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Q: So I'm still a virgin and it's kind of a big deal.

So, out of curiosity I was wondering when did you lose your virginity (what age you were) and how did it happen?

Give details please, not on the actual sex but on how it happened. For example, don't just say 'with my first boyfriend' or 'at a house party', say exactly how it happened.

And if you're still a virgin, would you please say so too and say your age and how you feel about losing your virginity? For example, do you think you're ready to? Do you want to? Why do you want to or why do you want to wait? Do you feel pressured?

Thanks, x

I was exceptionally past the typical age of losing it. I was still in college and was waiting because I was exceptionally picky with guys I kissed little lone a guy I lost it to. I met this musician - he was 8 years older than me. Absolutely gorgeous. I was the only girl in my group of friends who wasn't a virgin and I did feel the pressure. Well, the musician guy and I started seeing each other for a few months...and then one night it happened. It was painful, I didnt get off, and I thought how stupid I was to do it with someone I didnt even love. Right when it was over...his bedroom window opened and a crazy girl tried to come in his room yelling and screaming and trying to grab my leg...Turns out it was his ex...Who he was still seeing plus 3 other girls. I was so upset that I lost it to someone like him. Moral of the story: Don't lose it just to lose it. You will always remember your first, make it something special - and I promise you won't regret it like I did.

Q: when my boyfriend is fingering me ill climax...then he'll keep going and it kinda hurts...i guess it gets really sensitive...is this normal? or is there a way to stop it?

Your Clitoris is just really extra sensitive when you orgasm. It's completely normal. Just a tip: Casually take your hand on top of his when he keeps on doing it and move your hand to his area -it may give him the notion that you want to please him and letting him know that's he's done his job.

Q: im a girl. obv. ok so ive nver been fingered but i plan on it soon. so i have no clue what happens? my bf says my pants stay on so we can be safe but life how would i sit or lay or stand? helppp

Sweetie, It would be a little difficult for fingering to happen while your pants are still on. The act of fingering is when your boyfriend inserts a finger or two in your vagina and makes an in and out motion or a motion that resembles telling someone to "Come here" The only way you can experiment with pants still on is when he has a hard on and grinds up against you...this is called Dry humping. Don't rush anything.

Q: ok this is kinda random but im a girl and im wondering when your making out and your boyfriend is feeling you up(breasts) what are you suppose to do? keep kissing or what? where do your hands go???

It all depends...don't think. Just have fun with it. Run your fingers thru his hair sometimes slightly tug on it...Make your kissing more passionate and intense...run your fingers along his back. Just go with the flow. There really is no wrong way to go.

Q: so i'm a girl and when my boyfriend fingers me i orgasm pretty fast haha it doesn't take me long. i was just wondering if guys think thats a good thing or a bad thing?

A lot of girls/women are different when it comes to whether they get off or not. Personally, I think you should feel pretty happy that you orgasm at all. Many women go thru their whole lives and never no the feeling of an orgasm. Your boyfriend obviously knows where your right spot is (G spot) Don't be embarrassed for orgasming so soon...Give yourself a high five for finding a guy who knows what he's doing. :) Hope that helps.

Q: im 18yo and my penis is about 5 3/4 inches and about 4 inces in girth, is that enough to please a girl?

Every guy I've ever spoke with is always worried about their size...Is it too skinny? Is it big enough? Bla bla bla. Wanna know a secret that most every girl would agree with? It's not all about the size - it's how you use it. Plain and simple. Hope that helps.

Q: I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend.I don't think I'm that bad looking.I'm about 5'5 ,brown hair,kinda tan,hazel eyes,etc.you know,..average looking.For some reason,guys begin to talk to me and then after a few weeks ,they just either hate me or stop talking to me completely.It's happend with every guy i've ever talked to.One guy used me to hookup for three years,he now has a girlfriend and won't even accept my friend request on facebook,one guy told me he only sees me as a friend (after "talking talking" for like 3 monthes) the next guy told me i'm annoying with my friends and that im a slut (even though i didnt even kiss him),the next guy is a complete nerd and we kissed ONE time and then he hasn't talked to me since and we talked for a few weeks before that and he tries to get all my friends now?I don't know what to do.The most recent one was the nerd kid ,and I'm WAYYYY out of his league and i actually really liked him and i felt i could be myself around him and then he just stopped talking to me and tries talking to really pretty girls ,thinking he can hookup with them and not saying a word to me.I think he built a confidence wall after I kissed him the other night,since he hasnt kissed anyone since 8th grade! There's another guy who is talking to me,but I don't even know if I should give it a shot because im sick of just getting let down ! why is this happening to only me! all of my friends have boyfriends !

Let me tell you something - I was in your shoes when I was 16. Every single one of my friends had a boyfriend and I didn't. In fact I didn't have a serious boyfriend til I was 18. It sucked at the time. But, you're 16. You have plenty of time to get serious with a boyfriend. And the ones you mentioned in your question don't even sound worthy of you. Just enjoy being young - and when you least expect it love will find you. Believe me, that's when it happens - when you're not looking for it. Don't settle for anything less than the best for you. Because I assure you, most of your friends boyfriends are probably not that great in the first place. Don't seek a boyfriend just to have one - that's never the good road to take, because you'll end up with someone that isn't that great and then you'll still be unhappy. Good luck! :)

Q: So here's the thing, i really liked this kid,we'll call him, oh i don't know- Carl. The first time i saw Carl was this year, in my history class. He looked at me and i got that feeling he thought i was cute(you know that instant connection thing? yeah,well, we had it :P). It was funny because when he had to read aloud, he stumbled over his words XD. Anyways, i got to know him later on through a friend and we became sort of close. He's also in my Math class and moved next to me, then gave me his number.I texted him and he seemed really interested.. until (since i'm a weirdo XD)i started to be myself,pretty much :P.(Yet- he said i was fun to talk to?)I mean, i get the impression that the real reason he stopped talking to me isn't because of me though,he's going through a really tough time right now because his dad's really sick.So he pushed me away.

First of all never stop being yourself for a guy -the good ones will like you for who you are despite how "out there" you may be. :) Second, even with a silly flick - a guy who takes the time to do something as silly as that - likes you. If he didn't he would have stayed in the back of the line with the others. Guys are like from the age of 14 - 33 and on...It's called the kindergarten way : Annoy a girl to let her know you like her.

Next time he looks over at you - casually look over. Don't dart your head fast in his direction. Give him a little smile and take notice if he turns away fast - if he does...it's pretty clear that he has a little crush on you.

Hope this helps a little. :)

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I'm just your average 22 year old woman who's no princess but has kissed a few frogs. I've been with quite a few jerks, cried a few tears over them, and yet still have hope in the romance department. I constantly give advice to my friends - both male and female in the dating and romance world. Sex, breakups, do and don'ts, dating, getting over someone, and why heels make a woman 10's more attractive...I don't sugar my answers for my friends - so you won't be any different. I may not be Doctor Love - but I sure have had my experience. Don't hesitate...just ask. :)