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I'm just some girl. I don't really stand out much unless I'm on a stage. I'm not loud unless I get angry. And I don't love unless its proven to me first. I've been hurt almost beyond repair by people I've loved and trusted. But I can only grow from that. I live my life by my own accord. I love my parents more than anything, they have given me an amazing home to grow up in, someplace I want to come back to. I have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for a long time, he's helped me get through a lot. We've been each other's rock when times got hard.



I have my dreams and aspirations, and while some may not come true... the most important things is to know I've tried my hardest. I trust my intuition more than I trust any living person. My gut has never failed me, but unfortunately, I have failed it.



Someone once told me that I don't live in the "real world", that I live in a box - fortunately for that person, they never lived my life. My life is real to me, and me alone. I've been through a lot... I've been hurt, I've laughed.. I've seen life, and death... tears of sadness and tears of joy. I've felt every emotion known to man. Hatred, Love, Sadness, Joy, Ultimate Bliss, Anger.. So don't judge me until you actually get to know me. There's more to me than just about anyone knows. Even my closest of friends.



I'm the "Dear Abby" of all of my friends.

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Kinda late at night but ohk..

I am writing a note letter to my ex that lives in florida i live in maine 6 months ago we broke up and don't really talk that much. I love him to death but he tells me constantly that he was not a great boyfriend and i need to get over him he wants me to because he feels it would be easier on me. he claims to be totally over me even tho we were in love. But ohk he was full of shit on the word so just dont believe it lol. well in this letter i want to tell him stuff like how i feel about him now, what he taught me like in the way of what to really look for in a guy and dont fall in love fast, stuff like that.17/f

Quite honestly, as someone who has been in this situation 2 too many times. (two long distance relationships.) I live in MA and both of my exes live in Florida. I thought that by writing a letter telling one of them how they had helped me see that there is more to a relationship than loving someone and all of those wonderful things you want to write in your own letter.. I thought it would help. Maybe it would bring him back.. or maybe it would help me get over him. But it didn't work. Quite honestly, I feel it was a waste of my time and words. Save your meaningful words for a guy who will truly love you and understand that a relationship is more than just love.

If I could give you any bit of advice, it would be to NOT write that letter. Or maybe to write the letter, but don't send it. Getting everything out on paper might help, without actually going through with sending it. You have learned your own lessons about love and life.. let him learn his on his own.

I hope I helped, hun. Good luck.

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Okay...There is this guy that is older then me, and I wanna know his name, but I am to scared to go up and ask him, and I dont want my friends to ask because I will feel stupid, I spy on him sometimes...Lol...But I am getting off the subject talking about that...But ANYWAYS, I am rwaly shy when it comes to meeting and talking to new people, I need to know exactly what to say, how to stand, what kind of expression I need on my face...Lol J/k, But I need some help on what to say and do, and when I should talk to him, should I bring a friend with me..lol...What if my face turns red, and what can I do to calm myself down and also make myself so I dont giggle? I am sorry, this is realy stupid, But still, it is realy hard for me to talk to people who are older then me, especailly guys!

Quite honestly, I think you should just go up and say hello and introduce yourself. If it helps, have a friend go with you. I understand being shy.. taking deep breaths and just going over some things in your head helps. Trust me, I've been there. Its hard to talk to someone you like.

As for the stalking... don't let him catch you because then he might get scared. My honest advice about that would be to stop. Just introduce yourself, and then you will be able to be around him in the open without hiding.

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ok,(im 14 male and shes 13 female)and we were fooling around the other day.she was on top of me so on so on.I know shes not ready for anything oral or actual sex.I got really "hot and bothered" and i started undoing her pants and it didnt feal right.i asked her "are u sure ur ready"? and she says "I dont know not really but i REALLY want to beacuse i know itll feal good so im not going to stop you" i didnt want her to regret anything we did so i stoped.Did i do the right thing beacuse she says shes not ready but she wants to beacuse itll feal good?and should i ask if shes ready next time it happens?

You definitely did the right thing. She wasn't ready, and quite honestly, I don't think you were either. You should never have sex just because it will feel good. Sex should be about emotion.

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they say the proof of gods existance is within the bible, but the reason i should believe the bible is because god said it. in other words, i should believe god is real if he said these things. that is like believeing someone who says they are honest, because they told you so. what do you think

When you're little you can't help but believe what everyone tells you - because you feel you have to believe its true. You don't know any better. But once you get older and start taking a deeper look into things, you realize that there's always going to be something that doesn't quite fit. Fixed religion is the same way.. I get the same thoughts when I think of it. I agree with what you said.

As well as everyone else - welcome to the Agnostic Club.

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OK this is really ticking me off. I stopped my period the 27th and i JUST got it back today, which is the 8th..im getting really ticked because my periods NEVER regular its always early but this is the EARLIEST. I'm getting really frustrated because my periods getting in the way of plans and i dont know its just SO ANNOYING! what can I do about it??

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When I got my periods they were a little scattered too and the cramps sucked beyond belief. What I ended up doing, mostly for the cramps, was go on the Pill. And suddenly my period got lighter and it started falling exactly 28 days apart.

Now, I'm not saying the Pill is some miraculous cure for a sporatic period - because there are a few side effects and risks that go along with getting on it. But I think that you should talk to your doctor about possible medications or even exercises you can do that could make your period a little more predictable and spread apart. Your doctor would know what was best for you.

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how do i make my tummy flatter and get skinnier thighs? please help. what can i do?

Crunches are a wonderful way to get a flatter stomach. I tried sit-ups for a while, but they didn't seem to do enough. If you do 10 regular crunches, and then 10 crunches angling your shoulders to each of your knees.. then you will get a great workout for your stomach. Once you get used to doing crunches that way, you can do more difficult ones, such as holding your feet up in the air and crunching that way.

For skinnier thighs I would suggest walking on a treadmill, doing squats, jogging and even swimming.

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I haven't started my period, but wanna ask 2 questions for when it comes:

1) Do you bleed all the time or is it like discharge, and comes out everyonce and a while.

2) It says you supposed to stay very clean when you have it. Itake baths cause my shower doesn't work. When I take a bath would thewater get all blooding during my period.

If you have any other info about it;;please tell me =) I'll ate 5 for good answers

The person who already answered this question sent you a lot of good sites to check out. But I disagree with their answer for your first question.

1) A period is different for each person. Some people bleed almost constantly, some people off and on during the days that their period lasts. I wish I could give you a definite answer, but this is something that you most likely won't know until you finally get your period.

Also, certain things like swimming and exercise lessen blood flow depending on who you are.

2)Baths are a great way to stay clean. Soaking in a nice warm bath is both cleansing AND calming. It should calm cramps (if you have any) and just relax all of your muscles. And not only that, but water does stop blood flow - so its kind of a temporary relief from your period.

Good luck, hun. And don't worry. Your period isn't really that much to worry about.

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Last year my Pre-Cal teacher told me that if I went on to take Calculus AP that I would flunk out by first report card. I knew that I wouldn't and the only reason I decided to take the class was because she said that about me even though I kept an A+ average in her class. Well, it's coming around to the end of the semester and I now have an A in Calculus AP. I was wondering; if this happened to you, would you tell your old teacher about your grade?

This all depends on the situation. Besides actually going back and saying "Just figured I'd tell you, I am getting an A in AP Calc unlike how you said I'd fail." This could pose to be a very awkward situation. How would you lead up to the conversation and how would you end it? You have a great clincher, but do you see how this could be awkward for you?

You should definitely be proud that you are getting an A when the teacher said you'd fail. However, your reasoning for taking the class shouldn't be solely to prove the teacher wrong. Be proud that you got this grade because you are intelligent, and your resume for college will look great. Spend your time thinking about that, rather than proving that teacher wrong.

If you truly want to go back and say "Hey, you were wrong." Then think about how you want to do it first. I wouldn't suggest doing that because I am a person who believes that something that far in the past should be left there, in the past. You know you're great in the class, you know you proved that teacher wrong.. would it really make you feel so proud to go and rub it in her face?

These are just some things to think about. I hope I helped you out. Good luck with the rest of your classes and I hope you pull a great grade on the AP exam.

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