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Q: i just turned 16 and the last time i was with a guy was about 6 months ago and i jacked him off but he didn't finger me. then we split, so he never ended up fingering me. now i'm with someone different who i know is very experienced and i know pretty soon he is going to end up fingering me. i've tried fingering myself to see what it feels like but i cant seem to do it. i always think i'm doing it right but don't feel it at all. i just want to be prepared for when he does it to me. please help! i'll rate 5s. thanks everyone!

Hi, don't think about it too hard. If you do it ahead of time then you won't feel that passion. You need to stop and wait till he does it to you. You won't feel anythiing because youare thinking to hard. Don't pressure yourself. Hope you can follow this advice and hopefully it works for you.

Q: i am horney all the time and i fingure my own self... what is wrong with me?

there is nothing wrong with you. It happens to girls. You probably feel lonely. But may i sugest that don't finger yourself. It might cause pain in the future. Try to stop yourself. You know hold back.

Q: 14/f
How can I be more confident around guys? I've never had a boyfriend and never been asked out before either. My brother (who's 16) says i'm good looking enough, it's just because i'm mean. He says i'm not nice enough around guys. I kinda agree, cuz my philosophy has always been "if you don't need the person, there's no use wasting time getting to know them. screw them for now." i know it's bad...i'm really anti-social and prefer not to interact with people much. I know i come across as bitchy a lot. But now i'm done with it. I'm going into high school, and I'm interested in guys...and want to make new friends, especially with boys. So my question is...how do i be more confident in school and stuff and how do i get guys to notice me?

Hi, I love your question. The only way to have confident is to feel it. You need to feel confident about talking,walking how you dress and stuff. You shouldn't care if others would make fun of you. You should go to high sschol and be yourself. Don't be mean but be yourself. To be confident around guys would come

Q: Okay...lets start from the beging...I get my first kiss when I was a freshman in High school...we date off and on for 3 years....I loved this guy...and he loved me...but there was always something that we ended up breaking it off for.. So then I moved not my choice...he meets someone els, they get ingaged...so its time for me to move on...I met someone...hes perfect, I cant complain at all, so somehow, I really do move on from my first love...but then this guy i met, that is perfect, is moving for college, and so am i...he tells me all the time to stay here so we can be close...well i cant just change my plans...but one day I ask him..." what would you say if I could stay hear?" Then he says its whatever....OM GOD....what does that meen?!!!?okay lets feel in some blanks...when we first met all we did was kiss and cuddle...we ended up breaking up...he didnt want to date anyone... but then about a week later i loose my v-card to him...we see each other off and on for about a mounth...but thats when i asked him...what would you say...yeasterday he moved... did he olny want sex...if so...that dosnt make any since...he was PERFECT...we cuddled...he never went to far...he was the one that seemed like he liked me too much...what happened....well here were the other guy comes in...my first love...he breaks up with his girl...well she left him...we talk (as frnds) on the phone...the he says how much he messed up...and how he misses my smile...and he wishes he never let me go...Now if he had said this four mounths ago...i would have fell into his arms...but somehow...i felt nothing....but i did end up seeing him...we go hang out at the park...make out...hold each other...stil...nothing....but he really does miss me...i think he loves me...or somethin....should i try to make somethin...or just...stop everything...i meen i miss josh...he moved...alll i can think about is josh....why??? whyu cant i just move on....stop the hurt...i dont want anyone if i cant have him...(the second guy s josh) (the first is geg) But its too late...what should I do?

Hi, you should stay with the person that loves you. He would always ake care of you. If hasn't been long since josh moved thats why you are missing him. You should give the first guy a chance. He sounds like a really nice guy.

Q: Ok I go to a private school, lets call it H and recently I made some big mistakes and since H is such a small scholl practically my whole grade knows this. And there are a couple of people there that still hang out with me and seem to like me, but even though those people are great friends and I love them as friends, I really care about this one group of friends, lets call them D, and thats where my whole mistake started, I cussed at them online because I was in a really bad mood that day and some things have happened, anyway it was a stupid thing to do I know that and I'll never do it again but like I said I really care about my D friends, and I want them to realize it was all a horrible mistake and I still ove them. Right now D hates me and is spreading rumors about me I think but you can't expect to cuss someone out online and get away with it can you? anyway I want to know how I can make it up to them and explain things in the best way.
(Don't say tell them that you just had a bad day and you still love them because even though this is true I already told them this and apologized alot of times.)
Thanks in advance! :) sorry it's long

Hi, you should definetly apologize and ask for forgiveness but you don't have to beg. If D can't understand that you love em ,mayb then they don't deserve your apology. I would ignore those rumors and have fun with the true friends i still have. the couple of frieds you do hang out with you should love the and have fun with them.You shouldn't care about those rumors. Your real friends would help you through it. Remember i'm always here to help lol

Q: Well, I run a lot & my thighs are not that big. I also do crunches like 50 a night or sometimes 100 if I skip a day. So my stomach is not that flabby. However, I still have lovehandles. I want to know if there's anything I can do that focuses ONLY on lovehandles. They're embarrassing in bikinis! My hips are kinda wide, could this be why? I just want to get rid of them because they're the only thing that bugs me A LOT about my body.

Hi, i sometimes feel bad about how i look as well. Your problem isn't that big at all. You shouldn't be embarrased about this. Build more confidence in you. If that doesn't work go to a gym instructer or if you are in school ask your gym teacher about this.

Q: okay...im datin this guy named michael lee....i like him ..but im havin second thoughts cause its like everytime were on the phone..we hardly talk...then on 6/13/07 i met this guy named Kaleb..he is sweet..we have alot in common and when i say a lot i mean alot....we could hardly stop talking the nite he called me...we can talk about ANYTHING....unfortunately he lives in Hawaii..but if i say with lee im gonna be moving to MD so it still wont work...i jus dont kno wwat to do...

HELP!!!

HELP!!!

HELP!!

hi i know what you mean. It's hard when you have a boyfriend but then you have doubts. It's okay to feel this way. This is one way you can handle this situation. You can make a list of both and list what you like about them. That thing is a classic. If this doesn't work you should see it in your heart what you want. Either way you would have to stay away from one of them. I hope you find a way.

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