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Q: Does anyone know where I could find some comforters for a teenager? My moms been bugging me for so long about this and I've already seen MACYS.COM, JCPENNYS.COM AND SEARS.COM and i cant find anything that i like! Help please?

i would try pottery barn teens or linens and things :]

Q: 15/f i really need some help! this is my first time ever using a tampon and i read all the directions and everything. i was using the regular size. anyways, i did what the directions said and all and there was this big chunk of the white part that would still stick out. it hurt really bad!! i tried 2 times and it happened both times. please help me. is there something wrong with me? or why wont it go in normally? what do i need to do? thank you!!!!

you just have to relax all your muscles and make sure you stick the applicator in far enough...i know with tampax you make sure the fatter part is all the way in and the skinney part..where your holding it...is out before you push the cotton out...you could try the teen sizes which are smaller and maybe easier...hope it helped :]

Q: My ex Boyfriend and I walk home from the bus everyday and today, we were talking about what we used to do.. (I gave him a handjob) and then when I got home I got a phone call from him and he was saying that do you want to be friends with benefits and I want to.. because I dont know if we could be in a relationship but i really like him and I dont know if I should or not because I feel like im being used but I want to be more than friends but less than a relationship. Because if I do this I have 2 guys that I'm friends with benefits with.. And this is my first time ever having guys that are friends with benefits.. but me and this guy have known eachother for 4 years and have gone out a lot but im physically attracted to him and he is to me.. so please help me.. My options are I should do it and have fun or not do it and not know what im missing but may save my self from hurt.. not sure.. because when it comes to this guy there is a lot of physical attraction but we always are friends in the end..

THANK YOU TO ALL THAT HELP!!!

;-)

I'll rate 5's

being friends with benefits means the guy gets everything he wants...pleasure with no strings attached and a good rep aroound school...all it gives you is...yeah some pleasure but a bad rep around school and possibly hurting you if you develop stronger feelings for him...i dont think friends with benefits is a good idea... :]

Q: ok so does anyone have any good questions i can ask my bf? like even if they are uncomfortable ones, you know? because im trying to think of some good ones and he said he wants me to ask some uncomfortable ones lol
we have been friends for like a year and we have been going out for a month if that helps. so questions like whats your favorite food wont help me much
thanks 5's for everyone

if you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be...have your parents ever walked in on you doing something they didnt want to see...when did you stop believing in santa claus...whats the funniest thing you have ever done with your friends...etc. i guess... :]

Q: there is this guy i met last summer at camp, and my group which was a co-ed group consisted of him. and he's really annoying me like on myspace when i put the bullentin boyfriend application a couple of days ago he said he was attracted to me/liked me and another application i posted a couple months before he said he liked me, and im #3 on his top 8 friends, but on his bday a couple of weeks ago he asked me for money hes like k if you want to give me anything give me money cause if you don't mind i want some money for my bday and i thought it was completeley rude, and to tell you the truth he's not that attractive and personality wise he is obnoxious and annoying. i haven't spoken to hiim in a long time which is good for me, but his headlines on myspace are also strange like "She's so hot" etc and i want to also ask him why he has these weird headlines by sending him a message but do you think thats too rude. But what should i do about the other part.
note- at camp he was stalking me everywere i went grrr.
thanks
~*~Brianna~*~

if you really are annoyed with him you could just take him off your friends on myspace...thats what i would do because he sounds really wierd.. you could message him but it prolly wouldnt be a good idea because if they are not about you that would be akward or he might think that you are maybe a little interested and curious :]

Q: i have an acoustic guitar. its probably about 6 years old and its out of tune. i love acoustic music! and i would love to learn how to play it. i have no idea how to read music though. can someone tell me how, internet sites, etc.

thanks!

i suggest learning things they call tabs because they are much easier than learning sheet music, in my opinion. you can find many guiter tab webpages with songs on them...to learn to play you could go buy a book at a music store if you didnt want to take lessons :]

Q: i am a 15 year old female and i no for sure that im ready to have sex.i no that seems alittle young but im mature for my age.the thing is i was kind of going out with this guy but not really.and i was ready to be intimate with hi but i didnt no what to say ti him. i felt ready because i was falling in love. but now we arent talking anymore.and i still am ready but now i dont no who.and i dont want to get a bf and have sex with hi after a day of going with him.should i get a new man and wait till it feels right with him.or go back to my old beau(boyfriend)

you might feel ready but its much more important to wait for the guy you want to be your first...he is going to be your first forever and you dont want to look back and regret it or for it to not have been special. dont go back to your old boyfriend just for sex, its just wrong.

Q: Ok, I need to know what is a good car to get. I don't have much money and need a type of car that doesn't suck up a lot of gas! Can anyone help me?

P.S. I am getting a used car not a new one if that makes a difference!

HELP!

stock honda civics tend to not eat much gas :]

Q: this is going to sound really stupid, but please try to answer as best you can? im 15/f

im used to being on the bottom when kissing, and when it's flipped around so im on top.. sometimes i feel like i might be too "forceful" just because im not good with the "control position." im used to the guys having control over it.. (and yes, i like it that way, if that makes any difference.)

my question is, how do you know how much to "control" when you're on top? how do you know if you're too much, or not enough? without actually asking the person?

any help would be great, thank you!

try to read what the other person wants...if you are being too forceful they might lean backwards away from you a little or not be into it as much...if you your not forceful enough they might start leaning into you more...if you can try to sense what they want, you can adjust :]

Q: ok well heres the thing i usually tend to have these out bursts well lets call them moodswings like one minute im all happy then the next im depressed i think i suffer from depression but on the other hand my mom thinks otherwise i hate my life and i feel that i would be better off dead i have attemped to commit sucide a few times i go to thepary but personally i feel me going there it isn't helping and im just wasting my time i need some advice or something before i go to far and hurt myself or do something worst!

therapy only works if you want it to work...you have to try to look at things from a more positive viewpoint. this can be really difficult without learning how, through therapy or seeking out someone else who can help. if you think you are depressed you should go to the doctors and see if they can diagnose you as depressed. they could prescribe some medications that could help as well

Q: Hi Again

What does it mean when someone is relentless about seeing a pic of you.You finally give it to them and u ask for a pic of them an they give you an excuse like when we finally meet you can take all the pics you want of me What's Up With That?

i would be a little cautious with this person...1. they could be somebody different than you think they are 2. even though its mean, they could be really ugly 3. or they could just be nervous you wont like them...it sounds like this is over the internet and i dont think it is too safe, make sure you dont ever really meet up with this person

Q: I have a HUGE problem it all started on New Years.....well my mom and aunts and cousins all went out for new years eve and me amanda and a girl named katie from Iowa stayed at my cousin kristies house and she didnt tell her mom (my aunt) she bought some vodka for us and us all three got wasted and stoned off our asses and katie called some of her GUY friends to come over to my cousins house and one of our girls was left out (amanda) and katie and i got the two guys and i got the 17 year old and she got the 16 year old and they were sooo hott especially the 17 year old and i feel really bad because i cheated on my boyfriend but the thing is we barely even talk or communicate so it doesnt even feel like we are going out......i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him because i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE the 17 year old and he asked me to be his girl and i said YES....Please anyone tell me what i should do..because i did stuff with the 17 year old.......

P.S. im 15 1/2 (female)

it sounds like you would rather be with the 17 year old so i say go out with him...if you and your current boyfriend barely talk there really isnt a point to be going out with him anyways...i say move on to the 17 year old, but it wasnt too great to cheat

Q: what exactly does it mean to be friends with benefits? like what is different about it than being b/f and g/f? thanks

means you are physically active with each other but are still considered single and free to do what you please...the only problem is that almost always one person begins having feelings for the other and that creates problems...it sounds fun and simple but often becomes more trouble than its worth

Q: hey peeps i was just wondering what you think... should a girl tell her b/f if she is taking pregnancy pills?? xoxo i'll rate good for good answers! thanx

if you are in a serious relationship you should def. tell him, it is important to be honest...if it is stil a young relationship it should be ok to keep it from him untill you are comfortable

Q: Is it possible for girls to have wet dreams? because i wake up and theres always clearish gooey stuff in my underwear. Oh, and in school i get it to. what is it? Thank you, i rate high :)

it sounds like it is just the normal discharge and not a wet dream...although it is possible to be turned on by a dream...when you are turned on some girls discharge increases which is called getting wet...but it is normal to have a little when you are not turned on

Q: I like this one guy, & he flirts with me. But he is also a huge flirt with other girls. [ He has alot of girl friends] & Everytime he says something sweet to me, I fall harder for him.Does he like me ,or is he just being nice?
I know this may sound stupid, but advice would be nice

some guys tend to play the field and flirt with a bunch of girls to increase their chances of finding one that likes them...let him know you are interested...if he continues to flirt with all the other girls, ut him loose...you want a guy that appreciates you

Q: how can i get more guys to like me without being a slut?
asap help!!
i'll rate 5!!

you just have to be true to yourself and not try to be like everybody else...it helps to be a little outgoing which helps you meet more guys :]

Q: Is it weird that my boyfriend comments all of my friend's pictures on myspace, yet doesnt comment any of mine? Backround info : He really liked this girl last year. However, he is a great bf and we have good chemistry together.

you should just ask him why he never comments any of your pictures and see what he has to say

Q: theres my friend- my best friend. she gets a lot of guy becuz they like one thing about her- her boobs. her boobs are hanging low and are pointy becuz she doesn't wear a bra- most of the times. i get really frustrated. what should i do?

well im not sure what you are asking...are you jelous she gets attention or do you want to say something to her...if its that she gets so much attention, realize that the guys are olny attracted to her physically and you dont want a guy that doesnt appreciate the true you

Q: I get really bad headaches all the time..i take advil and they go away..should i go to a doctor and see if there is anything wrong with me?

14/f is that helps

yes you should go to the doctor, if the find they are migranes you can get a prescription or you could just need glasses...there are also more serious problems so def. see a doctor :]