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I'm a twelve year old girl and need cash...fast.
I owe:
$29 to my mom for not returning books borrowed from the library using her card
$6 more to my mom for breaking her compact powder (I'm clumsy)
$10.65 to library for books not returned
I also need a lot of extra cash because we're taking a trip in five days. My mom deprived me of $50 (birthday money I just got yesterday) because of the $35 I owe her. Add in all those expenses and that leaves me with... negative $90.35. ( I have $5) I also need to buy summer clothes (my closet is full of sweatshirts and long pants). Help!!!!!!! :( (link)
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so your mom took $50 from you, but you "owed" her $35... sounds to me like now SHE actually owes you $15.
okay, this depends entirely on your mom, whom i know nothing about, but she's your MOM, she should be able to understand if you calmly explain your situation to her. ask her if you could do some extra chores for a set price per hour to make up those $35 you owe her, and upon completion give you back your $50. if she agrees, let her set the price per hour and do the required work before you have to leave on the trip. then you'll have $55 again. if she doesn't agree, then at least reason with her that since you owed her $35, and she took $50 from you, it would be fair if you got your $15 back, that would at least allow you to pay back your library fees.
your mom can't possibly expect you to buy all your own clothes? i know sometimes it's really hard to prove to your parents that you need clothes, but i think you should be able to reason with her for at least a limited sum, such as $30. of course, bring that up after you've completed your extra chores to get your birthday money back. with that money you can try going to a thrift store - i know it sounds totally uncool, but college students LOVE thrift stores, and if you dig long enough you will find something nice that no one will be able to tell isn't new. $30 in a thrift store is enough to buy you 5-8 clothing items.
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how do you put on a tampon
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as a beginning tampon user, buy tampons with applicators. it's been a long time since i've used them, but i think tampax pearl would be a good one to try. it will look like this:
http://rostam.co.il/images/pages/19_20091111021506.jpg
they have instructions, but i remember it took me many tries to figure it out (though i started with o.b., which have no applicators!). it may be a bit hard or scary if you don't handle your vagina much, but don't freak out. if you are not too familiar with your vagina, start by trying to stick a finger in it when you shower, just to figure out where your vaginal opening is and what it feels like. if you don't feel comfortable doing that, then just start with trying to insert the tampon. wash your hands, sit down on the toilet, slouch down, unwrap a tampon and try inserting the rounded tip of the tampon into your vaginal opening, while holding it with 2-3 fingers at the opposite end of the wider plastic part (the strip in the middle in the picture). hold the applicator so that it's aimed towards the center of your belly. once you push it in at least one inch, or all the way to where you're holding it, push the long thin plastic part in. once you push it in as far as it will go, remove the applicator - your tampon should be in and the string will be sticking out, so you can remove it. you have to change your tampon less than every 6 hours.
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I just started thinking. When I was little I was climbing this metal bar thing and I ended up slipping and landing down there. (I'm a female) When I got home I was bleeding a little. Not sure where because I was 4 or 5. Maybe even 3. Anyway I'm wondering if my hymen could have broke. It is possible isn't it? Just curious. I'm not planning on having sexual intercourse until marriage. Thank you! (link)
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it's possible that it caused your hymen to tear a little, but keep in mind that it doesn't just break like the popping of a balloon, it doesn't even always break completely from having sex once, or with one partner. even if your hymen got torn that time, i'm sure it was just a little bit. of course, it's not uncommon for girls to have broken their hymen before ever having had sex, but i think it's usually from prolongued activities, such as horse back riding or masturbation. i broke my hymen a little before having had sex by using menstrual cups, and i still bled plenty when i lost my virginity.
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I'm feeling ashamed of myself, because I've been thinking that I may have been sexually "abused" as a child. My father is an alcoholic & is a violent & careless person when he drinks. I am the youngest and only girl. When I was younger than 8, my dad would watch soft-core porn while I was in the room. Sometimes he would make me put my blanket over my head. Typically, I was in a different seat than him, so he wasn't touching me. My dad has always been blunt and open about sex or sexuality to us kids. Once when I was in bed between my parents after a nightmare, he reached over and squeezed where I would have breasts had I been old enough & squeezed my vagina. Not sure if he was asleep or not, but it scared me badly. He's always made comments about my breasts, even when I didn't have any. I had a recurring nightmare as a child of being sexually molested by a teenage boy in a public setting. I have a lot of anxiety issues, suffered from severe depression, & have had suicidal thoughts since I was in elementary school.
I'm extremely ashamed of myself for even considering that I may have been sexually abused as a child. I know my dad loves me and wouldn't be upset to be accused of such a thing. I have sexual problems & have always had major self-esteeem issues. I don't want to think that I was sexually abused if I wasn't. I don't know that I was touched or assaulted and most of this happened before my 8th birthday. I am now 30. I was date raped by an acquaitance in my own home when I was 22.
Does it sound like legitimate abuse, or am I just being too sensitive? I don't want to belittle legitimate abuse by making an accusation when it's not really abuse. I appreciate genuine, thoughtful responses. (link)
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no, you are NOT being overly sensitive! he touched you inappropriately, and exposed you to material that's age-inappropriate in an irresponsible way, that's abuse even if it hadn't had the effect on you that it did. unwanted touching (touching your vagina and breast), sexually suggestive statements (talking about your breasts) and exposing a child to pornography all count as molestation or sexual assult. and it's not just some legal formality - it's because children are really affected by those things, as you seem to have been. even ignoring the official definition of sexual assult and molestation, just think about the fact that if you feel that you're still affected by those things, then obviously something was really, really wrong.
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21 female
I'm going to try and make this as short as possible..
There is this guy. He thinks I have big boobs, but I only have B's. The reason he thinks this is because I wear the miraculous bra from Victoria's Secret that's supposed to make you look 2 cup sizes bigger.
Now I'm afraid to ever take off my bra. It's not that I'm insecure of a guy seeing me naked, it's just that he's gonna be disappointed i feel. Every time he says something about my boobs I'm like "you're crazy, there not even big" and stuff like that.
What should I do? I am way to embarrassed to be like "yeah I wear a push up bra with ALOT of padding in it" And the thing is he's not experienced when it comes to being physical with a girl so I'm thinking maybe he would just be happy to see me topless but I don't know. What do you think I should do?? (link)
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well, if you want to be intimate with the guy, then you have no choice but to reveal yourself. i think the least embarrasing way to let him know would be to say it next time he comments about your breast size, something like "sweetie, do you even KNOW what a push-up bra is? i have B cups. you know, like fist-size" or something that YOU would be likely to say in an off-handed, casual way. don't be nervous about it - the guy needs to learn a lesson, anyway, that he shouldn't pay so much attention to a girl's boobs and that clothed boobs and naked boobs are two very different things. and naked boobs are more fun no matter what size they are ;)
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