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I am a 32 year old wife and mother of 2. I have been married for 10 years and with my husband for 16 years total (since high school). My husband and I have always had a good relationship for the most part but has always lacked communication, affection and support from his side. I know I'm not perfect but always showed I loved him and tried to communicate with him. Over the past 2 years I have endured a lot of stress in my life. He has not been there for me. I ended up turning to another man approximately 14 months ago. We became intimate and fell in love. Problem is he is married as well and is 15 years older then me. For about 6 months we have vowed we would be together. I separated from my husband. He told me he would do the same with his wife because life is too short and he wanted to be happy. However, recently his wife found out about our affair. Now his 17 and 20 year old daughters know about it. They have told him if he ever talks to me again they will never have anything to do with him. This made him panic and he has since left me. He doesn't think his girls will ever forgive him if he doesn't stay with their mother. I have fallen apart. I love him so much but don't know how to get him back. Or if it's possible for his girls to be in his life again if he chose to be happy with me. Now I'm not sure what to do. Do I continue on and be separated from my husband? It's so scary to be on my own and as a single mother. My husband is a good person and a great father. However, I'm not attracted to him at all or feel I love him. Will I ever get over the man I cheated with? If I do is there a chance I can find the love with my husband again? Or do I start fresh. I'm so confused, heartbroken, and lost. I'm not sure where to turn or what to do. More then anything I want to be with the person I fell in love with a year ago. I thought he was everything I could ever want. But has in turn hurt me so bad, but he has been put into a bad situation. Where do I go from here? (link)
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Your married. You said I do take your vow. His daughters will forgive him. But what about your kids? That or your better off alone. Because your poor husband stuck by you and your kids probably work. You need to be honest.
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I m failed in ny school preliminary exams and I m in std 10 if my parents will they will beat me a lot and they will be worried a lot and I have decided to suicide ....
is it right ... (link)
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NO!
NOT OK.
Get help turn in your parents make good with your life.
Get help hun
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Please my girlfriend is a virgin and is 19 years old.I wanted to have sex with her but she keep on telling me that she will not do it until we got married.How should I convince her to have sex with me (link)
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Don't pressure her.
Wait if you truly loves her.
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Thanks for helping… I am a 21 year old Female. I met a guy in the Army online almost a year ago. We have met before; however majority of our relationship has been long distance. He is in Hawaii and I am in Florida. He has 3 more years in his contract and he hopes to reenlist.
My dilemma is that I want to move to Hawaii and be with him and hopefully get married one day. WHAT IS STOPPING ME? 1. I just got accepted to a master’s program to become a teacher. Long story short, we stopped communicating for a while and I tried to move on with my life. The program is going to take about 2 years to complete 2. Hawaii is so far and I've never moved so far from my support system/family. 3. I'm scared, and honestly couldn't see myself making such a huge leap.
However, I love this guy. I’m young and I feel like these should be my happiest years. Even though I am about to accomplish a huge goal in my life (graduating with my bachelor's in Psychology) I’m still not happy. I feel alone and empty, and simply by talking to him I feel like I mean something that I’m important. Being a psych major, I know that all of our feelings and action derive from somewhere.
I don’t want it to seem like I need a guy to give my life meaning. I have goals and dreams of my own. I want to work in education so eventually I plan to get me doctorates. I just feel like life is too short to continue doing the same thing when I’m not happy. He wants me to come to Hawaii, but he also wants me to do what’s best for me. Which would be staying in Florida to get my master’s.
My ideal course of action: Graduate in May. Find a job in Florida and work, so I can save money. Also, so I can gain experience, so when I move to Hawaii finding a job would be less difficult. Before this year is over I move to Hawaii, work, and continue my education. I want to spend my life with him, so marriage will fit in somewhere.
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Get education first! If he really loves you he'll stick with you through education.
personally
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Hello.
I am a 27 year old mother to a 5 year old boy, a 3 year old girl and a 1 year old girl. My entire life I have always wanted a family. I can't remember a time when I wasn't excited to have babies of my own. I was the kid who babysat for free because I just enjoyed being around babies and kids so much.
I also enjoyed babysitting because it got me out of my house. I had a pretty rough childhood filled with a lot of emotional abuse. So any reason to get away and to have a moment of unconditional love with a sweet baby AND get paid was like, majorly awesome!
Growing up I always just assumed I'd be a great mother. I just knew that I would never treat my kids the way I was treated; I swore I would never forget how it felt to be an oppressed kid.
Fast forward to 1 and 1/2 failed relationships and 3 kids later, I have turned into this miserable wretch of a mother. I am horrible to my kids, more often than not I hate my significant other and I totally take it out on the kids. Every night I feel so much guilt and disgust with myself and I swear that I will Di better the next day... Then the next day comes and things haven't changed a bit.
I am so ready to give up, and even though I know everyone would probably be better off without me, I just can't bring myself to let them go. I know I love my babies, and I know that I am blessed to have three healthy, beautiful, smart and just over all wonderful kids, but I also know that my inability to get my emotions in check is just fucking them up. I want so badly for them to have a great childhood, and to grow up to be happy, successful and respectful adults... But I'm doing such a terrible job. I'm basically repeating a shitty cycle and I feel powerless to stop it.
Everything I read about emotional abuse is geared towards how to help a child deal with an emotijnally abusive parent.
Well I am an emotionally abusive parents trying to find a way to deal with myslef. I have no insurance, no money, the state keeps giving me the run around every time I try to apply for Medicaid, which is the only way I will be able to get the professional help I so obviously need.
I'm looking for some advice on how to deal with my situation. Maybe some advice on how to get a freaking grip. I feel like I am going crazy.
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You need to get Professional help.
Right AWAY!
I was the same way lots of help. Helped me.
You need to talk to your spouse. Tell him how you truly feel.
Your kids are your life time.
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Hey guy's got a serious question here. I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 and a half years we are expecting a baby girl in march. I am not ready for this type of commitment and would like to not piss away my twenties. Should I stick it out with her or break it off? it gets hard turning down girls and not being able to do the things I want. I will be there for the baby if we do break up though. What do you guys think? (link)
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You should be honest with your partner.
Baby comes first. Your daughter.
If you leave another man can fill in the daddy spot.
BE careful.
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