ask NightLight



read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators




Member Since: August 4, 2007
Answers: 57
Last Update: January 29, 2008
Visitors: 5134

Main Categories:
Pets
Mental health
Love Life
View All

Okay so, Valentines Day is coming soon and I need some ideas on what to get my boyfriend. I've been dating him for eight months, and hes hard to shop for. I want something thoughtful so, I dont want to get him a gift card.
So if you have any ideas please help me out :)
That would be great (link)
Ah Valentines Day, the day of love unless of course your stuck in a rut. What to get your boyfriend? It depends on what type of guy he is. I won't say I'm 100% right because well, I've never met him. All I can offer right now is what I got my boyfriend our first V-day. I'm making him a scrapbook with pictures of me a him he thought it was adorable.


ok i have two questions
i was wondering if ghosts are real.
please provide me with the correct answer, im getting so many different ones.
and the second one is that show 'most haunted' real?
explain them both please because im really confused (link)
Ghosts are something out of this world it will be hard for you to find an answer on here. There have been so many encounters with those beyond the grave. But i think that they are real to some people and to others they just don't exist


14/f

okay, so far... i hate advanced English, lol. i have the most hardest teacher, it's really hard for me to keep up with the work. right now, we're on winter break, but ill be ending next Monday. and I'm supposed to be done reading "A Tale of Two Cities" By Charles Dickens. there's about 390 pages in that book, and right now, i'm on page.. 97. Everybody that's in my class is ahead of me.. right now they're on "Book Three" and I'm on "Book Two" it's really hard for me to concentrate on the book... i mean i have no idea what's going on in it.. i hear about this one character.. and then the next chapter is about a different character. so i get confused, so I'm like "wait, what? who's the main character? who's this & that?" and not just that... i also tend to almost fall asleep on the book. have you ever had that feeling when you're reading something and all the sudden you can't concentrate, and music is playing in your head..? that happens to me alot.. and i try soooo hard to focus on the book. I also have a project due next Wednesday on the book. and i have to choreograph a dance with my friend for my exam also.

i'm not very good on schedules it's hard for me to keep up with them.. is there a way where i can be able to focus on the book, and finish it on time? also to help me stay awake while reading it? (link)
Maybe you wanna get a tutor or go to regular engllish. Sorry but that's all I got


15/f

i'm not sure if i'm a good kisser or not. i mean, i've made outtt with alot of guys. but i wasn't fully there, a little drunk to be honest, and so were they. that was middle school. yeah i know that was bad, i'm not like that anymore. anyways, i know, i'm getting close to having some serious relationships now that i'm in highschool. and i dont wanna like go to kiss them, and tottaly suck. do you think since i've had a ton of experience before, even though i dont really remember what i did, i'll still be good?

+ how do i get rid of the bad reputation i had in middle school? i mean im not like that at alllllllll anymore. like i learned how to have a good time without it, and i'm not just, that person amyore. all these weird people always come up to me, or IM me, and be like, oh yeah i heard your like the life of the party at parties, how much beer can you bring? and ahh. yeah no. i want that to stop. what can i do? (link)
Go pick up 17 maganizine like right now it has article on kissing perfectly and it really helps even the worst kissers so if you aren't sure check out the article. It might be gone but its on Rihana on the cover.

Ignore them and they'll go away it works trust me


14/f

obviously my eyesight has gotten worse. i haven't changed my glasses since i was in seventh grade, because i had an eye exam and ear exam during school.. and they said my glasses still worked. but i knew my eyesight got worse during 8th grade... but we didn't have the exam that time. i told my dad that i needed new glasses and he's the type of person who doesn't like to spend money and such. he says "why? your glasses are good enough.. it's alot of money to get you a new one.. did the nurse say you needed a new one?" and etc. right now, i can't even see what the overhead says, and i ask the person next to me. contacts would be nice too.. and it's also hard for me to focus on something with my eyes.. i'm not sure... help?! (link)
You need to tell your dad you can't see not that you need new glasses because he will think you want them not need them. Tell him specifically your problems and if he won't get you glasses thats a problem tell your teacher you can't see and she/he will probably tell your dad.


do you think birds ever get bored in their cage with the same old toys and other birds? (link)
No. But they do get tired of the toys being in the same place so mix it up once every 1-2 weeks and that will keep them happy (I have a parrot)


my friend keeps on telling me about how her "down there" smells.. and i dont know what to say.. how do you even cure that!? (link)
Amazing April is wrong if it yellow or green and smells fishy its bacterial vaginosis. It its gray and smells really bad its something else that she still needs to see a doctor. Yeast infection is white and curdly April do your research before answering a question like this.


I always like to act and dress up like a little kid sometimes (I'm 16!) and sometimes I have this urge to scream or shout I HAVE DOWN SYNDROME =] when I'm outside.

But i was just wondering if it will be offensive? Because I think down syndrom is a mental disability( or correct me if I'm wrong) so it will be offensive to many people? (link)
That would be extremely offensive to someone with downs sydrome who may hear. I'm bipolar and it makes me feel uncomfortable and hurt when people joke around about the condition. It also makes friends or family members of people with downs syndrome angry.

PS Im not sure if its really a 'mental disability' but it's something along those lines


My parents are forcing me to write a letter to one of my cousins that I never met that's about 18 and I'm fine with it but there's nothing to write.

Any ideas or what you would write? (link)
Hey my name is ____, i know we've never really met but we're family so I figured I'd write to you. Do you like to ______.

Something along those lines is appropriate for the situation


Well i used to be friends with the popular group, but i drifted away. We are still friendly, but not real friends. Well the group i joined had really nice and honest people, well, i thought. My mom never liked them. She thought that they would ditch me in a second, and they were sluts. Well that was 2 years ago, and one person, Hilary moved away, and she was bffls with Jess. Well Jess and i were amazingly close, until Hilary came to visit. Then Jess got weird, and disappeared when we were supposed to go out. She was out with Hilary every night this week, and i was home alone because i was supposed to hang out with them and they kept ditching me. What do i do? I cant leave this group now! I mean im in middle school, they are all i have!!! And i cant keep on getting ditched. THanks in advance
13/female/left out (link)
It sounds like they aren't really good friends. I'd talk to Jess about how you feel if she doesn't care while it will hurt you may have to go off on your own you will find new friends who care about you the way you deserve.Good Luck!


14/f
my boydfriends sister wants me & her to like bond tomorrow.(like go to the mall shopping)

But 2 of her friends are going with us.
i kinda dont like hanging out with them.

but i do want to hang out with his sister because she seems really cool.& i want to hang out with her more.

theyre all really skinny and i know this sounds wierd but i feel like im just going to break them whenever im near them.

should i cancel with her and tell her something came up? but then id have to tell my boyfriend. or should i go and just try to have a good time?

Thanks in advance. (link)
Hey go and have a good timeI know I'd go with a friend even if she was bringing thousands of people I don't like. And about feeling like breaking them we all have those weird feelings that make no sense (when im near an ax a feel like its gonna slice right through my arm lol)


We thought our female dog was spayed. She is 10 years old, we've had her 2 years. We caught her and a male dog, he was stuck inside her, doing the deed. Male dog now won't go away. Is it possible she's in heat even though we've never noticed this in 2 years? If so is it dangerous at her age to possibly be pregnant? (link)
If she's spayed there is no way she can get pregnant it's possible it was a young male they are well lets just say mine tried to breed a wheelbarrow.


I like this guy, and I know he likes me back. Like I know. And I want him to ask me out, but I don't know if he will, for two reasons:
Becuase he doesn't want a relationship, and he might not wanna date me, especially since we already hook up on weekends, so he already gets some.
I REALLY want to date him though, so is there any way I can get him to ask me out? (I don't wanna ask HIM out, that would be wierd...)
15/f (link)
Why won't you ask him out? I know you say it's weird but actually when a girl asks a guy it show shes got guts. Most people assum ethe guy is supposed to ask so it takes a lot of nerve for the girl to do it and guys like that.


I'm almost 16/f
I'm not trying to seek attention with this, I'm actually instead trying to not GET any attention...But I think I have a serious mental problem. It could be a variety of things...bipolarity, borderline, depression...etc. I'm always really sad. I always have these sick, low, depressive (if thats a word) suicidal thoughts whenever the SMALLEST things occur! I also think of myself as a masochist, as I sometimes enjoy inflicting pain onto myself ( I cut myself ) and sometimes others (I know. It's pretty bad) I just don't know what to do. My parents say I'm normal. I know I'm not.

What can I do? (link)
Alright you need help because you are cutting yourself. Lots of unmedicated people with mental illnesses commit suicide. If your parents won't help you you need ot find someone who will. As someone living with a mental illness myself i know you need help.


Hey, Ik this is long, but please, help...
Ok, I'm a 16-year-old sophmore. I really like this guy that's a freshmen. We'll call him J. I just started liking him not too long ago. Because @ our church group, we sometimes sit by each other and flirt... and at the end we stand up, and hold hands, and pray 2gether. Everytime we hold hands, he holds mine really tight. He squeezes it and pulls me closer to him... That's how I started likign him. Ok, now the real problem...The only 4 people I ended up telling where my bffs. However, someone else found out, and texts his buddies, and now the whole school knows. Everyone basically found out Thursday and Friday night! (including J) Everyone found out while I was cheering Thursday night @ the girl's game and Friday while I was cheering @ the boys game. (for basketball). At halftime of the boys game, I realized that everyone finally new. As, I looked up in the stands looking for 1 of my friends, I found J, and he just smiled and nodded towards me and I couldnt help but smile and say "hi". But, now, I don't know what to do. I dont know if he likes me or what... I don't know what to do... Especially since on Monday everyone will be bothering me about it...all day! Please, some1 help me ASAP!! Before Monday would be great! Thanks so much in advance! (link)
If you like him you should have told him yourself. Now that he knows continue life as normal. Ignore all the people. Find out who told because you probably don't want to trust them anymore.


I just got a persian cat(cleopatra is her name:) )

She's preganat and due in 3 weeks time.I just want to know

How do i prepare a place for her to deliver the kittens? how do i let her know the place?

I noticed she's really playful. what kind of games could i play with her?

How do i train her to get close to me?

(link)
Make a boxed in area that she can get iin out but the kittens won't. For the three weeks put her food and water in the area and her litter box about three feet away from the area. Make sure you have some milk replacer in case she has nursing issues and a small bottle. A puppy scale is also good for keeping track of the kittens growth. As for your cats playfulness be careful to much action could make her have the kittens early so try to keep her calm. When your watching tv or something Let her sit on your lap and pet her or scratch her ears.


I was wondering, can dogs feel your emotions? I know it's probably a stupid question but the other day, I yelled at my puppy for pooping in the house & gave him a little spanky. He ran off but couple minutes later, I got bad news about my friend and I started crying and even though he knew I was mad at him, he came by me and started licking me and snuggling by me. So, can dogs feel your emotions? (link)
Yes, they can they pick up emotions of the ones they love. When they do something bad and they know it they are ashamed but when your sad they will always be there for you. It is because they have strong connections with you that they have learned to recognize how you feel.


My dogs are small and I'm worried about the cold weather. Are they okay out there? I mean I went outside around 3am and it was freezing! I already have dog houses with their own heating pads, should that be enough? They aren't allowed inside at night. (link)
No, not at all they have to come inside unless you ccan find a way to keep them locked in their dog houses all night with no cold getting in.


My dog went to the vet a few days ago and my dad came back saying that my dog (golden retriever) is too fat. we're giving her less food... but the thing is that i'm scared. What if she is really really hungry? I don't want her to starve. Another thing is, its winter and I don't know what to do for her to lose some weight. I know running is a good way for dogs to lose weight, and swimming.. but its super cold! I usually play tug-of-war in the house with her, and like chase her around trying to get her, which by the way is really fun, but my mom complains that she sheds too much hair and how my mom always has to clean after her. HELP (link)
I read an article about an extremely obese dog who lost alot of wait on Science Diet. She may act like she is starving but she is being dramatic to get you to feed her more. As long as you are giving her the proper amount of food for her size (look it up). Don't worry about starvation.

FOR THE SHEDDING:
1. Brush the dog thoroughly
2. Wash the dog and get down to the roots
3. Do not towel dry, use a blowdryer (It will be messy do it a smsll enclosed room)
4. Brush the dog again

Tihs will get most of your dog's hair out the room you you blow dry her in will be messy but it is better than random clumps throughout the house.


I have had a cat, Pumpkin for about 4 years. I am the only person he likes, and he still rarely lets me hold him. We had already had a Shih-tzu that the cat liked, even though the dog just ignored the cat. Last year, my shih-tzu died. We got an Irish Setter puppy, Shea over the summer and Pumpkin was very scared (Shea didnt even chase him. And Pumpkin running away now causes Shea to chase him). The problem is, its been about 5 months and Pumpkin is still very scared of Shea. Pumpkin stays in the basement or upstairs or outside untill he knows Shea is in his crate or outside. Whenever I try to get them to meet, Pumpkin scratches me and runs in the basement. I need Pumpkin to stop being so scared and stop running away so Shea won't chase him. What should I do? (link)
Put Shea in a metal barred crate about a foot away from another crate to put Pumpkin in. Then Pumpkin can't run so Shea will not chase her. Put in a room that you can close off from the rest of the house so they both get some free time. Good Luck!




read advice get advice make favorite read feedback advicenators

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop
eXTReMe Tracker