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Q: 13/F

okay well me and this guy Jordan dated for 6 months and he dumped me in August. I know I had my chance before and everything but now i realize i still really like him! I really never stopped liking him acctualy. But now my best friend Chelsey is dating him!! What should I do? I can't tell Chelsey that I still like him becauase then She'll hate me forever. Should I try to break them up? Should I talk to Jordan about it or maybe straighten things out with Chelsey (( prefferably not )) ? Please help me. I'll rate 5's unless you're mean.

Sincerley,
Broken-hearted lover

so he dumped you already! so it means you have to carry on with your life.he is happy with your friend and definitly you dont want to hurt her by telling her you still like him.let them carry on with their life.you are still young you ll find a right guy oneday.or else you can still be a good friend to him and show him that you care about him.maybe soon or later he'll realise thet you are the one.till then live your life expand your circle of friends.god bless you.hope i helped.

Q: alright for this i dont want anyone telling me " that i should just let them be" or anything ..alright so this boy and girl...there going out...i lke the boy and the girl is my friend..they have been going out for like a week and they dont talk on the phone and barely see eachother...and i feel like i talk to the boy more than she does and so i want them to break up..want are some good ways to get them too?

ILL rate 5 for anyways..just not like " thats mean"

ahhaahahha dont worry girl i wont tell you that.you like him thats fine so wat if he is your friends boyfriend.what you can do is try to impress him.be a good friend to him or spend more time wit him.mayb he'll realise you are the one.try to be a good friend 1st.take care n may god bless you

Q: I really like this guy but don't know if he's into me? he's always flirting and looking at me. when we were in the car he kept rubbing his leg against mine. should I ask him out on a date with a group or just me and him? I am so confused.

help me!!!!!!!!!!!

hi i think you should conform 1st weather he really like you or not.no point you let him flirts with you but the relationship going no where.make sure he respects you 1st before you plan to go futher in your relationship.think deep you'll understand what i mean.god bless you.

Q: okay so im going to the movies wiht this guy i met through a friend(i guess you can say) on the internet ... he seems so swwet and nice..but i really want him to notice me when i see him....what are some ways for him to notice me?

i would say just be yourself really...he got to like you the way you are.and always remember being someone else wont bring you anywhere.you are special.... god bless you.hope i helped you.

Q: My boyfriend and I love eachother to death. We were best friends for four years before we decided to go out. We have been going out for five months. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive- desirable. I asked him, and he says he does. But he never calls me names like sweetheart anymore, and he lacks initiative. I don't know what to do.

wow bestfriends for 4years and you guys datng each other now that is so cool,anyway i think the problem is you guys are to comfortable with each other.im sure both of you know each other so well and there is nothing to explore anymore it happens.remember you cant force things to happen.the best thing is tell him how you feel.if the whole new relationship is not working i think you should put an end to it hey at least you can save your friendship of 4 years.think about it....it makes sense.god bless you.i hope i helped.

Q: I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.

come on girl your are just 16 dont let unessesary issues to worry you.its a good thing you are clear about the limits you want in a relationship keep up the good attitude.come on if you are not comfortable about kissing and stuff you can always say NO and if the guy really love you he will respect your decision.you must have confidents in yourself than the relationship will go smooth and the guy will look up to you.everyone is unique so dont ever look down at yourself im sure you are special in your own way.explore life stop worrying for small issues.life is too short.god bless you.

Q: there is this guy that i really like but he's really shy and he also sorta likes this other girl what can i do to make him really notice me or really make him want me? thanks.

since he is very shy i think you should do the talking awwww thats hard right?okay you can also try to stand out from other girls like doing the things that you are good at so he will notice you or maybe just be his good friend and show him you care.you cant please everyone but you can try your best.remember dont force him to fall for you.be a friend firts everything will follow next.GOD BLESS YOU!

Q: okay so this guy and i have been hanging out a lot. he tells me he likes me, and says he wants to ask me out, but he still hasnt, he told me he was waiting for he right time...well i think he likes his ex gf, bc i was lookin at his phone and he had text messages for her...adn he said she just got a bf, and even tho he doesnt have feelings for her, its ripping him apart. ive already done a lot with him, which is pretty unusual for me, bc i have such a hard time trustung guys...yesterday he expected me to do tuff with him, and when i told him i didnt want to he figured something was wrong...i really like him... more then anyother guy ive ever liked... but i have no idea what to do about him... any ideas?? please help!!

hey girl i think the guy not sure himself wheather he likes you or not.so i guess you have to wait till he decides what he wants.At the same time you stay cool when your with him.have some pride and make sure he respects you.the whole process might take long but be patience maybe he is planing to suprise you.so till then enjoy life.god bless you.

Q: i'm having no luck getting a boy friend.
Are there any things i can do?
i dont mean like, as far as beauty things. but just flirting things...get things moving again.
thanks, i know its a weird quetion, but i do need help!
i rate high!

there is no such thing no luck for a boyfriend.perhaps you should expand your circle of friends.i know its sounds so lame when i say ull find the right one oneday but girl thats the fact you got to face it.take your time to get to know people ull find your mr.right oneday.god bless.

Q: i had five dreams about a boy he found out and ever sence hes been acting diffrent around me .i wanna bring it to a diffrent level of going out but hes not on the top of the food chain not that i am but hes higher then me .i dont want to get hurt more should i say strait up that hey i love u go out with me and have him make me crash or leave it where it is and wait to see if he makes the first move.im a girl and 11 but not to young to be in love

dont worry i wont tell ya that you are too young to love :-)but if he is acting strange towards you than you should just leave that way.sometime we have to let go the things that we love.or maybe you could just act cool maybe he is planing to suprise you.remember one thing theres alot of boys out there for you.god bless you.

Q: i was with this guy for almost a year and a half. we were so in love. problem was, we never saw each other because of his parents. but we stuck through it. we started going to church together, but his family decided to change churches about two weeks ago. so i started dating another guy, mostly to piss my ex off. but it didn't work. my ex and i started talking today about how we love each other, etc. but we got in an odd fight online tonight. i don't even know how it escalated. but we blocked each other on practically all of our screennames. and he told me he was gone forever. i want to move on, but i love him so much i just can't. i don't think any of you can help me, but it feels really good to get everything off my chest.

actually you are right no one can help you but your self.the best solution would be go and talk to him.have a chat and make things clear.i know love hurts but if you love him so much go and see him.who knows your boyfriend feel the same way.take care.i hope i helped u some how.

Q: Well I really really like this guy and he knows it but he doesnt like me back and i really want him to hes a friend of mine but wont see me as more as that, he doesnt have a gf or anything and i dont think he likes anyone so any tips to get him to like me or what i should do about this?
ps. he has liked me before for a while when i didnt like him if that means anything

Thanks so much
I'll rate high!

hey girl take a pill and chill.if you want him to be your friend be a friend firts.so he knows you like him opppsss.... so what act cool and dont overeact in front of him.and please please n please dont bug his life or force him to like you,have some pride.remember girl you cant make everyone to like you.just follow the flow.take care and god bless you.