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Gender: Female
Location: the UK
Occupation: high school disaster
Age: 14
Member Since: September 30, 2006
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Last Update: February 4, 2007
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5'3, 120 pounds
how can i get my inner thys, not as discusting. i hate the way i look, espically when i sit next to my best guy friends who wear tight jeans and i have jeans on too (my thys are like bluging out). i just want to be skinnyer all over. i know you work out, but what i can do daily to make the weigh just gone, mostly on my thys (link)
i'm like you except my fat is around the stomach not the legs.

try jogging for half an hour a day, 5 times a week!


I have really noticeable blackish upperlip hair because i have hormone problems with my ovaries. Its not bad to the point where it looks like a mustache. I just dont like seeing it and knowing its there. For months I used facial hair bleaching kit, but then I felt it looked more noticeable. So I bought a facial hair WAXING kit. A week later my hair grew back! I think the wax kit really doesn't work.. but i want to get it professionally done. How long will the professional waxing last for? I heard 8 weeks. I don't care if its longer than a month, but i don't want to have to go out so often for it tho, like every 2 weeks. Or do you think I should just keep bleaching it? Thanks in adviceeeeeeeeee. (link)
don't worry. i have the same problem as you. i get my upper lip lasered and that is expensive. it lasts about 10 years. i think it takes 6 months to get rid of it if you havn't touche it but if you have then it takes around 8 months!

laser stings a little for about half a second.

hope i helped


hey, well ive recently feel in love with these diamond chanel earrings.

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000F8CMIK.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg

i was wondering where i could get them. i am kind of wealthy, so money isnt a problem. i DO NOT want the fake ones. ONLY the real ones. links would be so helpful (link)
London. New York. Milan. Paris. go to a fashion capital near you. you should be able to find them!

good luck


What exactly is push to talk? (link)
type it in on google.com


My face gets so dry in the winter and no matter what I do, it doesn't stop. I put cocoa butter on my face at night and in the morning and it hardly does anything. Why does my face get so dry in the winter and what can I do to help it? (link)
so i'm not the only one!!

go to a shop where you can buy products and ask the people who work there.

your skin might be sensitive to weather changes


I got my blood pressure results from this machine but before I could check the normal numbers I had to go home. These are my results:

Systolic= 107
Diastolic= 060
Pulse= 093

Can someone tell me what systolic and diastolic means and give me the normal numbers for each of those 3 so I can see if my results are normal or not? thanks in advance (link)
ask your doctor. she/he will be the best at being able to tell you what that means


I'm sick of being the youngest in the family. I get picked on by my older siblings (well, only my brother, really) and I never get any respect, nor do I get taken seriously. I'm only 15, but my siblings are old enough to drink, so they can go to bars together and all of that, while I'm the one left out. And if I do hang out with them, I always feel out of place. And usually, my brother just makes fun of me (he says he's joking, but it still hurts) whenever I do one little thing wrong. He even said once when he saw me on Advicenators, "You can't give advice, you're only 15!" or something like that. It sucks feeling like an outcast in your own family. What can I do? (link)
Go out with your friends all the time. ignore your family. if they don't hang around with you then don't hang around with them!!

it may sound stupid but it will make them feel that something is wrong!


I'm going to be 17 in a couple of months.-yet, I've never had a boyfriend, kiss, etc. this is DEPRESSING. and i don't mean to sound conceited..but why are there ..*not as pretty* girls that get alllll the guys?! whhy? i mean, this totally hurts my self esteem-I have like NONE. and i keep it all boiled up inside of me because i don't know who to tell it to because it's embaressing..:(

my other question--well, i like this guy..and it's weird because even when i'm not looking, i can sense when he's near me..and so i turn around. isn't that SO weird? and it's soo weird how like he stands out of everyone..like i can spot him in a crowd? why is that? sorry if my questions are retarded. :\ (link)
i'm 14 and have NEVER dated. i want to wait for the right person. and i don't want to get stressed. don't try to date just to get your first kiss. your first kiss will be just like an ordinary kiss then!


good luck


i have hair on my arms. about a year ago i started to shave them, but i only did about twice cause my friend told me that it makes the hair darker and stronger.
i haven't shaved them since.
but i have noticed that they are black now, and i don't want to shave them cause of what my friend said.
what else could i do? wax? or something else?
thanks =D (link)
try getting them lasered. it is long term reduction and it makes the hairs lighter in colour and thinner. it may sting for a few seconds but that is it. it costs a bit of money but trust me, it is worth it


I believe I am starting to go anerexic. I've lost 10 pounds in one week. I can't eat and everytime I do I get sick. I'm trying so hard to eat. I'm never hungry or craving anything. What should I do? Please, I haven't told anyone and I'm scared. (link)
tell someone. if you don't tell someone everyting couls get out of hand and losing more then 6ibs in one week is unhealthy. go to a doctor or tell a friend!

don't hide it before it is too late or you will be diagnosed with severe anorexia


My husband has woke up the last two nights wet from urination. He is embarrassed and worried. I am having trouble finding anything helpful. What could be causing something like this to happen? (link)
he is worried


Okay. I'm 14 year old female and I chinese. Normally, chinese aren't suppose to have curly hair and suppose to have fine hair, but I don't. But that's not the question.
I have curly, frizzy hair and I want to tame it down, so it isn't so frizzy.
What are some good products that can kinda make it less frizzy. What can I do to make it let frizzy.

-Thanks (link)
try john freda or charles worthington and use serum


hi, well 14 and i have to much to do if you get me. i have soo much homework because im doing my GCSE's now and even my teachers are saying that The UK is one of the countries that has the most coursework to do, and they then say that they understand the pressure. i mean if they understand why give us so much. i have to look after my pet because no-one else does, i practice 2 instruments, 1 of which i have lessons for. on top of all that i need a darn social life aswell, and i just dont have time to fit ALL of it in. i usually find my self doing huge essays the day before they are in, and my teachers keep telling us how these two years are the most important ever of your compulsory education! any advice? thanks (link)
ha ha

well you won't have GCSE maths coursework now and you won't have coursework for homework either so i don't know what you are talking about!!!!!!!!
the government has changed it. you do coursework at school now and not at home. i'm only doing my KS3 this year and well i'm dead already.

30 hours of school a week
14 hours of homework a week
5 hours of private tutoring a week
1 hours of coursework a week
3 hours of extra revision a week and i'm only in year 9.

so i think i've got more pressure than you.

i am doing 3 hours of exercise a week
i have to clean my bedroom every week
i need to go up two sets in science in 4 months
i have to do my GCSE options in a month



wow. 53 hours of blood sweat and tears a week

when i go into my GCSE's i will have a

science tutor(have one right now)
maths tutor(have one)
english tutor(have one)
Spanish tutor
Arabic tutor
my mum wants me to take Latin in GCSE's but my school don't do it

and i might move school cos i hate the way i am being taught in my school right now!

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/5385556.stm

this guy wants to make school hours longer so don't think it is bad right now!!!


okay in middle school i kind of got ad efun of, but i mean, i wasnt a loser or anything, actually people starting to hate me bc i was a bitch, im kinda fat (178 pounds) but i dont look that fat,and im in hs now, and i want to like guys but im scared to bc i think people will make fun of the guy if we end up going out or seomthing andim scared to like have fun bc im worred someine will be like, your fat or something :( (link)
no offence but you need to lose some weight. try 20 minutes of yoga and pilates and 20 minutes of light running and 10 minutes of stretching a day and 10 minutes dancing or aerobics a day on you will gradually lose weight and then feel more comfortable around boys


any help?

I hate the way my parents try to control my life. I hate the way they get what they want. (they dont want me to see him). I was hoping to see him this weekend. cause it would help me to get through the week. but they dont realize that. they dont realize that they are the reason for all of this. they dont realize what they've done to their baby girl. they've screwed up her life. screwed up my life. i know that sitting here thinking about all of this isnt making the situation better. it's making it worse. making me angry and depressed. seeing him this weekend would have helped me. helped me get over everything and know that he is truly there for me. cause that's what i really need right now. They dont realize that they arent enough. that i need love from outside the family. they dont realize that he provides that for me. they tell me that i dont know him. but i do. i know him enough to know that he would never hurt me. that he loves me. they argue with me about him. "we want the best for you". if they wanted the best, then they would leave me the hell alone and let me make my own decisions. and let me fail miserably. and then pick myself back up. That's what happened with sage. but they dont know about that. they'll never know everything. unless they read my inner thoughts like a book. a never ending book. i wish i was less like them. i dont hate them, i just hate the way they are raising me. they wont let me see my own goddamn boyfriend. and that pisses me off. i cant help but wonder what thats going to do to our relationship. i love him. and i cant imagine life without him. i would love to make him my everything, but sadly, i cant. sage took part of me when he left and mom and dad are preventing me from giving him the rest of me. i shouldnt be sitting here alone right now. i should be with him at this moment. but they prevented that. cause they dont want me to be with him physically. if they knew that we were going out, they would more than likely try to tear us apart. which is why i havent told them yet. they're smart. they'll figure it out when im ready for them to figure it out. i wanted to see him. i wanted to go be with him at the movies tonight. but i dont want them to hate him from the start. my parents are hard to please. god knows that. i swear to god they are going to be the death of me. literally. but if it wasnt for him, i wouldnt be here. i said that about sage, but this is different. cause sage never loved me. he never cared about me. and probably never will. he wansnt there for me. emotionally, or physically. and i hate him for that. i hate him for playing with my emotions. but my hate for him wont change anything about him. he doesnt care. and never will.

nick,
im sorry. sorry for everything. sorry for being so emotional all the time. sorry for not being able to be there for you physically. and at times, emotionally. im sorry that sage took part of me with him and therefore cant give you my everything. im sorry that when you walked into my life, it was in pieces. in ruins. im sorry for my parents not letting us be together physically. next weekend. for sure. if i have to sneak out of the house to see you, then so be it. im going to be with you wether they like it or not. youre my last hope. cause when i started seeing the signs of my relationship with sage ending, i know it was going to be the end of me. until you walked in. it was like the calmness in the middle of the storm. i reallly hope that we can make this last. cause i need it so badly. i love you. xoxo ♥

Sincerely Yours.


thats what i wrote. can anyone help me? cause i feel like dying. i cant take it anymore! (link)
i don't wanna offend you or anything but you are way too weak. love is too powerful for you.

but what ive read tells me that you really love this guy. sit down with you parents and explain to them that you are getting older and that they can't control you or make decisions for you. you are old enough to decide.

i have something similar to you. my parents try to control me as well. ive tried telling them but they hardly listen to me.

good luck and i hope ive helped


I'm 12, 5'3, and weigh 140lbs. I dont really appear fat or anything, but the numbers on the scale dont lie. (well actually its say 120, but my family thinks its wrong. I dunno if its 140 though, but it would be close to that.) Also, I'm black, and my mom said that we have like.. more bones or something? Although that seems like a crappy escuse for just being heavy, though it may be true, hah. I mean, I eat healthy and stuff, always things at home like.. african foods like do-do, spinach, fufu and ocra, rice, pasta (okay, not all african foods, but its not like i eat pizza and icecream every month. we hardly even get to eat that stuff, but i dont mind too much cause im used to it.) And i try to limit porportions.. especially in america where everything is jumbo sized. cereal bowls should be smaller, because i keep on accidentaly putting in like 2 servings, and eating too much sometimes. I also do sports like soccer, basketball, and soon I'll be starting dance, so there will be a lot of physical activity. But will it all work out by losing weight? I'm not gonna do anything drastic, like some people do to get like really thin, but i just want to be like.. more fit, and healthier. I've tried running around my neighborhood.. but any tips to make it more intersting? my friends are busy, I dont have an ipod or cellphone, etc. or.. like other things. what types of stretches do you even need to do anyway? so that i can be more flexible when dance starts again. also, for soccer, my coach said i had potential, because i was like aggressive and stuff, but i just needed to know more about the game. i've been playing for only like 2 years now, so alot of kids are more experienced in that, even if they arent as motivated as me. I mean.. is there a book called 'soccer for dummies' or something?

thanks for the help, and sorry this was soo long, heh.. (link)
i'm 14 5"4 and 140 ibs. go onto google and type in BMI(body mass index)

exercise is good for you but don't overdo it or you will strain your muscles. buy football guides and read them. and drink a lot of water. 1 glass an hour will help you lose weight like hell!

hope i helped


he acts like an ass in front of his friends and says mean things to me that make me feel like shit

but out of school, anywhere when we are alone

he acts like he likes me and stuff
but idk

what do i do? (link)
do the same to him. around friends flirt with him. alone HATE him to bits

or

ignore him


Not sure where to put this exacly but w/e here it goes.


Last year started off as a pretty good year for me. Well my friend "Bob" was the one to start off the crap going on in my life. It started off with him trash talking me outside of school and then it worked it's way into school. I tried talking to him but he had turned into a real jerk. Later it would spread into a lot of other people doing the same stuff to me. I really didn't care to much because it was my last year at the school so I was just gonna deal with it and ignor them.(they hate me because I hate rap.... =/ ) Well After a month of this I got really pissed off and told one kid let's call "Frank" off. It was at the last period of the day so after class he came up behind me and wacked my over the head so I turned around and ounched him a few times then left. Now the physical abuse would start. When i was at my locker "bob" and another kid "george" started pushing me before class. It was last period and at PE. Now the teacher left the class for 30 min so you can just guess what happened. About 6 kids ganged up on me and kicked my ass but because I hit some of them good I almost got suspended and they got nothing. I got 2 weeks of detention and crap and nothing happened to them because the stupid princiapl only asked them + me what happened and she said "more people say you hit them for no reason". Well i put up with more of that until the end of the year. Now at a graduation party "bob" tackled me in the middle of a street for no reason at all and started a fight with me. Well luckily 2 of my friends were at the party also so it was pretty much 6 or 7 on 3. Now I am not a little whimp or anything but I can not take on tons of people. So I am off to H.S. and lucky me I go to the same one as EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THE THOSE IDIOTS. Any idea how I can get these pricks to get off me? (link)
wow. i hate rap but i don't get bullied cos of it. maybe cos i live in the uk.

#1 can you move to a different high school. if you can try then great if not. more tips

#2 try and tell the teachers and prefects and head girl and boy at your new school about this so some people know what is going on.

#3 get into shape. if you look big and strong they may try to stay away from you. this always works: do you know what chavs are cos if you do then great . i think they are called white trash in the US. act all tough and stuff and try to hang around with the popular kids at high school so they can protect you.

#4 listen to this song. 'Gangstas Paradise' by coolio. it is rap but a cool song. sing this song in school and people will think you like rap!

hope i helped


I want to wear my hair naturally and straighten it less because my stylist constantly tells me my hair is beyond damaged.

His suggestions to wearing it naturally were horrible, the products were VERY expensive and I didn't even remotley like the outcome.
My hair is layered, semi-think, past my shoulders, naturally wavy, somewhat frizzy.

Srunching looks horrible due to the thickness of my hair, any other ideas to perserving my waves?
My hair looks great wet, then horrible when it dries. (link)
buy a wet look gel. they are at high street prices and they will make your hair look wet


ok im a very very very mature 13 year old . im HARDCORE emo , and my parents hate me [ like for a fact . they push me and shove me and sware at me and all that shit . they always REMIND ME EVERY SECOND that they hate me and i was a disgrace ] and i recently found out i was ADOPTED ! im like , really devistated . so i wanted to show what their doing to me , and i do that by peircing something . lol .. i have 3 on one ear , 3 on the other + cartiledge . I REALLY REALLY WANT EITHER MY NOSE OR LIP ! but no parent will take me , so me and my friend are doing it on our own ..


does it hurt & how do i do it !? ASAP please !


hanna (link)
your adoptive parents aren't really adoptive parents cos they ain't treating you like they should.

all piercings hurt. toungue ones are annoying, belly hurts, so do nose and lip ones


i once heard piercings actually lead to cancer




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