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brianna-
ok, well there's this guy..actually my boyfriend. and i really like him, actually i love him and i care about him very much! but i'm having weird feelings right now. at this point in my life i really just want to have fun, i mean these are the best days of our lives, and i feel so tied down. like i'm not able to do everything i want to lately..especially when he acts as a third parent to me! and i know that i'm missing out on things that later on i will realize and i'll really regret it. there are so many parties i want to go to-but i know he would flip out..and theres so many hott guys..and yeah. i guess this would be different if this relationship was extremely serious, i'm not sure if he thinks it is..but there are certain things that will make it impossible for this relationship to go on forever, and to get extremely serious. each time i think about it i have a different thought on things, either i really like him and want to be with him. or i'm not sure if i'd rather be single right now. also, not only just because i want to be back into the regular high schoolers life (which i've been excluded from lately because of all this) there are also other reasons i'm having these feelings about all this..right now i really have to focus on my school work, i'm not doing too great..actually i'm doing horrible right now in all my classes, because there are things keeping me from consentrating on my work..if i don't bring my grades up, and keep them up..i won't have a boyfriend or a social life at all. i'll be completely excluded from the world outside my room..and i have so many other normal teenage things and drama going on in my life and i just don't want to deal with it right now..i know i'm very lucky to have such a great boyfriend, and such a great relationship, and i'm very thankful for that. but sometimes i just feel like i want to have fun, be single, live highschool the way most people live it..i'm not looking for my soul mate right now, i'm just looking to have a good time and make the best of my life during these years..we can only go through high school once, and i don't want to waste it all with a relationship that will probably just put me with a broken heart in the end, when i could be out having the best time of my life right now! basically lets just say i'm confused all the way around..i just need someones advice..what do you think i should do?
and let me say thank you very much in advance for whatever you're going to tell me..right now i just need someone else's opinion cause i'm not sure if i can trust my own..
-confused
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well... let me start out with saying i know exactly how you feel. It's your highschool years... there basically there to have fun.. not be tied down. it's even more painful when most of your friends dont have boyfriends like you, and they all go out and have fun. this might make you think twice about wanting this boyfriend of yours. well, this is basically your decision. your going to have to dig even deeper and find out what you REALLY want. consider what life would be like if you dumped him TODAY.. see which way you like it better. Personally, to me, it seems that right now in your life your really not wanting that relationship because of the situation your in, with it being highschool and all. it seems to me that being tied down isnt what you want to do.. i understand you have a great boyfriend that you love, but at the same time you want to be going out to these parties and living the single life. This is a really hard decision, and it really is up to you. try and use your imagination to picture how things would be both ways, if you were single and taken. Which side are you leaning more toward? if you come to the decision that you think you may want to be single, then your boyfriend should understand how you feel. these ARE the best days of your life, and its not like your looking for marriage or anything close to that. your boyfriend should understand this. i think part of the thing is, that you are afraid to dump him for the single life, because you may discover you like having a bf, or that there is no one better out there. thats what happens. but from my point of view, i think that if you let it go, then its your fate from there. your bf should understand how you feel, and if he REALLY cares about you, yall will still be close, and you may eventually end up back together. i think you might need a little break just to experience things as being taken AND single. its what every person needs to do at some point in their life, and i think your time is now. goodluck, and i hope everything goes your way. thanks for coming to my advice column.. and please keep asking questions!
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