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I have a guy friend and he wanted to have me as his gf but i just dont have that chemistry for him. So, we are settle for only a friendship not relationship but i know and everyone says he still has feelings for me, but he doesnt mention them because he knows I don't have them for him and he truly loves me as a sister but maybe a little more and everyone tells me it's just going to take some time to get all of the "more than a sister feelings gone. I accepted him to be my brother cuz my real brother never cares for me but i have said before for being just brother and sisters is not a forever thing sooner or later we would have our own separate paths to go.
Anyway, the other day he wrote me a poem saying Life is short:
It takes a min to find a special person
I hr. appreciate them
A day to love them
Entire life to forget them
Send this poem to the people you 'll never forget. It's a short message let them know you'll never forget them. If you dont send it to anyone in a hurry that means you've forgotten your freinds.
I have egnored the poem and the next day he asked me why you stopped emailing me are you upset? He said something wrong? pls tell me I would change and if so im sorry.
I replied him back and said why would i be upset?
I was just busy.
I started to open up and share stories and talked about my day.
The next day he sent me another poem saying:
Friends are like stars
You can't always see them , but you know that they're there and they shine brightness when all seems dark.
Thank you for being my friend.
He also sent a teddybear pic and saying if I would like a teddybear for x-mas.
So, is he saying he'll never forget me and we should really enjoy the friendship while it last?
I dont know why it seem to be a big thing to him. Have he given up on me and settle to be a brother? or maybe he is still trying?
I know I dont like the way he looks. He isnt' handsome but everytime when I recevied his calls, emails, or poems. I'm thrilled and i feel special. DO I actually have feelings for him?
or maybe I just like the attention?
I know if I dont hear from him for 3 days I would wonder what happened? I would start miss hearing from him cuz we been talking for 6 months everyday and it seem I'm addicted to checking my emails daily and knowing he would call me everyday.
I'm not sure if its the addiction but when he added a new girl just on fb before and msg her i would get curious who she was and would get mad at him. ( well now he doesn't do that anymore) but
maybe is nature that women likes the attention and i just feel he had given part of my attention to the other person and that's why
i didnt liked it but that doesnt mean i was jealous and like him right?
p.s
I'm not sure if i want to get into a relationship but is it possible that ill fall for him one day? (link)
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well honey
he hasn't given up on you and it sounds to me like he is a real charmer. and you need to know that looks are not everything and that you will not always look the way you look now and he will not always look the ways he looks now. so i would not be brother and sister but i would be friends and you should really ask yourself what you want in a bf.
good luck
grandma d
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I like this boy who is 17 and im 18 and we flirt all the time. I told him i liked him but he told me that we should be friends FOR NOW..
What does that mean?
Does he want to get together later or am i setting myself up for heartache?
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hello honey
i would be careful with boys like this. where they do one thing and say another. i would look carefully at how he talks and treats other girls because he may just be a flirty guy but if he is only flirting with you but then saying "friends for now" well he is setting you up. he is saying i like you your cute your something i would like to be with but i'm looking for something without strings. and that is a trap that will give you heartache.
good luck
grandma d
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I am a 15 year old female and theres this guy that I've been talking to for a while. Apparently, I like him alot and I know he likes me even though hes too shy to say it. The thing is, my friends are on my case because hes a bit of a dork. Hes not bad looking, but hes not exactly Prince Charming. I want to be his girlfriend, but I'm second guessing it because of the remarks my friends make. What should I do? (link)
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hello honey,
i have many best friends and they have always stuck with me even though they may not have agreed with my decisions. sometimes friends are right but sometimes they are wrong they think just about themselves just like all people so i would really look at your friends complaints against this guy and if they are in anyway right or on to something then don't but if they have no backing then give the guy a chance but you better know that you like him not that "apparently" you do.
good luck
grandma d
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Okay well I've been with, my now ex, on anf off since 7th grade ( now in 9th ). Well we broke up about 3 weeks ago and I thought that i had lost my feelings for him and began liking this other kid. Well it was all going great, me and this new kid were really starting to lik eachother, that is till i saw my ex.. I DONT KNOW what it was but when I saw him, i just missed him so much and i wanted him back..
I REALLY REALLLY LIKE this new kid,
but I REALLY REALLY miss me ex.
I dont know if i should drop the new kid and try it with my ex, or forget and move on !?
SOME ONE HELP !
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hello darling,
this new kid sounds great and the old kid sounds great but i don't think its benefiting you worrying about either. girls in the world worry too much and if both of them like you let them battle it out and the winner will get you. let them worry and you relax. focus on school and then when your school work and extra curricular activities are under control then you can pick and when picking go with your gut(your heart) listen real closely to what your heart says and don't let the emotions get the best of you because making a decision based on emotions is never a good idea.
good luck honey
Grandma d
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i've been going out with this guy (we're both 14) for the past three months and we recently broke up cuz my mom was absolutely against it...but the thing is its just been a few days since we broke up and already i'm missing him soooo much. everytime i see him in school i catch him looking at me and my friends say that behind my back he cant take my eyes off of me!!! none of us wanted to break up and i miss everything i used to do with him...you know all the holding hands, kissing and hugging stuff...and im just so sad now...i know we cant be in a proper relationship because my mom is really unnecesarily strict about these things...she's forbidden me from TALKINg to him...but i love him so much oh god and i know he loves me too...i know there isnt anyway we can be together unless we do what my friend and HER bf were doing which is basically that they managed to stay apart a whole month and then got together for one day every month...it worked for them but im really scared of my mom now and no matter how much i tell her i love him she wont listen to me...so do you all think that would work? it sounds kinda kinky to me and i dont think he would agree because he's said this before that he wants all of me and not just bits and parts...but im so scared right now and i also love him so much!!! I know there's no way out of this but i guess i just need some reassurance...please help me!! (link)
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hello honey,
this guy sounds like a great guy and all but your only 14. i know you've proabably heard that a lot before but its the truth and i would give the same advice to a couple who was 17 or 18. don't rush it. time can be on your side or against you. be patient take it slow explain to the guy how much you like him and let him know you want to take it slow and then do just that. don't talk about love because that is whats getting your mom so angry. she is thinking to herself "O my god. my child is 14 and she thinks she loves this kid!"
so be patient and be friends become best friends and even better bf and gf.
good luck honey.
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well to start im 17/f and this is a problem with guys.
guy a: well to start i like someone and he likes me but the relationship isn't going anywhere. we barely talk and he's going through this depression which is hard to explain. i really like him for his personality though, when he's not depressed, but he's good looking too.
guy b: we dated on and off in middle school but nothing serious. (nothing is ever serious in middle school) he wasn't my first kiss so its not like we have that connection. i liked him over the summer again and was at his house a lot and i was about to tell him i did but then he told me he liked someone, so i never told him and got over him. now about 2 weeks ago i was at his house with a lot of people and at the end of the night everybody left and it was just me and him. we were wrestling and he ended up on top of me and he made some sexual joke and was pretending to make out with me or something. so then after that we were talking and i started to realize i liked him again. BUT once again him and this other girl like each other. she's clingy and he doesn't know if he wants to start a relationship with her.
i dont know what to do. i don't know who to focus on or who is worth liking. i've been single for so long (appx. 3years) and i absolutely hate it. its not that i feel i need a man to complete me, its just that being loved (by people other than friends and family) makes me so happy. just the thought of having a relationship where someone smiles every time they see you and give you a hug like theres no tomarrow and having someone to cuddle with you during romantic movies. i love it! help me please. (link)
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Well this is a common dilemma for most people as you know and i've had experience in this area too. and it worked out good with guy b but it took a lot and i mean a lot of hard work and that guy b had to change some things about himself. either choice can work but i believe guy b would be a better choice if and only if you get him to like you. that means play hard to get. don't avoid him but get him hooked. not like a skank but be amazing and show him that you are who you are and the blinders will come off the guy will see clearly and finally see what he's got.
good luck honey.
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Hey ima 13/f and i these dreams at night ware ima lezbian and dont get me wrong or judge me okay. But i dont think its just my dreams i think its accualy getting to me i think im a lezbian and like for some odd reason i have the erdge to touch other women and i have tolled my friends well kind cuz im afraid that if i tell them that they wont wanna hang out with me anymore but please help me
Love,
think ima you know....:( (link)
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I've lived a long time and i once had a friend who was lezbian well two and i would advise you to not be a lezbian because that was first not how we as people were intended to be. god gave us vagina's and dicks for a reason. i would resist these urges and confide in not all your friends but just one friend who you trust the most and who has and will always be there and tell them your dilemma and ask them for help.
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