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Well ok long story short im married, and both my husband and i are lookin to find another female partner to help us spice up the bedroom, im all for it and he says he is aswell but im just not convinced and am worried that if we go ahead with it a few months or years down the track he is going to turn around and throw it back in my face, we have talked and talked about it but i still feel since it was my idea in the first place he is just more or less going along with it so not to dissapoint me, is there any way that i can really be sure that he does want it as much as i do??? any advice would b great plz. (link)
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The best part about a marriage is how intimate and how well you guys know each other. Sex should be full of passion especially in a marriage and be monogomous since you guys are committed to one another not some random bisexual girl. Don't make your marriage become an experiment with that sort of stuff because honestly that should be out of your system by the time you finish college. There's other ways to spice up your sex life. Different positions, different places in the house, foreplay, you could even have sex while watching a porn together. Have fun with each other because your lucky to just have him in your life. You don't need to bring someone else into your sex life and if your husband seems to be second guessing it than DAMN YOU ARE LUCKY. He's only looking at you. Just have fun with each other ;)
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So, my boyfriend suffers from a lot of different things. We've been together a year and live together, and he suffers from depression which has gotten worse, and he has been escaping into other things, gaming and internet porn.
I called him on it, the other night, quite intensely and told him to stop hurting him and us and me. That he was acting like an addict and dragging me down with him.
Then, suddenly (this is a guy who was planning to propose to me) he says "I dont want to spend the rest of my life with you." And goes on to tell me that he "loves me but isnt in love with me anymore" that "he waited for a spark but hes not sure there ever was one" that "what we have is great but he wants mindblowing".
I tried to reason with him, asked him to work with me for a few months, to see a couples therapist, he says the only reason he'd do that is for a friendship, that no romantic relationship could come out of this. That if this was being said it must be final.
This is a guy who also gets very depressed at night and frequently says things that he dosent mean, or takes back later.
I was very confused, because what he was saying made no sense with the span of our relationship - always loving me very much, very passionate, all those things.
He then changes it to taking a few days to go to his parents.
In the am, he went to go do the chores he had for the day, while I was a devestated wreck.
Comes back, says he meant none of it, that he loves me more than the earth itself, that hes crazy about me and so passionate and that he wants me forever, wants to marry me and have children.
He's prone to dark mood swings, but this is ridiculous.
I threatened to break up with him, and he started having an anxiety attack and talking about how much he loved me and needed me.
Have you seen this before? I can't understand this at all. (link)
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I have seen this all before. My ex boyfriend was a very depressed person and had an acute case of bipolar and self with sexual confliction of bisexuality. So as a girl it took a hit on my self esteem all the time, he would chane his mind about me as often as every 3 months. And he started to get pretty nasty with me as far as my looks. I think it was because he wanted to bring someone down to the level he was at. I was so sad for over a year and could not handle the relationship anymore. In the end it fell apart because the truth of the matter is the best relationships are ones between two mentally healthy people who love each other and always want each other. They have they're fights but it's not a fight against on persons outlook it's about them as a whole. You don't want to live your life caring for a man as if he's as fragile as a child. It should go both ways and in your case it isn't. I'd break it off immediately, and just be a friend to him until he gets better. You deserve to be happy. I took that away from myself for much too long, he doesn't treat you right and it's not that he needs you- he's just afraid to be alone. So be a friend but not a lover because it will destroy you.
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I'm detail how do I give a guy head? (link)
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alright in all honesty it\'s a style that you have go develop over time. coming from a girls perspective i think the best blow jobs are surprises and just full of passion. all you have to do is get your man alone in a bedroom or something close the door and before he even has the chance to kiss you, you kiss him first and go straight to taking off his pants. just the surprise of it all will cause him to thoroughly enjoy anything that comes next. while you give a blow job make sure you swirl ur tounge around the head of the penis and alternate the depth of how much you take into your mouth. variety is the element of surprise here. and if you don\'t feel too weird take one hand and slightly rub his balls it feels really good for guys. if you can\'t deep throat but wanna give the same feeling keep a hand at the base of the penis and as you bob your head up and down use that hand to \"stroke\" him up and down too. you can let him guide your head bc apparently that\'s a turn on for guys and it\'s a very intimate act. well this is just what i know from my relationship- hoped it helped
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ive known this boy for nearly 10 years sense i was 8 and the boy was only 5 and well as years passed he finilly told me he liked me at the age of 10 and i was 13 and he was the first boy to ever like me, im nearly 16 and he is nearly 13 and im not sure if he still likes me or not but when people like tease him about me they say he always get a big smile and his eyes get really big and even when i would talk to him he would just stare at me or smile really big but we used to talk all the time and have lots of good times but now we hardly see one another but when i would see him and when he'd stare in my eyes and when id stare in his i can feel inside me that he still likes me even though he told me he didnt but i get theses gutt feelings and thats why i think he still likes me but im really unsure on what to think.
what does anyone else think? (link)
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You most definately hold a special place in tht boys heart
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So me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now. When we first started dating he would say how he didnt deserve me and all this stuff. And here lately we have been getting in fights like everyday. He brings stuff up from the past about me when I hurt him when we werent even dating. He is 16 and I am almost 18 and im going to college in a couple months. I am starting to feel like he doesnt want to be around me because he never ask me to hang out then he gets mad when i tell him how i feel but thel he tells me not to keep things bottled up inside. When we hang out we dont really fight as much but I just dont know what to do. Everyone I have told my stories to say he is really insecure about himself. Everytime a guy talks to me he freaks and ask me why im talking to him so now if a guy even says hi to me i get worried beacause i dont mant my boyfriend getting mad. (link)
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This was just like my first serious high school relationship. It goes in phases and by the time it's over you guys have about a year and half together and probably only 6 months of genuine love feelings. The truth is he's simply a stepping stone in your life. Take this relationship as a learning experience. Now you know exactly what it is you want and don't want in your next relationship which honestly shouldn't be for a while because when your in college you wanna be having fun and not be tied down. Your boyfriend isnt as mature as you and he won't be for at least another 4 years he's 16 and still like a child. So truth be told it's time to move on.
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So my boyfriend came over a week ago and we talked for about 3 hours...at first I was upset with him because I felt like we were growing apart and fighting a lot more about stupid things and he didn't want to talk to me and fix things. After a lot of tears, he finally broke through and told me how he felt. After that everything just flooded out from both of us and we made a huge 'break through' in our relationship. We both decided that even though we're in love, in the long run we probably weren't going to last. But I asked him if we were still going to try and he said yes of course...sooo we're still going out and things have been going better then ever since then but I was just wondering if this will be good for me. I love him and I love hanging out with him, but should I keep being with him if our personalities clash? We haven't gotten into any fights lately, but I'm sure we will eventually start again...I mean, yeah we fight a lot but the good times ALWAYS make up for the bad times...So what do you all think? Should I run this thing into the ground? Or might we actually have a chance? Any advice is good, thank you all so much. (link)
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Hey so I dont think you shuld give up on the relationship. Like me and my boyfriend have been going out since the 8th grade and were in 10th now. We had the same issues where we were just fighting and couldnt seem to get along. We even broke up for a period of time and it was some of the most painful experiences that ive ever encountered emotionally. We felt like we were so young and we were too serious. Like we were married and he just didnt want that anymore. We got too comfortable and forgot what brang us together in the first place. So just really think: Why do I love him? Why does he seem so special? And if we broke up do u think you would be terrified? It all depends on how important you are to each other. Any relationship can make it past this stage if both people are willing enough
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okay so im 16 almost 17 and i have known this guy for over a 2years now and i love with all my heart i neeed a slow romantic type of song from me to him any ideas (link)
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She is love= parachute
walk through hell- say anything
realize- colbie calait
Falling In love at a coffeshop- Landon Pigg
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One month ago I took the morning after pill. and had been on my period the week before that. So I took the pill and about a week later I was on what seemed like my period but it was not the time I should have been on it. So now I should be on my period but have not gotten it yet. Should I be on it now? Or will I be on it a month after the time I had it when I took the pill?? (link)
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Don't worry the pill probably just put your hormones out of wack. This is very common. Besides your young and not fully matured so it could be tht your period is still a bit irregular.
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ok so my last dep shot (birth control) was about three months and two weeks ago (its supposed to be effective for three months) i had sex like on one of the last days that it was effective for and then the day after i got a morning after pill just to be safe. But the night i had sex after i got home i started bleeding. the sex i had was pretty rough but the bleeding lasted for about a week so im pretty sure that i wasnt bleeding from the sex and it had skin tissue or whatever in it like a period. But it was really light bleeding and it was like a brownish color. Then just a few days ago i started bleeding again and this time its a little heavier and more red colored. Im 17/f and that time i had sex wasnt my first time or anything and i havent had sex since then if that helps. So what i'm wondering is if its possible that i had two periods within like two weeks? (link)
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Im guessing that you might have had slight hemeraging at first since it was the night after. Also did the first time you started bleeding feel like a period with cramps or bloating. The second time is more likely to be your period since an average women gets it heaveir in the middle of her period and light in the begniing. Im sure its nothing to worry about if this continues you should see your docter or gynacolgist. Since your not completely developed at 17 it could be your period is irregular. dont be suprised if next mont you dont get your period.
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My cheer squad is competing tomorrow for our first time! I am the captain and I want to get the other 11 girls some kind of good luck gift..like candy, or something really cheap thats super cute. and not like, really corny. haha any ideas? i dont wanna spend a ton!! thanks :)
the age group is high school freshmen, sophomores, and juniors =] (link)
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At my school the cheerleaders all got flip flops from old navy in black. The coach had put cute blue and white ribbons on them since its out school colors. They were really inexpensive and the girls loved wearing them to school with their outfits.
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kinda long sorry
ok so there's this guy(22) from church that i think is very sweet and cute (im not sure if i like him). Well hes super sweet and nice to me so the thing is I wanted to get his number for a long time but i just never had the guts to ask him for it. Last Friday I got a call from this number i didnt know. I decided to answer and it was HIM. He wanted to ask me something about church. Do you guys think he likes me?? I mean he got my number from idk who and called ME when he obviously could of called someone else like his cousin.
Also, now that I have his number saved I get the feeling of textin him. But I have no idea of what to say or whether I should text him. I mean he hasnt but like he works Mon-Sat and Sundays I always see him at church.
Should I text him or not? If yea any suggestions on what to say please?? (link)
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Say:
Hey whats up! I didn't know you had my cell!
and if he answers than he is probably interested
Brittany
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In the scene where its night time and he runs all of the vampires over with his car, how come he stays there, and INTENTIONALLY wants to run them over with his car? I never really understood why he stayed out all night and did that. (link)
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He did it because he wanted to either get revenge for Sam (his dog) or because after the dogs death he wanted to die so he tried to commit suicide. Both make sense but i guess its up to what you think
Brittany
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Someone or something hacked into my myspace account. On my homepage, there is a thing from Tom saying that I've been phished and I have to change my password. Whenever I try to click the link to change my password the browser sends me back to the log-in screen. I tried to do it manually, and it did change my password, but I still couldn't do anything on my myspace. What should I do? (link)
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It might be a glitch in your myspace and the best thing to do might be to close it down because who knows there could be a hacker getting into all your personal stuff.
Brittany
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i have had this really little, deformed tooth, with a messed up root i guess, for many many years...its the one right next to my big tooth on top. after i got my braces off, the dentists were worried about that tooth, so they wanted me to get a root canal. the thing is, that tooth never hurt, i never once had any pain, until they did the root canal. about a month after i had it done, it started hurting really bad, and its been about 2 months since and its killing me! its moving all throughout my mouth, and all the teeth on my left side are hurting so bad! and my gums above the root canal tooth. so my first question is, was the root canal even necessary, if it never bothered me til they did it? or would i have needed it eventually anyways? second..since i have pain, there saying the root canal failed, so now im scheduled for a apicoectomy in a few days to fix the failed root canal. im on antibiotics til then. if my root canal was never needed, would this surgery im about to get be extremely pointless?! im only doing it to make the pain go away,, but im worried this all never needed to happen in the first place! any opinions, advice, anything is very appreciated!!!! =]
and also, if you've had an apicoectomy..how is it?
thanks! (link)
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I personnels think that having the root canal was the best thing to do since the tooth could cause long term problems. Also i think it was needed but the dentist you went to probably screwed it up on accident. Best of luck to you on the apicoectomy
Brittany
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just a few questions about Metabolism:
1) How do you know if you have a fast or slow metabolism?
2) Is there such thing as a "medium" metabolism?
3) If you have a slow metabolism, how can you speed it up?
4) Is there a way to go directly from a slow metabolism to a fast metabolism, or will you always stay what you are (even if you speed it up a bit)
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Sorry but i can only answer question 3!!!
To raise your metabolism make sure you eat breakfast!!!!! Also exercise helps A LOT!
BRittany
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i have thin hair that comes to about three inches below my shoulders i want some website that have some hair style how tos that are cute and sophisticated and not teeni bopper looking no offense to anyone but i dont want the same kindof hairstyles that middle and highschoolers are wearing.please dont give me your own instructions just give me some website links (link)
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Depending on how old you are you might want to go with something more sophisticated then what teenagers are wearing..... but i am going to offer my help and here are some websites
http://www.seventeen.com/hair-skin-makeup
http://www.hair-styles-secrets-revealed.com/hair/41/cute-easy-hairstyles-for-teenage-girls
I think the second one is more do-it-yourself and it gives you instructions which i find more helpful.
Brittany
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how do you get eyeliner from the bottom of your eyelid? (link)
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you wash it out (duh...) or if tht doesnt work take a cup and fill it with water put it up to your eye and lean back. BE sure that your eye is open!!! It'll wash it out quickly.
Brittany
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ok so im 16 f
and i love singing and i love getting in front of a crowd and perform so i have been dying to go to an open mic here in new york but most of them are 21 or older becuase i guess they are in bars and clubs. where else can i perform and can you guys please help me find cafes that have open mics in new york or just any other place where i can perform and just have fun thanks so much! (link)
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Well you can join a performing arts club. They usually do musicals and things. But I'm pretty sure they preform for schools.
Brittany
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So my family is the richest by far in my town. My town is small, but we are probably the richest in our county and the counties surrounding us. My Grandpa was a doctor since he was in his late twenties early thirties. He died at the age of 75. All of his money went to us. My mom is an RN and makes good money. My dad is probably the biggest rancher in our state.
Recently a girl's dad in my school (who used to work for us) got an oil rig job. They finnaly got money and I was happy for them. Now they really get to live a little compared to living how they used to. Well she got a new car (mustang) when she turned sixteen. She is a year older than me. I just turned sixteen and I got a Dodge Ram 3500 dually Mega Cab 2008. Her dad saw what I had got and came up to me and said "I like your truck. Too bad it's not as nice as my daughters." I blew it off like I didn't hear it, but then his daughter came up to me and asked me what year mine was and how much it cost. I didn't answer how much because I knew that was snoody. Then the other day I was talking about a cruise I had been on with some friends and her dad happen to over hear me. He said "Tia will be going on a cruise of the next three summers." And every time I get something new she gets something just like it. She is constantly telling me how much her clothes cost when I own the same clothes. It's really annoying and I'm not sure what I should do about it. Any suggestions to get them off my back?
Also I'm not the braggy type. I like to keep to myself about the money I have. I only told you my families money to let you know where we both stand. (link)
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Well this girl and her father sound really conceited. You should tell her off and say thats great but not everyone wants to hear about your new stuff and how much money it costs. If she tells you about something really expensive then say looks like your dad doesnt know how to manage money all that well. That might get her to stop since your opinion seems to mean a lot to her.
Brittany
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So last year when i was an 8th grader i went to a new school.there was this guy there named kenny and I never really didnt noticed him beside the point that i used to like one of his friends... anyway I started to talk to another one of kenny's friends named charles well charles isnt my type so when he told me that he like me I ignored it. as for as I can tell charles lies alot so I figured that charles was telling his friends( including kenny) lies about me out of jealousy! I ignored it well at the end of the school year i was on the phone with one of my friends while he was at the movies he said that he saw kenny so I asked him if I could talk to him- so i told kenny that I liked him and he said I like you too then I said i think he's hot and he said I think your hot too. Then the whole summer went buy and then I saw him at open house and feel in love with him (since i started to like him during summer)I told my best friend that i was going to get with kenny no matter what well me and kenny were cool and we talked then oneday I let it be known to everyone that I like kenny this went on for like 2 months then charles wanted us to get together but kenny didnt want to ask me he wanted me to ask him well anyways charles yelled out if kenny wanted to get with me and he said yes then we were together...the same day we got together he went home cause he wasnt feeling well then the next day he came to school but we werent talking much I know that he was trying to be a good boyfrind it just wasnt there so i asked him that day after school if he even wanted to be with me and he said that he likes me but that it just wansnt there(we broke up)...we still hugged in the hall constantly and talked very few...he ended up getting into a fight with his friends and no longers hangs out with them he more of a loner now and not so socialble...for a while I would call his name and he would ignore me and most other people... now I feel like he is ignoring me only and dosent like me anymore-he told my friend that he does still a little- but everytime I come around he leaves-from the clues whats going on with kenny help help help(ps he dosent leave when my friend lisa comes around just other people..could he like her and how do i start talking to him again)????
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wow that is very complicate!!! Anyway you should ask him if he is mad at you because of the whole his friends dont hangout with him anymore. Maybe he thinks it was your fault. And if he does then say your sorry and didnt want any of that to happen. Or ask your friend lisa to ask him if he's made at you. Then try and make things right
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