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Q: I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah

If you are going to talk to her at all i think that you should ask her what she is going to do about it and if she ever needs anything- you will be here. This pregnacey thing is very serius. And i'm sure this girl is confused and scared. RIght now she really needs some one. But make sure that you dont seem like you are trying to but-in to her life. B-cus if she has a best frend and she knows, then she'll b ther 4 her to and might think that your in it for the gossip(take advise from experience)

good luck!
ss

Q: my room is really lame and i hate having friends in it because its not cool. i have basic furniture, tv, computer, but its so boring to be in. any ideas? help!!!

1. you could go extreme and paint it funky colors and like beaded dorways and stuff
2. Go to hobby lobby and get some simple fabric, beads, glitter glue, w/e just so like decorate exactly h0w YOU want it.
3. ask those frendz to help you decorate your furnuture and computor top with glitter and fabrix, then glue pictures of them on to it.

~ just some suggestions~
good luck~

syd

Q: Alright yall, i believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. But i dont like church one bit, and i dont like the bible. I think i'm a good person, but i do also sin (obviously). And i have a wonderful relationship with God. So am i going to hell because i dont like church, and because i dont believe alot of what the Christians believe? Please help me out if you can. Thanks alot.

If you have ever thought about the fact that you are not a christian... you are wrong. I am a strong christian also, and i N|E|V|E|R used to go to church((i hardly do even now)). and i most always considered myself a christian and stuf{ but the first time i did i only realized that i needed him in my life. But just last weekend (12/13/o4) i learnd that he really has alot to teach me. My relation ship has just begun!

i really hope that you further your relation ship - and no - you are not going to hell(lol)
~♥~ sydneym

Q: I feel lately that I am a fake Christian. I say I believe in Jesus, God, etc., but I just am not very knowledgable about Christianity on the whole. All I know is, when I'm talking to God, or the few times I go to church, I am very happy, because I do know that God and Jesus love me. And my family - they all believe and everything, we're just not the most religious people, I guess. But I realize that we need to truly accept Jesus into our hearts in order to enter Heaven, and I don't even feel truly like I've done that yet. I've never brought it up with my family, but I really want all of us to get to know God and Jesus so that I can expect to meet them in Heaven, because this is kind of a priority. But how do I do this without basically saying, "Okay, here we go, we are going to believe in this whether you like it or not"? I know that sometimes people get kind of offended because they think I force my ideas about religion upon them... Sorry for the long question - I rate!

This happents to me all the time- if you really believe that god and jesus pasionatly love you then you will learn that when there is a bump in the road then god will lift you up and cary you through it. if you talk to him
... he will help you. " He answered there prayers when he was sure that they trusted in him"

Good luck

Syd

Q: hey... i'm only 13 but i really want to lose 15 pounds, if i do i won't get sick or anything will i? i don't want to have like health problems for the rest of my life. i'm only about 5'2 and i weigh like 115!! my mom says its from muscle cuse i play soccer like ALOT, but i really don't like the way i look. almost everyone i know is so much frikin skinnier than me. i'm not going to like cut out food compleatly, i just want to lose 15 pounds in like a month or so... is it safe? thanks a bunch!!

Hey- if you want to loose about 15 lbs. try the SOUTH BEACH DIET- i kno it probably sounds crazy but i lost about 5lbs a week. and its really healthy- dont get sick just because you dont like your physical appearence.

Peple always told me" its on the inside not the outside" and its a basicly good statment , but there is nothing wrong with working to look& feel good with your body. - just a suggestion-

Good luck!

!♥! syd

Q: I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?

The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?

Man, if you really think that you like her_alot_ then just ask her, if she knows how old you are, you have the right to know how old she is. And if she wont tell you, ditch it++++ she might just be a little girl with a crush on you, dont make your self look like the fool. ask her, then really think if you think that age is apropriate.

and if you think those cutz on her wrist are serius, dont let anything like that slip away from your mind. When you think you know her pretty well, ask her, talk to her about it. And if she is doing somting illegal, stop it!

Q: Say you like a girl and you know she likes you. You've hooked up once or twice and promised to call her so that you can arrange a proper date. How soon should you call/meet/talk to to arrange this date?

I'd say, for just this one date...talk about it as many times as you are excited to be with her. Girlz have this like 6th sense thing goin on and if she is convinced - not that you 'like her'- but that you really love the person she is and its not just a lil crush thing. I think you should do something where you can really talk about, any thing really, just to let her kno what you really think.

Good luck,

Syd

Q: okay...well thier is this guy i that i really like. alot of people like him too! should i go for it or just forget about it?

It totally depends on how much you like the guy-
if you think that you really like him for him - alot more than the other chix: i say what to you have to lose? Go for it if you think you should!

Good luck!
Syd

Q: Recently i have been away from god, its like i want to talk to him but he wont talk back- i dont know - its like i'm all depressed be cause i dont kno if i upset him- what do i do?
help,
_~ms.Erble~_

Listen to this- i've felt the same exact way many times- its not that he wont listen to you.

" he answered there prayers because they trusted in him" chronicles 5:32

You just arnt listening to how he chooses to speak to you. you can hear his messages through songs, dreams, prayers, and all you have to do is open your heart and let him no that you want to know what he has to say and ... he'll love you for ever and help you find what you need.

If you ever have douts or thoughs like this again, 'just talk'to me- dont use your name- and i'll help you - and allso ,
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good luck!
=Syd

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HEy guys - Yall should know about me- i'm just a normal sevie and Dawson Middle School, and i really hope i can help you guys!
I'm guna try my best!
Remember to sign an anonomus name !

i love ya!
Syd