My name is Brianna Handy ... i was born in Collierville, Tennessee but now i live in Gainesville, Florida.. i love hanging out with friends, going to the movies, tanning, softball, parties, and just having fun... anyways, i just started this advice column because i love giving advice.. but i just want people to take it seriously.. so ask me anything..
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Location: Collierville, Tennessee
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Member Since: November 13, 2005
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hey well i was going out with this boy...but he cheated on me so i broke up w/ him... but he just wont get over me.. and i started dating another boy.. and now he is all mad at me... but like i really did like him untill he cheated on me. but i really like the boy im going w/ now. so like what should i do?? (link)
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well, i think you did the right thing by breaking up with and moving on, now that you have a new guy.. your old guy is jealous because now its not just him that could move on to someone else. It's a typical situation for a guy to do something wrong and you guys break up, and then him want you back. As far as i know, now that you like the new guy i think you should stick with him. the other guy doesnt deserve you anyways
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my gf talks all the time on the phone about wanting to have sex and stuff, but when we're together she doesnt seem like it at all...any ideas? im sort of confused here (link)
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haha trust me, i used to do that all the time with my boyfriends. its easier for some girls to talk about it over the phone, but when their in person, trust me its just shyness that comes over them. you see, on the phone they dont have to go through with what they are saying, so its easy for them to just say it, cause its only verbal.. but then in person, when it comes time to actually go through with it physically, they become really intimidated and shy...talk to her about it if you want, goodluck
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Alright so I know people ask this a lot but hey help me out too. So there's this guy who we can call Joe and we were both at a party last night. Well I got really tired so I decided to go lie on the couch and he was there so I used his arm for a pillow. Well, I gradually got more comfortable and so did he and he had his hand on my stomach and he was playing with my arm all cute and stuff and we were holding hands (with the one that was on my stomach) and everytime hed get up hed come back and get in the same position again. We're friends and that's just not how our friendship is like if I give him a hug in the hall hes like "Oh hey Susan." and its just a brief hug. Do you guys think he likes me as more than a friend? I think I like him as more than one so I don't want to get my hopes up.
Thanks
PS when I was asleep on him he whispered to my friend and asked her if I liked him if that means anything (link)
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yeah.. i must say.. it seems like hes pretty interested. many of your the guys you date were once your friends ... and usually they are the ones you think you would never have something with..but yes, personally i think he is interested in you, but he wants to make sure you feel the same way before he makes any moves or public statements that he has feelings for you. if you want any chance with him, you should try letting the word slip out about you liking him ... it will most likely turn out good from what you've explained about you two. goodluck
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My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?
16/f (link)
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well, i think debating and arguing is a part of every GOOD relationship. it shows you care enough about the person to actually get in an argument with them. so yes, it is perfectly normal to have these disagreements, however you have to know when its gone too far. i understand you being curious if this is going to hurt your relationship in the long run, but thats really up to you and him, actually - its mostly up to you, because you cant tell him when to stop arguing. you need to be in charge of this incase it DOES go too far one time. you have to be cautious and know when to stop fighting with him over these types of things. do your best.. its fine to argue with him, but when you start feeling like it may be going too far, then control yourself and do something to slow it down and stop the fight. best of luck
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brianna-
ok, well there's this guy..actually my boyfriend. and i really like him, actually i love him and i care about him very much! but i'm having weird feelings right now. at this point in my life i really just want to have fun, i mean these are the best days of our lives, and i feel so tied down. like i'm not able to do everything i want to lately..especially when he acts as a third parent to me! and i know that i'm missing out on things that later on i will realize and i'll really regret it. there are so many parties i want to go to-but i know he would flip out..and theres so many hott guys..and yeah. i guess this would be different if this relationship was extremely serious, i'm not sure if he thinks it is..but there are certain things that will make it impossible for this relationship to go on forever, and to get extremely serious. each time i think about it i have a different thought on things, either i really like him and want to be with him. or i'm not sure if i'd rather be single right now. also, not only just because i want to be back into the regular high schoolers life (which i've been excluded from lately because of all this) there are also other reasons i'm having these feelings about all this..right now i really have to focus on my school work, i'm not doing too great..actually i'm doing horrible right now in all my classes, because there are things keeping me from consentrating on my work..if i don't bring my grades up, and keep them up..i won't have a boyfriend or a social life at all. i'll be completely excluded from the world outside my room..and i have so many other normal teenage things and drama going on in my life and i just don't want to deal with it right now..i know i'm very lucky to have such a great boyfriend, and such a great relationship, and i'm very thankful for that. but sometimes i just feel like i want to have fun, be single, live highschool the way most people live it..i'm not looking for my soul mate right now, i'm just looking to have a good time and make the best of my life during these years..we can only go through high school once, and i don't want to waste it all with a relationship that will probably just put me with a broken heart in the end, when i could be out having the best time of my life right now! basically lets just say i'm confused all the way around..i just need someones advice..what do you think i should do?
and let me say thank you very much in advance for whatever you're going to tell me..right now i just need someone else's opinion cause i'm not sure if i can trust my own..
-confused (link)
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well... let me start out with saying i know exactly how you feel. It's your highschool years... there basically there to have fun.. not be tied down. it's even more painful when most of your friends dont have boyfriends like you, and they all go out and have fun. this might make you think twice about wanting this boyfriend of yours. well, this is basically your decision. your going to have to dig even deeper and find out what you REALLY want. consider what life would be like if you dumped him TODAY.. see which way you like it better. Personally, to me, it seems that right now in your life your really not wanting that relationship because of the situation your in, with it being highschool and all. it seems to me that being tied down isnt what you want to do.. i understand you have a great boyfriend that you love, but at the same time you want to be going out to these parties and living the single life. This is a really hard decision, and it really is up to you. try and use your imagination to picture how things would be both ways, if you were single and taken. Which side are you leaning more toward? if you come to the decision that you think you may want to be single, then your boyfriend should understand how you feel. these ARE the best days of your life, and its not like your looking for marriage or anything close to that. your boyfriend should understand this. i think part of the thing is, that you are afraid to dump him for the single life, because you may discover you like having a bf, or that there is no one better out there. thats what happens. but from my point of view, i think that if you let it go, then its your fate from there. your bf should understand how you feel, and if he REALLY cares about you, yall will still be close, and you may eventually end up back together. i think you might need a little break just to experience things as being taken AND single. its what every person needs to do at some point in their life, and i think your time is now. goodluck, and i hope everything goes your way. thanks for coming to my advice column.. and please keep asking questions!
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Here is my problem...and i hope this doesn't sound too immature but, my best friend is friends with this girl who always is ditching her for other people. then my best friend comes and complains to me that she is annoyed... but she just keeps following and doing whatever this other girl asks her too. what my best friend doesn't realize is that she is doing to me what this girl is doing to her. ditching me for someone else. it is so frustrating because i have tried talking to her about this but she always gets angry. what should i do to make her see clearly what is going on? (link)
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hmm... this is a hard one.. well lets see, if you've already tried talking to her about this, then there isnt many other things you can do. How have you been trying to talk to her? you have to make sure your going about it the right way, otherwise she will just get angry like you said. You have to talk to her in a certain way.. and really tell her how you feel about it... otherwise, you need to surround yourself with other people. im sure theres plenty of friends you can hang out with.. dont just depend on one person to always be there for you to hang out, because eventually that person will leave and then who will you have? Obviously, if this friend is ditching you, then she's not the best person to be hanging around. try talking to her some more, and in the mean time, make some new friends ... only two things can happen if you do so .. she will either realize what shes doing is wrong, or you will move on and make REAL friends. i hope i helped.. keep asking questions!
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I broke up with my boyfriend of almost two years a few weeks ago for my own reasons that I'm not getting into - just know it was for both of us, not just me, that I did it.
It was a bit of a conversation, but one thing I did ask was that he not forget about me and consider me a friend. Since then, he's attempted contact (via AIM) a couple times, and each time it's ended with me in tears and him saying he doesn't think he can handle talking to me just yet.
The thing is, I don't miss him. I'm happy single right now. This is what I need and I'm glad I did it. I feel bad because I know I hurt him, yet he agreed with my reasoning and seemed to think I was right.
Was it wrong of me asking him to keep our friendship? If I don't miss him, why do I always end up crying?
Please, hold off on the chatspeak. You'll get rated down and nobody wants that. (link)
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no, i dont think what you did is wrong AT ALL. its what YOU wanted to do. theres many explanations for why you may be crying.. i mean you obviously really cared about this guy, two years is a long time. it's good that he understands how you feel, and its good that you told him the truth, instead of being afraid to hurt him and not tell him at all, because that ends up worse in the long run. its prolly really tough right now, but since yall dated for so long, im sure if you just give it some space for a while, you will find that a good friendship between you two will start to form.. and it will result in a happy ending..
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what if your boyfriend asks you to have a threesome with him and your best friend what would you do and what advice would you give to others in this situation? (link)
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ok well i'd prolly have to say that its kind of wrong for your boyfriend to ask for a 3some with you and YOUR best friend.. that would almost make me think that he kinda had something for my best friend.. if you WANT to do it, go for it.. but dont let him pressure you into it if your having doubts.
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Okkk.. I found your xanga in a laguna blog.
Here's my deal :
You see, I used to have this friend right? More like my sister.She was Over everyweek day , weekend we didn't even call to come over, just came. We have been the best of friends for THE longest time! But now, she doesn't talk to me, becuase this other girl at our school is more to her likeings. All I hear now is that she's talking about me and blah blah blah blah blah...it's annoying actully. But I miss my bestfriend. I don't know what I did or if I even said anything to upset her. I really want to talk to her about it... I mean all the times I doubted our "bestfriend" friendship , she'd get extremly mad at me and tell me not to doubt it because we're going to be best friends no matter what( but now she's doubting it). Only, that was about 4 months ago. Before things got this rough. Anyhow, I know that the talk I want to have with her will change her mind about not even talking. I mean , I 'm not going to force this friendship, that'd make things worse. But would it hurt for her to tell me what's going on? What do you think about this ? I mean, the past month everythings been catching up to me, not just the missing bestfriend, but the ex boyfriend, and the house hold troubles... still though, I just need advise.
- confused ...help ? (link)
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k so im guessing this is brit ... but im not sure.. so heres what im gonna do, give you advice as if you were brit, and as if you werent
so heres the advice if this is brittani:
i know you feel about rachel. and i hate to be the one that has to answer this, but im glad you asked me a question on my advice column.. anyways you just need to let it go, things change, and there may not even be a reason why she stopped being friends with you. sometimes some ppl just wake up and literally just not that they dont like you anymore, they just dont care for you. it hurts, i know.. trust me.. but rachels just changed. i know you miss yall being best friends, and this is hard for me to talk about because shes my best friend now.. but things just changed.. she must've learned things about you, herself, and about yalls friendship. its her to decision, and i know you dont wannt push it... and you shouldnt. if she wanted to be your friend, she would come to you. trust me. you both have other people now you know.. dont dread on the past.. i've been through many best friends.. thats why ur supposed to have as much fun as you can and live for the day.. b/c eventually everyone will break up and go different ways ..
now if this isnt brit... then heres what you need to do... try and talk to your ex bff... im sure i dont know all of the details, but nothing worse can happen if you try to talk to her about it, since she already stopped being your friend, its not like that can happen b/c it already has. if talking to her doesnt work then try and surround yourself by other people you enjoy hanging out with. just like the quote "dont make ONE person important, cause then when they person leaves, who will you turn to?" .... im sure you have other friends, just try and get closer to them instead of spending your days in sorrow because of the loss of one person. thats what life is all about. you cant expect to be with the same people your whole life..
i hope i helped.. and thanks for visiting me advice column.. come back!*
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I wanna show the nation my appreciation: Girl your my angel, your my darling angel. Girl your my friend when I'm in need, baby
does anyone know the name of this song...and who sings it? easy 5 (link)
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yep everyones right... its by Shaggy and its called "Angel" ... good song!
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hey brianna.. this is a troubled reader.. my friend knows you and is really good friends with you so i thought i would give this a try..
i love this guy.. and i know i do.. so does every one else. i honestly think he knows too, but im not sure. we were dating for a while but decided to break it off, for some bullshit reasons and he broke my heart. now he likes my best friends older sister. since im younger than him i cant blame him for wanting an older girl. but he knows i love him and he knows this other girl doesnt. what do you think was going thru his mind when he did this to me?
-- in a *bit* of a problem.. (link)
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well... i obviously know who this is writing to me.. its my best friend of course.. and i know what its like. but listen.. theres a lot more to it, i just found out that he liked her too last night b/c they were talking for like an hour and it was on speakerphone and i was in the room the whole time. she doesnt like him, and he knows that. she already knew that he liked her cuz he told her like a week or so ago. he asked her exactly this "but in your eyes its just friends with us right?" and she said yes. he knows her feelings toward him.. shes likes flirting with him (she likes flirting with everyone) and she likes hanging out with him because they get along so well. but shes still in love with her ex.
for you my dear... i dont know what he was thinking. it does sound pretty stupid right, i mean he likes the girl he KNOWS doesnt like him, and he doesnt like the girl that he KNOWS loves him. pretty messed up. but there really is no explanation or answer for them. its simply how he feels. he cant help who he likes, or who hes attracted to. no one can. you cant blame him if it isnt you that he has feelings for. trust me, i know you, and i know your an amazing person, and i know hes missing out. he just hasnt realized it yet. time tells everything.. and trust me, i know how much you dont want to wait, b/c i dont think anyone likes waiting for stuff like this, but you need to try your hardest to get over him. me and you both know every little game he plays, and how he acts and lies. its just him. your wonderful and he doesnt deserve you. right now hes not looking for any type of relationship that has meaning at all. i dont even think he wants a relationship at all, nor is he ready for one. relationships are filled with MEANING... and trust, and so many more things.. i dont think hes ready for that type of commitment, because once again we know how he likes having multiple girls, never just one. it will take a special girl to make him settle down. and im not saying your not that special girl, because you may be - but only time will tell. for now, you just have to accept the fact that hes not specifically looking for the "right" girl.. hes just trying to have a good time with all of the wrong ones. trust me darlin, your better than that. yall are both at different points in your life.. you want a meaningful relationship, and he doesnt want a relationship at all. its his loss, and he will realize that. i
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