not good in a particular thing I feel like I'm not good at anything that I can't do anything right. I just want to get good grades and find what I really like. How?? I study so much and I still get b's in my family everyone gets A's I get some A's and some B's.help (link)
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Dear friend, I can definitely understand what it feels like to be confused or even depressed, like when nothing seems to be going right. There are a few different things in your question that I could respond to, but for the sake of time, and clarity, I am just going to respond to one of the most important things you want to know about: knowing who you are, and what you truly like.
I think that you are in good company, first of all. Many people around your age, struggle to understand who they are and what is important to them.
One of the best ways to learn about yourself is to get in the habit of writing a journal. It can be something that is only for yourself, or you can even choose to share it, as a blog, as some do.
If this is new to you, you can try it first as "freewriting," writing just whatever comes out, without trying to make it one way or another. The best way to start this is just to set aside 5 minutes, or 15, or 30, or even more! to write. Then just start writing, no matter what comes out, no matter how crazy, silly, boring, scary, embarrassing it seems. And keep going without changing or correcting, until the time is up!
You can then play games like imagine you are interested in someone else, and asking them questions about what their values are, what things inspire them, what makes them happy. Hypothetical questions like "what would you do if your brother stole some money from a stranger?" or "If you could travel anywhere in the world and stay there for 1 week, where would you go, and how would you spend your time?"
What's nice about this, is that you can have the opportunity to see the thoughts and feelings you had today, in the future. This gives you a better handle on how you are now, and it also gives you an awareness of your freedom of choice, and how the choices you make now will impact the future.
I realize this is long-winded, and I apologize for that. I wanted to share this with you, but didn't want to take the time to revise it.
I know that you will be able to take what is valuable from it, and let the rest go.
Thanks for reading this!
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Are there any painless ways to commit suicide? I have given up on life and pretty much want it to end since nothing seems to go right anymore. If you want some back story then I will be breif. I am 22 and have attempted suicide two times and they were obviously failed attempts. The first time I shot myself in the chest and survived, the second was overdosing but again failed. I have tried changing my life around but to no success. I have no parents to turn to and I have no siblings. My friendlist is zero and well...I think this can only be fate I suppose. Can anyone recommend a simple method? (link)
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Are you any better? Just following up...
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I have made up my mind to commit suicide so please dont talk me out of it. If you knew what im going through you'd have mercy on me and shoot me yourself. I solemnly request you to tell me the easiest way to end my existence. I want to over dose. But the problem is that i DONT WANT MY SUICIDE ATTEMPT TO FAIL so please tell me an exact amount of valium pills that I should take ( Im 18 years old) that would ensure that my suicide attempt doesnt fail. My dad beats me. And grounds me. So I cant leave the house and occupy myself in other activities. If I could I would never have contemplated suicide but trust me when I say this that suicide is the only way out from this relentless torture. Please tell me a way that would ensure that my attempt doesnt fail because if it does I'd be doomed for life. I'll wait for your reply. (link)
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National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255): Suicide hotline, 24/ 7 free and confidential
Samaritans 24-hour suicide prevention hotline (212) 673-3000,
just in case you might get serious, or stay serious about this...
here are two numbers that might also be helpful for your questions.
GOOD LUCK and HUGE AMOUNTS OF LOVE
I CARE, AND SO MANY CARE AND WISH YOU WELL, YOU PROBABLY DONT KNOW OR CANT NOW RIGHT NOW HOW MANY ARE ON YOUR SIDE AND ROOTING FOR YOU
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I’m a 19 year old boy; I started stammering from the age of 5, Everyday my stammering get worst each day. My classmates tease me and I’m very sad. And because of my stammer I never had any good friends and I always sit alone in my house. Sometimes I just feel to suicide because of my miserable life. Is there any cure for my stammer?
Somebody told me that hypnosis therapy would cure my stammer. (link)
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YES there are ways to cure it. You are on a computer, so do some research and create a plan, a goal. I understand, growing up I had no stammer but still had no close friend and felt sad and lonely all the time.
I send you much love and good wishes for your healing and your growing more and more strong and well. You can be victorious over these issues.
SENDING LOVE
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Saw your reply on the painless suicide options. I am seriously considering this as no way out. I have no reason to live for another micro moment so no lectures or discourses please.
Just plain and simple. Can you help me end my life? No left right or centre advise. If you want I can pay you. Just thinking if some one can shoot a hole in my head........can pay him and also sign a note absolving him of any crime. It will be an authansia (link)
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I have had these thoughts: how to do it? What would be the most painless way?
I can tell that you are a smart person. So in making a decision about all this, you are probably aware that there is always more than one way to see something.
If you don't mind my suggesting something, I want to ask you if you might try to take your thinking a step or two back, and write about what went into your choice or decision.
I don't know where you are in your thinking at this moment. But try to take a look at it in terms of what is best for you, what is best for others, or for the world. Of course it is your decision, and I can understand since I have been there.
But first maybe you can learn something about what you are thinking and feeling. Maybe you can write about this.
I know that there are people in your life who love you so so much that you cant possibly know, and I know that there are people you might meet who you will bring love and joy to them. And I know that even me, far far away, so distant but so connected to you that I feel love and interest and concern for you.
Please choose carefully, and if you do want to go, please call one of these first, and share some of what is on your mind.
The Samaritans of New York
Confidential, non-religious, 24-hour suicide prevention hotline (212) 673-3000,
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255): Suicide hotline, 24/ 7 free and confidential
Apologies if this is a little corny, it is truly and deeply felt and it is true for me.
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Hi. I am a 16 year old female that has been very depressed. I went to a counselour to get help about 4 weeks ago. But im back to my normal self now. I want to know. What would be the quickest way to kill myself? I dont have gas though. (link)
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love and good luck with everything! I have been there.
here's a second number to talk to if you find you are in that state of considering suicide.
The Samaritans of New York
www.samaritansnyc.org/
Confidential, non-religious, 24-hour suicide prevention hotline (212) 673-3000,
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Im 13 and so depressed. I think i might be suicidal. I almost did an overdose before i went to school today. I guess that does make me suicidal. But instead of an overdose i just cut my wrist, hip, and thigh until you could barely see through all the blood. My question is do I need help? And if I do, what kind of help? I have no friends, i cant pass science or metal shop. And my drawings are getting bad. What should I do. Please help me. (link)
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DEAR person!
Sending out much love to you from far away!
If you ever feel serious about suicide, you are in good company, so so many of us have been through it, and felt exactly as you may feel
And so if it does become that serious, like you are considering, please try talking to these folks.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255): Suicide hotline, 24/ 7
The Samaritans of New York
www.samaritansnyc.org/Confidential, non-religious, 24-hour suicide prevention hotline (212) 673-3000
I am thinking about you. And sending you love.
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Well yeah I am feeling suicidal,
I just completed my ALevels in the UK and got my results about 2 weeks ago. I didn't do as well as I expected.
I literally worked so so so hard and at the end of it I didn't achieve the grades I needed to get into the medicine course at University.
The problem is all I've ever wanted to be was a doctor and I tried soso hard and just didn't make it. In the 2 years it took to do my alevels every single failure has just upset me more and more and now I really don't see the point in life.
Being a doctor means everything to me. The reason being, I lost quite a close fried just before I started alevel course and he commit suicide. This rereally upset me and I've talked about his death to my girlfriend at the time and still my girlfriend for over a year. I know that all I've wanted to do since that point is I wanted to be a doctor to help kids who feel like that.
I turned 18 a few months back and I have felt this feeling ever since I realised I can't do medicine. Its all I want to do, I've asked universities to accept me up to the point of begging but I understand that it will never happen.
My parents are v.supportive and told me to keep at it and as I asked them I told them make sure I stay in the house and just keep working till I get there. But realistically from the 2/3 weeks ago I got my results I know it will never happen and I just don't know what is the point in living this life when I am just empty.
Idk why I am posting on here I just feel like I need someone to talk to:/ (link)
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1-800-273-8255
24-hour National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
24-hour suicide prevention hotline
samaritans of new york
(212) 673-3000
I SEND LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU (I MEAN IT)
AND WILL BE THINKING ABOUT HOW YOU ARE DOING
PLEASE CALL THE ABOVE AND LET US KNOW HOW YOU ARE DOING
THERE ARE MANY WHO LOVE YOU, AND YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHO THEY ARE. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO YOU KNOW CARE ABOUT YOU, BUT YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH YOU MEAN TO THEM.
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im messed im 26 female in aa australia been soba 3 yrs i cld be a petifile i have had those bad thoughts and i have a character like one(indulgent)neva done anythng neva wil i fuck with my own hed i mess with my thts im past wanting to die i runing outa options.any ideas? (link)
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you need to slow down with your thinking. I don't know exactly what thoughts you have, but I can see from your writing that you make giant leaps in your thinking and feeling. You say you could be a pedophile. You say you have had bad thoughts. You say you have a character like one (a pedophile). You say you never did anything.
... it sounds like your thoughts are speeding fast! Maybe its not as bad as it feels. Maybe you had a weird thought about someone. It may not be that you actually want to do something sexually with someone who is super young. I know that most men (as I am one, and know many!) have had thoughts about women (or men) much younger than them. Hopefully of at least a legally adult age though.
Worst case, if you have had thoughts about children (I think thats the official definition) and they keep happening, you may have a problem. Maybe it's not as bad as you think. You say you never acted on the thoughts, and you probably don't want to do it. So if that is the case, at least you are not harming anyone, just suffering yourself.
If you have ideas of acting on those thoughts, if they are about kids, you definitely have to seek help, cause you could really hurt someone else's life (as well as your own). And you don't want to do that, right?
So the actual advice is:
Slow down, talk to someone like a psychotherapist, who knows the mind and thinking and people. Or start a journal, write down the thoughts that come to you, break them down and take a look at them. Write down how you feel, what you think. And you will start to know more about yourself. And you can see yourself more clearly.
You may have a biochemical difficulty in your brain, a problem, or a mental illness. You can get help for all these things.
Congrats on being sober. Stay sober, so you can choose your life. I believe that you can be in charge of yourself and not only NOT HURT people, but actually contribute to the world.
REMEMBER, even the best people have had terrible, mean, evil, ugly, prejudiced, unacceptable thoughts. But they as well as the rest of us, including me, try to focus on constructive, good, beautiful, helpful, giving thoughts in order to act on those most of the time.
SO, SLOW DOWN, WRITE, GET HELP, GET SUPPORT, TRY TO SEE THINGS CLEARLY. EVEN IF YOU HAVE THE WORST THOUGHTS IN THE WORLD SOMETIMES, YOU ARE VICTORIOUS BY NOT ACTING ON THOSE.
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i love a guy. i am basically indian and also from orthodox family. that guy has a love failure .he loves that girl even now. initially he was my friend.slowly i started getting those kinds of feelings.i proposed him.he never said no to me at the same time never said yes. his health is in worse condition. we have spoken about sex also.these days he does not like talking to anyone .i had a horrible fight with him last night.its my fault completely .i expected more from him.i love him so much.cant live without him and neither can i hide this matter from my parents. i think the easiest way is to commit suicide.i need ur advice. (link)
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I don't know how you are doing now. In case, I wanted to give you these 2 numbers, so you can get some support on this easily. Both these numbers are confidential, so there are no worries about anyone finding out anythings about what you say.
And both are open 24 hours a day:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255
(1-800-273-TALK)
Samaritans of New York
1-212-673-3000
good luck and let us know how it goes
much love,
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Hi, my boyfriend and I were dry humping on last weekend friday or saturdaay I don't remember. I was laying down on his bed on my stomack and I had all my clothes oon. And he had his clothes on . So I wore leggings and he had his pants on so he came on top of me. After he came he got up and I saw a big moist part on his pants se he was wet. So now I'm worry can spperm pass through leggings? Its because I didn't wear jeans can sperm pass through leggings?? And he changed himself but he was wet and that spottt soo can u guys please give me some right information ?? Btw I gave him a handjob a week befor that and he was lying down on his bed and he came under his shirt so he didn't get up but his put his dick under his shirt and after we went wash our hands but. Also because my hand got tired I used my feet but I washed my feet too so any risk in that ?? Right information please (link)
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For you to get pregnant, you would need to be in the ovulating stage (making eggs)(you are not always in this stage of your body),
and the semen (the fluid which contains sperm) would have to get INSIDE the vagina.
If you checked yourself and found that you were wet at the opening of your vagina, then there would be a CHANCE that sperm swam up in there all the way into the vaginal canal inside your body. But that is a chance ONLY if you were wet enough to have some liquid go inside you down there!
So it is really really unlikely in this case. Look up "signs of pregnancy" to know for the future just in case.
And always use protection (condom or other) if you have sex before you are ready to have children and be a mom for 20 years!
I hope this was helpful. Let me know if it wasn't and/or you need more info.
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Hey I'm 13 and thinking about taking my life. I don't know where to get help from. In scared to go to my parents so somebody please help. I feel worthless and nobody wants me in their life anymore. Any advice? (link)
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I really feel for you, so so much; I remember when I was your age, how lonely I felt, and had some thoughts just like you say. I remembered some ideas I had, some thoughts that came from reading books. From those books, I KNEW that there were other places, other people, things I could possibly do or experience. I knew that what I KNEW at that moment, what I FELT at that moment, was not all there was. There is MORE OUT THERE.
GOOD THINGS WILL COME, love, joys, fun, I promise you. If you can stick it out, you will learn that feelings do change. I send you so much love, an unbelievable amount of love to you as a fellow person.
One last thought for you, and then a recommendation for you.
Think of the world; there are kids and grownups who need so much: food, a friend, medicine, care, education... and the world needs so much to make it better for all of us.
If you grow up to be a doctor, teacher, artist, builder, police, minister, designer, you can bring happiness, hope, love, beauty, joy, or even save someone's life. If you live and grown up you will MAKE A DIFFERENCE for someone. YOU WILL MAKE SOMEONES LIFE BETTER. YOU CAN BE THE MAN OR WOMAN OF SOMEONE"S DREAMS!
If you dont live, you cannot do all those possible things, you cannot make someone or some people so so so so so happy.
I PROMISE YOU, PEOPLE LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU KNOW. I PROMISE THAT TO YOU.
Now a recommendation. Talk to someone. Some people. Someone who has experience with therapy or counseling. A good person, a kind person. There are suicide prevention hotlines. People who are there to listen and understand you.
KNOW that you are in company with many many thousands of people right now, who have thoughts like you have. And thats just now. People like me, who thought this in the past, there are millions more of us.
PLEASE CALL ONE OR BOTH OF THESE:
(800) 273- 8255 national suicide prevention lifeline
(212) 673 - 3000 samaritans of new york
both numbers are confidential; they won't tell anyone, or save your information, and they are open 24 hours a day
REMEMBER, THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU LIKE CRAZY AND WHO ARE ROOTING FOR YOU TO DO WELL AND BE HAPPY
LIKE I SAID, I AM ONE OF THEM
SENDING YOU HUGE AMOUNTS OF LOVE
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