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Iam a 19 year old female and my mom and I fight all the time and iam sick of it and I know that not all the stuff we fight about is all her fault it's partly my fault to but today she just pissed me off so bad it's not even funny she just really hurt my feelings and this is not the first time she's made comments to me about this subject either. Iam going tell tell you what happened. we was talkin about the new to be president of the united states and i said I wish people wouldn't have elected a muslim for a president and my mom had to go a bring about how i was molested by my daddy into it this is was the comment just becouse his daddy was a muslim dosn't mean aboma was remember your daddy was a child molester that dosn't make you one does it? It just pissed me off and hurt my feelings really bad. I can't help it he molested me and she made it seem like it was my fault for what he did?
what should I do? I want to talk to he about it but i don't know how to go about it the right way without hurting hur feelings and making matters worse than it already is.
I think you need counceling for the molestation. Your mother does too. Your 19, move out if you cant get along.
14/f
I'm sorry this is going to be sort of long.
Sometimes a really...well, sometimes I HATE my best friend. I know that's a really bad thing to say, but that's really how I feel sometimes. She never wants to do the same things I do-like when I say, do you want to come over? She says, flat out, no, which is not only rude, but it's really hurtful, or if I want to go on a walk, I always have to talk her into it, otherwise she says she's "too tired". I can never have fun with her-like if I say, I love you! She starts freaking out on me and calls me a lesbo, so I can never say that to her. And the most annoying thing she does is she ALWAYS cancels on me! Here's what normally happens:
I invite her over for a sleepover 2 weeks before. She says yes, and we get all excited and start planning out our sleepover. I have to bend and negotiate with my parents for it to happen- usually something like double chores, a lot of begging, or etc. So for the two weeks we talk about it and whatever. Then the night of the sleepover, the phone rings, I pick it up, and she's on the other line. Here's what she says: "Hey. Uhm, I can't come." The excuses are normally: 'I'm tired.', 'I don't feel like it.' 'My stomach/head hurts.', 'My parents don't feel good.', 'I haven't seen my mom for two days.', or 'I have too much homework.' Something along those lines. Once it was something totally out of the blue--her dad broke his foot, so apparently she couldn't come over. This really wouldn't bother me, but it's just that it's happened more than once. Actually, WAY more than once. Maybe fifty or so times.
So I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to her about it, but she gets all upset, and she doesn't understand where I'm coming from. I really love my best friend, I've known her since 3rd grade, so I don't want to end our friendship. I really need help! I'm sorry that was so long.
It must be really frustrating but I know how you feel I have experianced friends jut like that. It all depends on one thing, does she do this to only you or everyone else? If its just you then forget about her you deserve a friend that will make you happy and enjoys the same things as you do. If she doesnt seem to go out with anyone then she could have issues of her own. maybe shes depressed usually when people get older they change and they lose interest in things they once loved to do. maybe somethings wrong with her if shes always tired it might not be you its her. My friend would make plans with me all the time then last minute she would cancel and stay home by herself it got me really mad but I realized shes not comfortable with going out anymore
Ive heard you can dye your hair with lemon juice..is this true? does it work? does it look good? how do you do it? i mean do you just squeeze a lemon over your head? Does it work if you have dark hair?? like really dark..
and can you get it out??
It doesnt exactly dye your hair. It just makes it lighter and it kinda highlights your hair. Just squeeze it over your head or whereever you want it.
Im going to the movies with my boyfriend on Friday, all we do is hold hands and a couple times before he put his arm around me. How do I know if he wants to kiss me but is too nervous?
maybe you should make the move. To tell if hes up for it just look him in the eyes and if he looks in ur eyes to then lean forward and go for it.
I have these red bumps all over my legs. They are concentrated on and around my knees and at the tops of my thighs. They're almost like pimples and I've used lots of soaps and cleaners to try to get rid of them, but nothing is working!!! Does anyone knows anything to get rid of these? Whether its a product you buy in the store or some home remedy or w/e... I don't care... Thanks soo much!
Dont worry about it. Its just razor burn i used to get that all the time and then i stopped using shaving cream and i used water and soap .TRY It! it worked for me
im trying to lose a little bit of weight. im wondering, if i start to lose weight, will my boobs get smaller?
Well it al depends, if your family genes are big boobs then most likely u will have big boobs.. dont worry its not a bad thing tons of girls would kill for them.
i have a friend who's father beats daily but she won't get any help and she doesn't want people to worry about her but i'm scared that she's going to really get hurt or even die if she doesn't get help what do i do?
This is a serious matter. Your a friend take things into your own hands it feels good to help. She may still love her father very much even tho he does this to her so make sure you tlak to her about it even more. ASAP get help becasue if it gets worse or severe like you said she could die. Talk to your parent(s) about it and they can call the police. Make sure she is away from her father. Tell her that people will eventually start to feel bad when they hear that she is in teh hospital so straighten things out early!
ok im going out with this kid now but im breaking up with him today...but anyways theres this other guy aaron and he's really nice and sweet and he likes me and i like him and we both know we like eachother but theres one thing one of my good friends likes him and she likes another kid joey too but i didnt tell her i liked aaron because im afraid she'll get mad at me and not talk to me..but i really really like Aaron
What should i do?!?!
thanks in advance ill rate high to anything thats not mean! :)
Thats a toughie :/ especially when your friend is involved with this. Talk to your friend and tell her that you know she likes aaron but you do to and you dont want to go for him becasue nothing is worse than risking a relationship try to figure things out with her. She likes another boy, and if she would rather pick joey instead then go for aaron. If not then i dont think eithe rof you should go for aaron boys will go and boys will come but ur friends will always be their for you and nothing is worse than risking a friendship.
:)* Danielle
We don't have any communication whatsoever with the guy that I have a crush with. Like what I said, Ican't forget him. I don't know if he will be present when we will have our field day in our school. There are visitors welcomed but last year he didn't come. Just some of my classmates. I miss him a lot. My problem is, what will i do? will I try to forget him first so that I won't be hurt when the field day comes and he's not there? or just let it go or think always about him? I don't know anymore. and if I let go. It hurts. Really. I can't stand the pain. But I don't know if I'll continue making a fool of myself. Please help me.
I have been through this so its easy to answer but you have to also understand me when im telling you all this. Well, if you are not in touch with this person anymore than i suggest that you either find a way to talk to him again and tell him how you feel before he finds a girlfriend, that would hurt even more when hes not available. Or if you cant keep in touch then move on with your life guys will come and guys will go but if you stay stuck on the same guy then your life is just awaiting. Find someone else to like im sure their are plenty more out there.
:) *Danielle
i am deeply in love with a girl, im 13m and shes 13f, but the thing is i will never be able to go out with her or even get to see her that much. this is all because i moved away, and when i say moved i mean like far far away. after knowing her for a year and loving her for about half of that time, i can just never get her outta my head or stop thinkin about her. she knows how i feel about her but i only get small chances to evre see her agian. but i personally think shes the one... i have no clue wat to do... and i wont give her up...
If you have her sn then u should ask her to hang out sometime during a vacation. Then you could get together and have fun like old times and how you used to. The only thing is it wouldnt be the same because your so far away from her and it would just be "vacation loving" because you wouldnt be able to see her again. Your only 13 so she couldnt be the one their are tons of other fishes in the see and your to young to settle down now anyways.Keep in touch with her and dont let a first move out of your life but also get to know some other girls and if thats hard then believe me the girls will come to you when your least expecting it.
Please somebody tell me what crunches are and how you do them.
Don't delete cos i really need to know.
I rate 5 every time somebody answers
crunches are when you lay down on ur back then put ur arms behind your head to form two triangles on each side and lift your chin up to the ceiling and you shoulders should be off the ground then go back down and repeat. Dont go fast!
alright i am a 13 year old male and i am friends with this one girl. She already has a boyfriend but he goes to a different skool and she doesn't really get to talk to him. And i like the girl sooo much... What should i do ask her out??
No you shouldnt ask her out. She might think that ur a jerk for doing that because you know she has a boyfriend. Just tlak to her all the time make her feel wanted. you should also flirt a lot and if she flirts back then thats a sign saying she likes being around you. Just wait after that and tell her that you like her. Good luck!
I broke up with my boyfriend because he was slacking off on his school work and getting in trouble. But other than those things, I still really like him. I can't get over him! Today we hung out and had a lot of fun. I think want him back but I'm scared to ask. And what about the reason I broke up with him in the 1st place? Has anyone got any ideas on what I should do?
Thats really not a reason.You could always help him with his work and problems. Just go back out withhim and before you do make some things clear. Tellhim that somethings have to change and if he cant manage school work and a gf then i think he needs to fix it his problems on his own without you braking up with him
when ever i talk to a boy, i always talk to them as a friend. when ever i try to flirt i cant. how can i flirt more. what should i say?
Its not that easy i had a friend with the same problem. MOst of the time you should make eye contact and smile thats the best thing that you coudl do at first. Then if he has a hat or something you should take it off his head and then he will chase you to get it back. Dont have a conversation just kinda fool around like tap him or something and he might do it back.
Ok my bffs birthday is coming soon and its her 13 and i know its a big day for a girl to become a teenager so i was thinking if anyone had any ideas what to do for her birthday or what to get her. She loves acting and she loves horses. And i was thinking a suprise b day or taking her to new york to see a broadway show? anyone any ideas??? thanks i rate.
yes it is a big day for ur bff shes becoming a teen and it would be special for you to give her a day she will remember. If she likes having people around then you should throw her a supprise party and then people would talk about how great it was at school. Or if you want to spend a special day with her then dont tell her where your going but you can bring her to a broadway show either one she wont forget believe me.
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wut are the qualitys that girls like most about guys?
the perfect for me would be:
* makeing me laugh all the time
*sweet and nice
* not a jerk to me in front of his friends
*involved with activities
*cant be cocky and dont tlak about hot hot or good looking you are
* getting good grades
and personaly i like a guy who can take care of himself and has lots of friends
Me and this guy are friends right now and I feel we have a close connection since he always seems to want to talk to me. But he has a girlfriend....so tell me please, how do I get him to like me as more than just a friend OR ask me out? Please help it would be greatly appreciated.
maybe you should tell him how you feel. just make sure his girlfriend doesnt know about this, you should hang out with him more and get a lot of laughs in the convos. you want to make him have a good time when hes with you just dont make him cheat onhis gf becuase you never know if he will do the same to you
how do you know if a girl likes you?
when she is nervous around you or sometimes when shes comfortable she will flirt if you like her flirt back
Okay so tonight for new years eve i was supposed to be going over to my boyfriends house and drinkin and...what not. Then i tried getting my best friend to go with me and she was gonna but then some shit happened and her mom said no so we're PISSED. I love my boyfriend a lot and all but i can't decide on if i wanna go to his place tonight and see him or if i wanna stay here with my mom and spend time with her then see my boyfriend tomorrow or something. If i went to his place i know i'd get drinkin and then come home and my mom would probably notice and be PISSED and id die. What should I do???!!! omg this sux. THANKS PLZ HELP!!!!
your boyfriend should understand if he loves you. if you want to have a fun time and maybe it would be worth getting in trouble then go but if u dont want to get in trouble then dont go.