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sorry this question is awkward..

Is this just a back-up plan for when using the "pull out" method, or can a guy fully ejaculate inside of the girl while using it?

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You probably mean the sponge with spermicide on it, ...but you should know that this method is not as effective as the pill or the condom...you are taking chances, be carefull, and it also won't protect you from getting an std. And trust me , an STD isn't always visible...


the series true blood... anyone watch it??
its confusing me and i dont get how they turn into vampires...

its not like twilight bcos they turn into vampires when they get bitten and stuff.
but in true blood they bite each other all the time and they dont turn into vampires...
its weird i dont get it!!

i saw they scene where it shows you how bill became a vampire,, i figured that the lady vampire drained his blood and then made him drink her blood and thats how he became a vampire?? is that how it works???

help apriciated!! thankyou! (link)
you are right, that's exactly how they do it in true blood, just not sure if they actually drain totally the "victim's" blood, because then how could she be drinking if she is totally dead?

awesome series!


At the looks of it I am gonna have to go to work pretty quickly after the baby is born. So this will be my first attemp at breat feeding how to do breat feed an work?? (link)
Breast pump is the answer, and you'll get the hang of it pretty quickly.Doing it manually works as well but not as good. It will help if you bring a picture of your child at work,because the mental part in breastfeeding is very important! And you will have to do it many times a day to keep your milk flow going, so see with your employer if you can get a private place to do it and a place in the fridge. Think of your child as you do it, it is important.

When both my kids were born, just earing a baby's cry made my breasts leek a lot! Even if it wasn't mine. And don't give up, it can be hard at the beginning but there'S resources available everywhere. With my first kid i had problems and a nurse came to my house to help me a couple times...he wasn't latching properly.

Oh , and congratulations!


so me and my girlfriend have been fighting for the past few days and she says i need to decide if im ready to settle down and this is what i want because she dont think its what i want. we moved intoour relationship a little fast but at times i do wish i could spend more time with my family she thinks i need to stay with her all the time and gets upset if i leave there early to be with family. at times i do miss being single so i can hang out with family whenever and my mom because I am really close to her but at times i kno i would be so miserable because i do want to be with you and we were planning to move out in 8 months what swhould i do? (link)
The answer is in your question dear....good luck with that!


im dating this guy and have been since august. I really like him hes a very nice person.his birthday is coming up in mid november and i have no idea what to get him.i could do something for him like take him out to dinner but id want to do something hed never have thought of or buy him something hed never have thought id get him.i know hes learning spanish at the moment i could get him a spanish book but dont think thats very special.umm maybe if i tell you abit about him.hes into travelling.He has a weird taste in music wich i really dont agree with much.umm he likes to have a good laugh.so maybe a present that might make him laugh?any ideas at all?be as creative as possible pleaseeee!P.s hes turning 25 so nothing that a 14year old might like lol

thanks in advance!!! (link)
You could learn a few sexy words in spanish and cook him exotic(spanish or mexican) dinner at home, dressed up as a mexican housekeeper,french maid style....and guess the rest...no guy wouln't love that! Just be his present....role playing can be fun


what is the order of sex? like does a guy have to be hard to have sex? when a guy is hard do you have to give him a blowjob? should a blowjob happen before sex? (link)
There's no order, and you don't have to do anything at any particular time....just relax, listen to your inner voice, trust yourself, and go with your feelings and body. And remember that you need more preparation than him before sex...and talking with your partner is a good idea. Also don't do things you are not ready to do. Respect yourself and enjoy a healthy sex life!



i am 16 and heres the thing, a guy has never given me an orgasm, i had sex with my ex more than a hundred times and i hardly felt anything was he doing it right??
also my current boyfriend has fingered me and again i cant feel anything, am i normal??

and also my current boyfriend and me went to have sex but his penis wouldnt go in or anything, he had a hard on but still it wouldnt go in, hes not really got a long penis more of a thick one. is there a possibility he could be too big for me?? and if he is how can we make it fit?? (link)
First thin i have to say...RELAX! The scare it's too big will make your muscles contract and you won't be wet enough...so it might hurt and you won't feel anything. Try getting yourself off when you are alone, find ways to relax, quit putting pressure on yourself. And foreplay is a must! A woman needs to be prepared....men, boys in your case don't need much prep in case you haven't noticed!you can't rush into it, and sexuality is something you learn with time and experience...if a baby can come out of there , your boyfriend'S penis can get in!
Find what you like and share it with him. Maybe ask him to masturbate before he comes to see you, so he might not rush it so much...and respectc yourself as well as he should respect you and take his time...you are not an inflatable doll. Also try lubricant.


About 5 hours ago i was laying in bed and I had to get up to do number two. I was dripped in sweat but my body was really could and my stomach was hurting so bad i could not breathe. After i layed back down for a while it went away but I still had some stomach pains. About an hour ago I had to go again and this time I only pooped blood, this has happened three more times. Should I go to the emergency room right now or wait for the doctor in the morning? (link)
Go! right now! And please let us know how you are...


So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and I can't seem to get off during sex and the only way I can is to play with the clitortis. Ive had a sexual partner before him and he also could never get me off. Me and my boyfriend have tried everything and every postion to do this. Whats wrong with me because its definatly not him! lol (link)
Look, you have nothing to worry about, i am the same way as you, only my little clitty will get me off, penetration just really turns me on, so i like both! Did you know that 95% of the women are like us?

Fakers are the ones that don't know their bodies enought o get off, and they contaminate a lot of people's way of thinking about what's good and what'S bad about sex.You have an advantage, you know your body!
Your clitoris is like your own little penis...so find a way to be able to play with it while in the action and you will both be happy. Maybe someday you will get off with penetration, maybe never...personnally the only times it happened to me was when the way we made it rubbed on my clit.

So quit worrying about it and take the pressure off yourself...what's important is that you enjoy a healthy relationship and the good sex that comes with it. Happyness to you both!




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